We all have a manual in our brain that no one else can see, but we expect them to just know and to follow it and if they follow it and hit every check box (unrealistic) then they love us and they are worthy.If they don’t follow our manual well then that means they don’t love us, they don’t care about us or they aren’t a good (insert role here) Let me tell you how this doesn’t work out well for anyone- haha Why doesn’t this work? For several reasons First, let me say it again, as I will often remind you, others do not cause our thoughts and feelings, they do not cause us to act a certain way. Our thoughts and our emotions cause us to act a certain way. Secondly We do not cause other’s thoughts or feelings, or their actions. And we are not incontrol of their behavior or how they respond to our thoughts and feelings and actions.