Oversharing

Jordana is still on island time –sorry the Hawaii vacation is over– and Naomi welcomes her back with a debrief of the latest U Up? With Benefits episode she caught. Then a listener calls in to the Oversharing hotline with a question about venting to your friends and family about your relationship. How much can you air your dirty laundry before it becomes something you’ll regret? They debate the pros and cons of sharing your relationship frustrations when it may be difficult to walk back your comments later on. Plus, they discuss the danger of coming off as insincere if you fail to disclose enough about relationship struggles. Then they dive into a Betchicist question about trying to recover from an experience of emotional betrayal with a partner. A listener writes in with a story about her husband’s nicotine addiction having a traumatic impact on her birth experience, and why she can’t seem to get over it. Finally, they tackle a trio of Triggered scenarios about a boyfriend talking in his sleep, a bride-to-be’s mom making a rude joke, and a boyfriend who charges rent.

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This week, both Naomi and Jordana share about their recent relaxing getaways. However, Jordana explains how she had a hard time sleeping over the weekend and how she became frustrated when implementing sleep meditation didn’t seem to help. Naomi explains that meditation isn’t a way to manipulate your reality, but a tool to embrace it. This week’s Oversharing email, comes from a listener who wants to know if her partner’s anger management issues should be a marriage deal breaker. Both Jordana and Naomi remind the listener that all “positive” qualities come with equally “negative” qualities. Which ones are you willing to tolerate forever? Next, they read a Betchicist email where a listener’s friend group can’t stop gossiping. Is there a way to resist the temptation to gossip? She worries that if the “exciting” parts of their chats are taken away, their conversations will become stale and boring. They close with a few Triggered scenarios about forgetful in-laws, unsupportive friends, and therapist deal breakers.

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This week, Naomi was inspired to stop covering her gray hair which sparks the conversation about accepting yourself for who you truly are. The Oversharing email of the week is from a listener who is weighing her options for how to juggle spending Christmas with her and her husband’s family. Both Naomi and Jordana agree that she will have to focus on finding the best compromise rather than fighting to keep her childhood traditions alive. They move on to a Betchicist submission where a listener asks - can you tell your boyfriend that it bothers you he doesn’t pay for more things? How can you go about it without sounding “old fashioned"? They end on some Triggered scenarios around others discouraging your weight-loss journey, feeling left out, and nosy geriatric patients.

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This week, Jordana gives updates on giving the cold shower assignment a shot. Naomi then explains that when you give yourself the option to resist something you will, so practicing an “Acceptance Mindset” is great protection against resistance. This week’s Oversharing Voicemail is from a listener who’s having fertility struggles. They help her break down the intrusive thoughts that can accompany infertility. Next, they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is figuring out how to tell her best friend she hates their partner. They end on some Triggered submissions about having an estranged father-daughter relationship, being called “old” by a Gen-Zer, and a father-of-the-bride speech gone wrong.

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Did Jordana complete her cold shower assignment from last week? Maybe not, but she did learn a valuable lesson from the experience anyway. Naomi explains how our ability to vocalize discomfort reflects our level of assertiveness. In this week’s Overshare, a listener is feeling obligated to maintain friendships and if she should be the fist one to “crack the pack”. They bring on the show’s very first guests, Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik of Almost 30. Naomi is eager to talk about finding a sacredness in being single. Can we as a society find happiness in our individual accomplishments? Or will we always think our happiness is weighted in our relationships? They end on Triggered submissions about a mom’s unnecessary facebook comment, a flakey friend, and a sh*t talking sister-in-law.

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How do you strike the right balance between assertiveness and complacency? Jordana and Naomi start the show with a conversation about becoming more or less aggressive in daily interactions, along with some tips for getting outside your comfort zone. The essie Overshare email of the week comes from a listener whose close friend suddenly withdrew from the relationship back in college, leaving her feeling left out. Now that she’s back in close proximity, should she reach out and find closure, or leave things in the past? Next, they debate a challenging Betchicist question: is it okay to be disappointed by your partner’s plan for your milestone birthday, even if you hijacked their idea and paid for it yourself? How do we find satisfaction in our relationships and stop focusing on the negative? Finally, the Triggered scenarios involve a Tennis match betrayal, a disappointing breakup, and an overreach in couples therapy.

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Has the rise of social media left everyone feeling lonelier than ever? Jordana and Naomi tackle this challenging question and try to figure out why we often feel less connected, even when our online interactions are on the rise. Naomi offers some lessons from the group therapy sessions she leads, and they talk about the way the pandemic has affected introverts. They also discuss the way friends are made and maintained early in life compared to when you hit your 30’s and 40’s. Why is it so hard to make new friends as you get older, and how do you even meet new people anyway? Jordana shares her experience with traveling and breaking outside of her comfort zone. Finally, they offer some tips for spending quality time and finding your “friendship pickup line” at the salon.

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Naomi and Jordana begin the week with a conversation about the transition from relying on your childhood family to starting a family of your own. Then they read the essie Overshare email of the week from a listener who is still texting an ex more than a year after the breakup. Is she really missing the ex, or is the loneliness she’s feeling driving her to miss the attachment? Naomi walks us through a visualization exercise for comforting your child-self (and healing our childhood attachment issues) along with a strategy for enlisting a friend to help resist the urge to reach out. This week’s Betchicist email comes from a single 30-something year-old woman who’s fed up with the societal pressure to get married and have kids. Naomi and Jordana wish there was an equal focus on celebrating partnership and other life accomplishments like success at work. They close things with a trio of Triggered submissions about an embarrassing Facebook pic, wedding photo drama, and a ring shopping insult.

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It’s back to school season so Jordana and Naomi start the show with a conversation about whether or not having kids really makes you happy (the answer: yes and no). The essie Overshare email of the week comes from a listener who needs help with a long term friendship that’s on the rocks because of distance. Is a simple phone call all it takes to repair tension in a meaningful relationship? And should we stop relying on a text to say all that we need to say? The Betchicist email involves a soon-to-be-married couple that wants to adopt three children… but can they afford the expense? Jordana and Naomi debate whether or not it’s your place as a sister to offer an opinion on the decision to adopt. Then they finish the week with some Triggered scenarios, including body comments at the gym, inconsiderate parents, and a thoughtless friend.

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On today’s Oversharing, Naomi tells Jordana a story about her recent massage experience with a masseuse who went MIA for a little too long. Turns out a therapist off duty is still a therapist—the masseuse was going through it. Then it’s time for the essie Overshare email of the week, which comes from a listener who is feeling lonely and disconnected from family members even when she’s visiting her childhood home. How do you reconnect with loved ones when you’ve begun to drift apart? In this week’s Betchicist, a listener asks what to do about her mother’s pattern of being the “other woman.” How do you navigate a relationship with a family member whose choices you don’t agree with? They close with a game of Triggered, including parents who won’t go the extra mile, a mother-in-law who wants to be called ‘mom,’ and a listener whose husband wants a framed photo of him and his ex-wife in her home.

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