Oversharing

On this Fourth Of July holiday, Jordana and Dr. Naomi start with a chat about how holidays help us reflect on our career choices. Plus, Naomi joined a gym and shares the valuable lessons she learned about the nature of jealousy. Then a listener calls in with a voicemail about growing up without a close relationship to your father, and how we come to terms with this in adulthood. The Betchicist question comes from a listener whose mom started dating a younger man and is making her uncomfortable. Is it okay to ask your mom not to have her new guy sleep over even though you’re living in her house? The intentions for this week are all about fertility struggles and changing your mindset about the all-too-relatable “fertility window” stress. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions about a reclaimed gift, and a snide comment about someone’s religion.

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Why are our most ambivalent relationships often the ones that cause us the most agitation? Jordana and Dr. Naomi analyze a recent article on the topic of frenemies and why they take up so much more headspace than our real adversaries. Then a listener (and fellow therapist) writes in to ask whether or not she should feel bad for making an offhand remark about her supervisor. Why do we spend so much time focusing on the smallest of comments? The Betchicist question comes from an emailer who feels like a bad feminist for wanting to get botox and other injectables to fight the signs of aging. This week’s intention setting exercise is all about finding a way to bounce back after getting a series of disappointing replies to your destination-wedding invites. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions involving a forgotten name and a surprise marriage announcement.

Link to the Op-Ed discussed on today’s episode: Your Most Ambivalent Relationships Are the Most Toxic

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What makes for a good apology? Jordana shares a story about offering an insincere apology, leading to some practical tips from Dr. Naomi for how to craft an apology that counts. An emailer writes in to ask if she should confront a coworker after feeling humiliated by his thoughtless gift-exchange present. Hot off the heels of the Vanderpump Rules three-part reunion, they answer a Betchicist question about the level of vitriol directed at the perpetrators of the Scandoval affair. Why do we react so passionately after someone cheats? And to what degree can you speak up on behalf of a friend who was cheated on? A listener asks for help with setting intentions to deal with a neighbor who is constantly playing music. Finally, they rate a pair of Triggered submissions involving an annoying texter, and a group chat gone-rogue.

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Dr. Naomi had second thoughts about last week’s Triggered scenario, so she and Jordana revisit their positions on “the moaning yogi.” A listener writes in with an Overshare email about how she feels after her husband stopped engaging in sex during her recent pregnancy. Should you be offended if your partner’s attraction ebbs and flows? Next, the Betchicist question comes from a listener who is planning to meet up with her ex’s new girlfriend. Is it ethical to compare notes about an ex, and how much can you disclose about what it was like to date them? They respond to a request for intentions from an emailer who often finds herself looking to “jump ship” even when things are going well. Finally, this week’s Triggered scenarios include a technical-difficulties dig, and a copycat MIL.

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Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days… Jordana is back from visiting Dr. Naomi, and while she may not have overstayed her welcome, her trip brought up some questions about hosting others. Then a listener writes in with an update on her previous email, explaining why she never got closure after her breakup – and that’s okay. Another listener writes in with an Overshare email regarding her overwhelming desire to complain about workplace stuff with the most negative person in the office. Why does it feel so good to vent negativity even when you know you shouldn’t? Next, a listener calls in with a Betchicist voicemail about maintaining contact with her ex’s mom, and whether or not it’s better to go cold turkey. They offer some intentions to an emailer who is struggling on their fertility journey. Finally, this week’s Triggered scenarios include a non-existent invite to a funeral, and a sex-noise-filled yoga class.

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Jordana and Dr. Naomi are back together to debrief on a graduation-time crisis and an upcoming family gathering. They tackle an Overshare voicemail from a lister who is having trouble finding the right words to say to her cousin after a recent diagnosis. How do you show support for someone without saying the wrong thing? Then Jordana and Dr. Naomi are joined once again by Remi Bader, brand ambassador and size consultant for Victoria’s Secret PINK, to share intentions for maintaining a positive self image. They answer a listener email from someone whose friend can’t help but make negative comments about her own body. Finally, they close with some Triggered scenarios involving an “awkward” invitation, and a tricky MIL situation.

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Dr. Naomi is back from her trip to NYC and tells Jordana all about the profound moment she had… at the airport. How do we get back in touch with our childhood sense of awe? Then a listener writes in to ask if giving her boyfriend an ultimatum was the right way to get the commitment she’s looking for. This week’s Betchicist voicemail comes from a listener whose husband expects the dog to get walked at exactly the same time each morning. What does it mean to be “on time” and how do you reconcile conflicting standards in a relationship? Then Jordana and Dr. Naomi are joined by Remi Bader, brand ambassador and size consultant for Victoria’s Secret PINK, to offer some intentions for finding self confidence. They talk all about how Remi went viral for her realistic hauls, before diving into an email from a listener who needs help silencing negative self-talk. Finally, they close with some Triggered scenarios involving a friend bringing up an ex, and a forgotten birthday.

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Jordana and Dr. Naomi are reunited in NYC via the Betches HQ studio and talk about the value of physical contact with the people you care about. Plus, they dive deeper into love languages and why we crave certain kinds of connection. Then a listener writes in to ask for help with dating a dismissive avoidant. Can a non-committal relationship turn into something deep and long lasting? In this week’s Betchicist, they dive into the dynamics of a birthday dilemma, where a friend demanded to be the center of attention by asking everyone to “dress down.” Another listener writes in to ask for help with setting intentions during down moments in the newborn phase of motherhood. Finally, this week’s Triggered scenarios involve a napping vacationer and a fee-chasing friend.

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Sometimes you just have to cry… on your own podcast. Jordana shares a moment of vulnerability and Dr. Naomi gives her some guidance for channeling that emotion in a positive way. Then a listener writes in to ask if she vents too much about work and family. How do you find a compromise when your decompression style differs from your partner’s? The Betchicist scenario involves talking sh*t about your MIL to your own mother. Why does it feel so good to gossip sometimes, and what should we do when it crosses a line? This week’s intentions are all about trying to establish stronger connections and resolving a fear of abandonment. Finally, they rate some Triggered submissions about a family deception, and stolen decorating tips.

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Happy Overshare-aversary! The show turns one year old, and Jordana is being more mindful than ever, so Dr. Naomi gives her some tips for overcoming discomfort in the moment. Then a listener calls in with a question about how to stop cycling through the same three guys she’s been dating. How do you break a cycle of dating people just to avoid being alone? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who was planning to break up with her boyfriend… right before he had a heart attack. Are you obligated to stay with someone during a crisis? This week’s intentions are all about moving on from the thrill of casual dating to find something more meaningful. Finally, they tackle some triggered submissions about grad school regrets and an overly competitive friend.

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