In this very special episode, I sit down with my friend and co-author Dr. Bill Stixrud to celebrate the arrival of our third “baby” — our brand new book, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook. If you’ve ever read our earlier books (The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say?), and found yourself thinking, “I love these ideas, but how do I actually apply them?”—this episode (and this book!) is for you. We created this workbook to help you go beyond the theory and actually make the Self-Driven Child way your way.

Bill and I unpack the inspiration behind the workbook and walk through the seven core principles that anchor it. We talk about everything from building calm, connected homes to the delicate art of motivating kids without trying to change them. Along the way, we share powerful stories from families we’ve worked with, lessons from years of practice, and candid reflections from our own parenting journeys. This episode has actionable insights to support you—and your kids—in building a happier, healthier, and more autonomous life.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] - Kicking things off with the big news: our new book has officially launched!
[3:00] - Why we wrote a workbook and how it supports parents in putting ideas into practice.
[6:24] - How old myths about parenting can derail connection, and why reflecting is essential.
[8:39] - Real-life stories of transformation when parents shift their approach.
[11:15] - It takes practice to make new parenting habits stick—why this book is about just that.
[13:25] - Diving into the first principle: “Put connection first” and why it matters most.
[15:00] - Principle #2: Be a consultant, not the boss—fostering autonomy through trust.
[16:19] - Communicating healthy vs. toxic expectations—and the power of belief in your kid.
[17:33] - Why kids need an accurate model of reality (and success isn't a straight line).
[21:03] - Motivating kids without trying to change them—how to be more effective and empathetic.
[24:22] - The critical role of being a non-anxious presence and how it strengthens the whole family.
[25:14] - Principle #6: Practicing radical digital downtime for mental clarity and brain health.
[26:26] - Bonus chapter! What education could look like if we built it around brains, not just grades.
[33:51] - Our favorite exercises from the workbook—and how they’ll help you build connection and effectiveness.

Links & Resources:

To order The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook: https://politics-prose.com/book/9780143138259 

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