Do you ever find yourself (or your teen) avoiding things, not because they don’t matter, but because they feel uncomfortable?

In this special collaborative episode for Mental Health Awareness Month, Leah shares a powerful conversation from The Teen Anxiety Maze hosted by Cynthia Coufal, and it’s one that might just shift how you think about avoidance, motivation, and success.

What if avoidance isn’t laziness… but a nervous system trying to protect you from discomfort?

Cynthia breaks down how avoidance patterns form, why they feel so relieving in the moment (but keep us stuck long-term), and how both teens and parents can begin to gently move toward discomfort instead of away from it.

You’ll learn how small mindset shifts—like changing “I have to” into “I choose to”, can create powerful internal change, and how helping kids tolerate discomfort is actually one of the greatest gifts we can give them.

This episode is a reminder that resilience isn’t about eliminating discomfort… it’s about learning how to move through it.

Key Takeaways:

• Avoidance is a way to escape discomfort, but it keeps problems going
• The feeling you avoid will come back later
• “I don’t care” is often a form of protection
• Success requires doing things you don’t feel like doing
• Changing “I have to” to “I choose to” can shift your mindset
• Motivation grows when you connect actions to what you want
• Supporting avoidance can reinforce anxiety in kids
• Growth happens when you move toward discomfort
• Kids learn resilience by watching you
• Change happens when you follow through, even when it’s hard

About Cynthia Coufal

Cynthia Coufal is a school counsellor and teen anxiety coach with over 25 years of experience. She helps teens and parents understand anxiety and build confidence through practical tools.

🌐 Website: www.cynthiacoufalcoaching.com

🎧 Podcast: https://podfollow.com/the-teen-anxiety-maze

📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9WBijdxeYpQSekM7RZYvA

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