In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the profound shifts that occur as we heal—both within ourselves and in our relationships. She delves into the challenges of evolving while being in partnerships, the difficulty of letting go when growth outpaces connection, and the natural distance that can emerge between those on different healing journeys.

Sarah also answers listener questions about navigating major life transitions. From unfulfilling marriages and moving forward when a partner is unwilling to grow, to forgiveness and releasing resentment following a betrayal, these questions spark a powerful conversation about trauma, self-protection, and reclaiming life after pain.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Introduction 

00:15 Processing Endings

03:26 Internal Safety and Connectivity

06:42 Unwritten Contracts and Change in Our Relationships

09:59 Healing Decreases Our Toleration for Suffering

12:15 Giving Ourselves the Things We Never Got

13:21 Healing Invites Space for Change

18:58 Meeting New Parts of Ourselves

28:14 Leaving A Stagnant Relationship

32:13 Navigating Betrayal and Resentment

36:41 Forgiveness and Resolving Past Trauma

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Important Keywords:

Resentment – Resentment often signals unmet needs or unprocessed emotions. Nervous system regulation helps in addressing these feelings by discharging the underlying dysregulation.

Forgiveness – True forgiveness can only happen when a person has processed the appropriate response and emotions related to their trauma, by accessing what’s called healthy aggression.

Relational Shifts in Healing – As healing progresses, people may feel disconnected from past relationships, social circles, or roles. This is a natural part of transformation, signaling new growth and self-awareness.

Somatic Experiencing – Created by Dr. Peter Levine, this therapeutic modality uses body awareness, movement, and nervous system regulation to release and resolve stored trauma. By building capacity to be in our embodied experience, we can teach our nervous system how to pendulate, resulting in the discharge of stored trauma and overall regulation of the nervous system.