Mostly Dating

By CarleighSociety & Culture Relationships

Mostly Dating episodes

December 16, 2024Is Debt a Dealbreaker in a Relationship?
Welcome back to Mostly Dating (the new era of Mostly Balanced!). Today we’re talking about exes and the holidays. Should you reach out or are you just lonely? We’ll break down how to decide mindfully.
+ we answer listener questions about:

Keeping your independence in a relationship

Is debt a dealbreaker?

How to talk about money with your partner

How to tell when a relationship isn’t right

How to define the relationship without asking “what are we?”

Are you settling for the bare minimum in relationships?

How to decide what you really want in a relationship

Pros & cons of dating in your 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond

As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠here⁠.
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47 min
November 11, 2024How To Get Clear On Your Values For A Better Dating Life with Michael Tennant
Welcome to Mostly Dating (the new era of Mostly Balanced!). We’re kicking things off with the return of one of our OG favorite guests, Michael Tennant.

Michael is a speaker, entrepreneur, and author. He’s the founder of my favorite conversation deck, Actually Curious, a card game created to build empathy, trust, and connection.

What we talk about:

How Michael created a movement to spread empathy

What are values? & how do we know what ours are?

Signs your values are on autopilot

How to learn someone’s values early on in dating

How knowing your values can help you discover what you’re looking for (& ultimately find it)

How to actually learn from past relationships

What is empathy? & how to look for it on early dates

How to build your own empathy muscle
& more!
👀 check out our first episode with Michael to hear more of his backstory.
🎟️ Join our values event on November 20! We’ll have an open discussion about how to use values to have more fun (& success) in dating, with a guided exercise from Michael to help you discover your core values.
🔗Find Michael on Instagram @michaeltennantnyc and @actuallyc_rious and grab your own deck here.
As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email [email protected].
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
46 min
October 07, 2024Is It A Dealbreaker If They Lie About Their Age?
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid fire listener questions.
what we talk about:

Someone lying about their age

One-sided effort in a relationship

Feeling distant after sex

When the spark can grow (& when it can't)

Someone lying about their past "to spare your feelings"
& more!
Links I mentioned:

⁠⁠My KLAW sneakers review
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As always, find us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email [email protected].
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
42 min
September 30, 2024The Best Place To Meet New People This Fall (Not Sports Bars)
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid fire listener questions.
what we talk about:

Signs someone is into you on early dates (+ how to reciprocate)

Where to meet people outside of dating apps

How to approach someone you see everyday in the same place

Is it a red flag if you're not in their close friends circle on Instagram?

Is it a red flag if they go out drinking a lot with work and say it's "part of the job?"

When is the earliest you should move in together?
& more!
Links I mentioned:

⁠My review of my air purifier⁠

Christine's ⁠free guided meditation⁠⁠ to uncover and overcome dating blocks
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As always, find us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email [email protected].
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
47 min
September 23, 2024Are We Using Triggers As An Excuse To Not Do The Work? with Christine Lang
Welcome back! Today we're joined by a highly anticipated guest: Christine Lang, soul channel, intuitive, and energy healer.
We're chatting all about common fears and blocks that are stopping us from finding our ideal partner, and Christine even made an exclusive free guided meditation for all listeners to uncover—and overcome—their own fears and blocks.
*ACCESS THE FREE MEDITATION HERE*
what we talk about:

Why you keep attracting people who bring out your triggers?

How to stop dating with the mindset of wanting to be "picked"

How to let go of the scarcity mindset in dating

How to communicate with partners who don’t express their feelings

Is it a real connection or just surface level?

Triggers and blocks in dating vs. in long term relationships
& (a lot) more!
*⁠ACCESS THE FREE MEDITATION HERE⁠*
Find Christine on Instagram @christinelang_intuitive.
📣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
As always, find us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email [email protected].
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
48 min
September 17, 2024218. Do You Need To Be Fully Over Your Ex To Date Again?
Welcome back! Today we're answering a few longer listener questions.
what we talk about:
What to do when your needs are not being met in a relationship

What does it really mean when someone wants to “take things slow?”

What to do when they finally change but it feels too late?

Do ultimatums work in relationships?

Exactly what to say when you’re stuck in a situationship
& more!
Links I mentioned:
Red light face mask

Healthier sesame chicken

Seven Sundays cereal
📣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
As always, find us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email [email protected].
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
39 min
September 09, 2024217. Help! He Forgot My Birthday 2 Years In A Row
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid-fire listener questions.
what we talk about:
Ways to improve communication in a relationship

What to do when the person you're dating forgets your birthday

Am I the red flag for being underwhelmed by their birthday celebration?

What to do when you're only attracted to people who aren't emotionally available

Is it a red flag if they tell you they paused their dating apps?
& more!
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As always, find us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email [email protected].
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
43 min
August 26, 2024216. The One Question I Always Ask On Early Dates
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid-fire listener questions.
what we talk about:
7 steps to get over a breakup

Is it a red flag if they call you their ex's name?

How to handle different sex drives in a relationship + what to do when your partner never initiates

Early signs someone is emotionally available

Who should initiate early dates?

What to do when you hit it off with someone while traveling but it fizzles when you get home?
& more!
📣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
As always, find us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email [email protected].
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
36 min
August 12, 2024215. Is It Possible To Slow Down A Love Bomber?
Welcome back! Today we're answering rapid-fire listener questions.
what we talk about:
My rant on how dating is actually a lot like finding a job

How to let go of your partner's past

Is it normal to want to break up with them because they are messy?

Why you're having trouble getting beyond the first date

What to do when there isn't physical attraction on early dates

Getting back together with an ex who has changed

How often to respond to someone's messages on an app

When to stop dating other people
& more!
📣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a custom dating app profile makeover from me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
As always, find us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email [email protected].
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!
45 min
August 05, 2024214. 11 Common Behaviors That Are Damaging Your Relationship
Welcome back! Today we're talking about behaviors that damage your relationship, create distance, and ultimately cause breakups.
what we talk about:
the difference between the silent treatment and taking time to think/cool down

how to stop assuming your partner's feelings/thoughts/needs & what to do when they assume yours

what happens when arguments go unresolved

my thoughts on "never go to bed angry"

why you need to talk to your partner more about sex (& how to do it)

what to do when actions don't match words (or vice versa)

when comparison to past relationships is helpful (& when it's not)
& more!
👀 the post I reference all episode
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As always, find us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, email [email protected].
And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review!

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Mostly Dating is a podcast with approachable advice for every stage of dating and relationships. Host Carleigh Ferrante dives into the world of modern dating and relationships with approachable,…