Dr. Jenn Kennedy and Dr. Rob continue their conversation about finding satisfaction and intimacy after 50. They consider what it means to truly become a better person and partner, to evolve beyond betrayal toward empathy and intimacy. We often think that intimacy equals sex, but Dr. Kennedy challenges that notion and defines what a satisfied, committed relationship can really look like in the later years of life.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:45] The impact of infidelity on a committed sexual relationship.

[7:20] Infidelity in a mature vs. younger couple.

[13:03] Intimacy, not just sex, is the ultimate goal.

[17:40] From discovery to reconnecting sexually, eventually.

[27:07] Moving from ‘I’m sorry to ‘I’m sorry I put you through that’.

[32:40] Reintroducing touch and talking without the expectation of sex.

[38:13] Scheduled sex and other tactics for navigating sexuality in older age.

[43:20] Train your mind to choose your partner.

[44:57] Battling the psychological landmine is not required to resume intimacy.

[46:40] What if we just don’t want to have sex anymore?

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Dr. Jenn Kennedy

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QUOTES:

● “The breakdown in intimacy after infidelity is real.”

● “If the addict doesn’t start to actually change and show some progress, their sex life probably isn’t going to change either.”

● “Wherever you place your focus, growth will occur.”

● “You can have great intimacy and not have sex.”