• Choosing the right partner is the most important thing when it comes to a relationship’s success
• If only one person is motivated to fix the relationship’s issues, it’s a lost cause
• “If we actually did more work in the self-development department, we’d probably do a much better job of attracting the right type of people to us”
• Lifestyle elements are typically where you need commonalities in a relationship
  • Ex. – Valuing a healthy diet, being active, being productive, etc.
  • “If you really don’t have a general lifestyle that’s shared, it’ll create a lot of a lot of problems, resentment, and power struggles”
• You and your partner’s values should be aligned as much as possible, especially when it comes to your vision for the future
• Women need to feel encouraged and comfortable expressing their sexuality – this is largely up to the man to draw out of them
• Masturbation can be a useful tool for women who have repressed sexuality

Dr Taylor Burrowes is a Doctor of Marriage, Couples and Family Counselling.

After working for 14 years as a mental health counsellor and marriage and family therapist, Dr Burrowes has seen a huge sample of relationships going through turmoil. Today we get to hear about her best advice to make a partnership work.

Can you get over cheating? How should men & women play different roles in a relationship? What makes an effective partnership? Why do some couples grow apart? How can you tell your partner your sexual desires without getting awkward? And what role does masturbation have to play in all this?

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• Secrets to longevity:
  • Being engaged in your relationships, family, and work
  • As discussed in Blue Zones, the number one predictor of longevity among centenarians was how social they were/how many people in their life they cared for
• There’s a lot of research showing that our happy place as a species is when we’re in motion and surrounded by others
• Money and happiness are correlated, but only to a certain extent
  • The correlation flatlines once you get to a point where you have decent housing, can take vacations, can absorb an economic shock, and feel as if your kids can get a decent education
• An exercise everyone should do:
  • Just imagine the 3 words you want on your tombstone – doing so serves as a great guide for how you should live your life
• “Follow your passion” is terrible advice
  • Instead, find what you’re good at, double down on it, and become great. Over time, the accoutrements that come with being great at something will in turn make you passionate.
• Alcohol is a destroyer of happiness while the depth and number of meaningful relationships you have is its bedrock
• “People overestimate the joy and happiness they’ll get from things and underestimate the joy and happiness they’ll get from experiences”

Scott Galloway quit everything in 1999. He quit his job, his marriage. “I didn’t like my friends. I didn’t like myself,” he said. So he went out on his own. Two years later he felt like he was going to die. “I only left my loft for food, sex and to go to the ready-teller,” he said. "An instinct kicks in that if you continue to do this, you're going to die early." He did the research. And found that men who live alone die 8-10 years earlier than men who are engaged in a family. So he started to study what was happening in his head. What was it about isolation that made him vulnerable? You'll hear the science in this episode. You'll also hear about the psychology of money, how to use it to feel happier, the 3 types of love (and which is the most important to longevity), what memories in your life will solidify in your brain as your greatest moments in life, and more.

All of this comes from Scott Galloway's newest book "The Algebra of Happiness." Which he wrote because he made a video about it, got 2 million views and realized "people need to hear this."  

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• One of the best things you can do for your health is to implement some form of fasting into your routine
  • Mike recommends a 24 hour fast once per week
• One of the main benefits of prolonged fasting is autophagy activation through the suppression of mTOR
• “If someone’s struggling mentally, the first thing I’d recommend for them is to go workout” – Tom
  • “Sitting there and looking in the mirror and telling yourself that you love yourself is probably not a bad start, but it’s never gonna get you there. If you don’t do something you actually respect, you’re not going to develop self-respect.”
• A calorie is not a calorie
  • Your cells are made of what you consume – the source of your calories matter
• Try to eat what’s in season
  • “The only diet humans could eat before the advent of electricity, gas, and refrigeration was what was available to them locally”
• Don’t be so quick to dismiss the carnivore diet
• “Right now in 2019, people are microdosing psilocybin and LSD… I think in two years people are going to be microdosing rapamycin” 
  • Rapamycin is an immune suppressant drug given to organ transplant patients which also seems to suppress mTOR (just as fasting does)

High Intensity Health’s Mike Mutzel is on the forefront of functional medicine. His top-rated podcasts have helped thousands of people with fitness, nutrition and general health advice. On this episode of Health Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Mike Mutzel delves deeply into questions about fasting, microbiome diversity, the keto diet and the carnivore diet. And on top of all that, he connects the dots between healthy eating and a positive mindset, and shows how to maximize both longevity and feeling good. 

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Mike describes his specific fasting protocols and why he uses them [1:04]

Mike talks about his reaction to finding he had elevated alpha fetoprotein [6:28]

Mike explains how getting arrested for drugs was the best thing that happened to him [10:57]

Mike and Tom discuss how to apply the lessons from physical fitness to mental fitness [13:25]

Mike discusses how different methods of fasting or ketones use promotes mental clarity [15:50]

Mike explains how fasting affects stress responses [18:37]

Mike and Tom discuss the pros and cons of a ketogenic diet [21:40]

Mike shares his goals for his diet, and why he doesn’t always use the same diet [26:38]

Mike looks at the benefits of microbiome diversity relative to genetics and environment [28:33]

Mike talks about the carnivore diet [32:27]

Mike and Tom discuss diet and longevity [38:25]

Tom asks Mike if there’s any cutting edge health theories he is interested in [39:53]

Mike explains cellular switches that guide autophagy [42:18]

Mike advocates eliminating processed food and eating at the same time each day [44:04]

Mike talks about food, relationships, social settings, and sleep [45:50]

Mike describes the limits of fasting [48:17]

What one change can people make to benefit their health? [51:00]

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On the second episode of my educational podcast, I interview the CEO of the largest cryptocurrency company in the world, Brian Armstrong. I knew Brian years ago when Coinbase was a relatively humble startup and it's been mind blowing to see how far they've come in such a short period of time, managing the equivalent of billions of dollars in wealth in cryptocurrency. I admire Brian because he wakes up everyday determined to solve the 'meta-problem' of financial freedom using cryptocurrency, which he believes can indirectly alleviate poverty, increase entrepeneurship, and help reduce corruption in governments around the world. The President of the USA tweeted about Bitcoin and Facebook released it's "Libra" cryptocurrency, so it's an extremely exciting time in the space. I also ask him about his most ambitious ideas regarding the future of payments, and was pleasantly shocked by his answers. Enjoy! 

• Many games are designed to put users into a state of flow where things are challenging, but not too difficult
• There are 2.6 billion people who regularly play games on connected devices!
• Since many video games don’t come with manuals or tutorials anymore, they’ve become great self-esteem building tools as kids have to teach themselves how to play (and ultimately win) – this builds up their self-confidence
  • “It’s the ultimate learning simulator and you realize if you can teach yourself, you can learn anything”
• Create a bridge between video games and the real world and encourage kids to apply strategies learned from games to real-life situations
• To make a game more fun, don’t make it easier, make it harder!
  • You can experience growth, improvement, and flow by switching up even the most basic of tasks such as brushing your teeth with your nondominant hand
• Gaming to improve mental health:
  • If you have depression – play something like Pokemon Go (as an added bonus – it forces you to leave your house and get some exercise)
  • If you have anxiety – play small, focused, single-player games like Tetris

Jane McGonigal, PhD is a world-renowned designer of alternate reality games — or, games that are designed to improve real lives and solve real problems.

She is the Author of Reality is Broken: Why Games Make Us Better and How They Can Change the World and is the inventor and co-founder of SuperBetter, a game that has helped nearly a million players tackle real-life health challenges such as depression, anxiety, chronic pain, and traumatic brain injury.

Our conversation is about how to design useful games, how games effect us and our kids, and what the future might hold. Please enjoy.

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Show Notes

1:22 - (First Question) – Her take on the history of gaming and studying the players themselves

3:44 – Where her passion for gaming really started

4:55 – Her take on flow states

7:47 – Kids and gaming

10:32 – Advice for parents when it comes to the role of games

            11:06 – SuperBetter: A Revolutionary Approach to Getting Stronger, Happier, Braver and More Resilient--Powered by the Science of Games

13:53 – Types of games that develop the right skills for kids

16:20 – Four things all games share in common

            16:23 – Reality Is Broken: Why Games Make Us Better and How They Can Change the World   

20:50 – Her take on Carse’s theory about infinite gaming

            21:04 – Finite and Infinite Games

26:28 – How to understand gaming culture if you’ve never played a game before

28:28 – Amazon and gaming

31:18 – How fun makes anything more enjoyable

34:55 – How game designers calibrate feedback loops

39:14 – The good and bad of gamifying life

45:01 – What is the superbetter app

52:43 - Why powerups and bad guys are so important in games

57:03 – Secret identity

59:04 – Playing with boundaries

1:00:36 – Most worried about in the gaming world, and most exited about

1:07:32 – Kindest thing anyone has done for Jane

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• “People think that conflict is the issue in distressed relationships. Conflict is the virus, the inflammation is emotional disconnection.”
• Humans are meant to be monogamous 
  • People who report having the best sex and are most satisfied with their sex lives are those in long-term, stable, and exclusive relationships
• “The question in distressed relationships is always the same all over the world at every age: ‘Where are you? Do you care about me? Do I matter to you? Will you respond to me? Will you be there when I’m vulnerable? Am I safe with you?'”
  • “When the answer is ‘I’m here,’ you can deal with almost anything”
    • You don’t have to solve all your partner’s problems – just be emotionally present with them
• “Why do we, when a woman has a baby, leave her alone a in a little box called an apartment and take her away from all her social contacts? Often she doesn’t live in the same city as her mother and sisters… and her husband’s at work all day.”
  • “In most tribal societies, when a woman has a baby, it’s a signal for the community to come around and support her… We’ve totally lost that.”
• In healthy relationships, sex is a bonding activity
• The main thing that gets in the way of sex is emotional distance
  • When emotional connection gets lost, the desire to be erotic dissipates (you’re not wired to deal with threat and be turned on at the same time)
• People have affairs because they’re feeling emotionally disconnected and alone, not because of sexual frustration
• Rings seem to come off at milestones of independence for kids
• Relationships are living organisms
  • If you neglect the relationship in favor of focusing on a child, when the child leaves, it’s very likely the relationship will have died
• The very best thing you can do for your kids is to have a good relationship with your partner 

Dr. Sue Johnson is a researcher, clinical psychologist and the developer of EFT or Emotionally Focused Therapy. In this interview we discuss how to create, protect, and nourish fulfilling sexual and emotional relationships.

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