Lisa Zeiderman and Disagreements Between the ExesSpouses often have disagreements, but it’s more complicated when they get divorced. How do co-parents sort out plans when they disagree on things like getting your child vaccinated? Is there a standard position from the courts? Or do judges’ personal opinions come into play? And in the end, how much do you want to spend to make a decision like this?
Modern times come with complicated discussions. On today’s episode, matrimonial attorney, CFL, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Lisa Zeiderman is here to help us navigate the complicated landscape of mental health issues, disagreements about today’s big issues and more. Sometimes, the problem isn’t a disagreement after divorce. Sometimes it’s the changes people go through over time that leads to the divorce. You’re not the same person you were when you married. Everyone evolves, and sometimes, people don’t evolve together.
But disagreements may rise after the divorce because you no longer have to choose which battles to pick – you can take them all on if you want. There’s no need to compromise anymore. (But it does matter to some extent because it does cost money to pay the lawyer to handle this.)
Today’s conversation helps look at the complexities of arguments, personality changes, and more.
About LisaLisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, based in New York. A matrimonial attorney, CFL and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements.
Named to the Crain’s New York list of Notable Woman Attorneys for 2022, as well as a Crain’s New York Notable Diverse Lawyer for 2022, a Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2022, a 2021 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, among many other awards, Lisa is a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children. Lisa is also a member of the Forbes Business Council.
In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, the New York Law Journal, and by the Forbes Business Council. She is also interviewed on issues ranging from financial empowerment to tax issues to child custody in a host of media.
Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, also serves as the Vice President of the Board of Savvy Ladies, Inc., and on the board of LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today.
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• (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
• (00:26) - Meet Lisa Zeiderman
• (01:20) - Changing Brains
• (02:31) - When Your Spouse Seems to Change Personalities
• (05:30) - Inherent Bias
• (06:27) - Arguing About Vaccinations
• (09:52) - Liberation
• (12:26) - Parental Determination
• (14:56) - Legal Involvement
• (23:41) - Sponsor: Soberlink
• (25:39) - Understanding Mental Health
• (28:58) - How Are We Changing
• (35:38) - Wrapping Up