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I want to share some real-life updates with you – the and-ness of life. My life right now is amazing. My book is out there, I’m working with incredible clients, and I feel deeply aligned with my purpose. But here’s the thing – alongside all of that, my old patterns still show up. Those sneaky thoughts that want to pull me back into old ways of thinking, like doubting myself, or feeling like I need to rush to get "there" – whatever 'there' is.

This podcast episode is about embracing both: the highs and the challenges. Life isn’t about waiting to reach some destination where everything’s perfect. It’s about recognising that great things can happen while difficult things are happening too. I’m in the very practice right now that it’s okay to hold space for both – to feel gratitude for the good, and at the same time, navigate the hard stuff without making it mean I’m doing something wrong.

We’re so conditioned to think life should be all sunshine or all storm – but that’s not the whole picture. It’s the and-ness of life that we need to normalise. We can be thriving in one area while still working through old patterns in another. It’s all part of the ride. So, let’s talk about how we can navigate this together without constantly chasing the illusion of “there.” We’re already here, and that’s more than enough.

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Lately, Steve and I have been making a real effort to focus on gratitude, and it’s been a game changer. It’s easy to fall into the trap of noticing what the other hasn’t done, isn’t doing, or the little habits that get under your skin. But with gratitude, it shifts where our attention goes. Instead of zeroing in on what’s missing, we’re paying attention to what’s right in front of us—what we *are* doing for each other.

It’s not fluffy or forced, either. Gratitude isn’t about pretending everything is perfect, but it keeps us from getting stuck in the usual patterns of taking things for granted. Steve doesn’t need to do anything huge to make me feel appreciated. It’s the small stuff, like how he’ll step up and do something I didn’t expect, or even just his consistency that I might’ve overlooked before. When I take a second to actually notice, it shifts my mindset from irritation to, "Yeah, he’s got my back."

And the thing is, when we make gratitude a habit, it creates less space for resentment to build. We all have annoying habits or things we forget to do, but when we’re genuinely practicing gratitude, those things don’t seem as big of a deal. It keeps the focus on what’s working, and we end up appreciating each other more for it. It’s not magic, but it definitely helps keep things in perspective.

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Perimenopause—who knew this was even a thing? Not me! I always thought menopause was something that just suddenly happened when you hit a certain age, but perimenopause? That’s a whole different beast, and I’m right in the thick of it. It’s like this sneaky, slow-motion transition where your body starts doing things you never expected, and you’re left wondering what the hell is going on.

I’ve been navigating it as best as I can, but let me tell you, it hasn’t been easy. There are days when I feel like I’m losing my mind—literally. The brain fog, the mood swings, the physical changes—it's all so intense. It’s like my body is rewriting the rulebook, and I didn’t get the memo. I’ve been sharing these frustrations openly on Instagram because, honestly, I had no idea this was even a thing, and I know I’m not alone. If I can shine a light on what perimenopause really looks like, maybe it’ll help someone else feel a little less lost.

Thankfully, I’ve called in the big guns—Dr. Kirstey Holland. She’s been an absolute game-changer, helping me get my gut, brain, and hormones back to some kind of new normal. It’s a journey, and it’s not about getting back to the old me, but finding a new balance, a new way of being in this body that’s changing whether I like it or not. I’m learning to work with these changes, rather than against them, and it’s been a real lesson in patience, acceptance, and finding new ways to care for myself.

If you’re in this with me, just know you’re not alone, and it’s okay to reach out for help. This isn’t something we have to navigate on our own, and there’s power in sharing our stories and supporting each other through it.

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Lately, I've been reflecting on what truly makes a relationship successful, and one thing stands out: in a strong, healthy relationship, you never try to bring the other person down when they're shining in their light. Instead, you lift them up, cheer them on, and celebrate their successes as if they were your own. As I'm gearing up for the launch of my book, I've been feeling this more than ever, especially with Steve, my husband, by my side.

Steve has been my #1 cheerleader through this entire process. There hasn’t been a single drop of insecurity or jealousy—just pure, unwavering support. He’s the first to encourage me, to remind me of how far I've come, and to push me to keep going when I start doubting myself. It’s a kind of support that makes me feel even more connected to him because I know he's genuinely happy to see me succeed.

In moments like these, I realize just how lucky I am to have a partner who is not only secure in himself but also deeply invested in our shared journey. Steve’s encouragement has allowed me to shine even brighter, knowing that he’s right there with me, cheering me on every step of the way. It's a reminder that in the best relationships, you both rise together, and that kind of love and support is what truly makes a partnership thrive.

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Recently, I found myself journaling about the phrase "all in good time." As I was writing, I noticed how much my ego wanted to rush, push, and brute force my way through the process. There was this constant sense of urgency and impatience, a nagging feeling that if I didn't hurry, everything would fall apart. Beneath this impatience, I recognized a deeper, more profound fear of failure, especially with the launch of my book.

The pressure I was putting on myself was immense. I felt like I had to get everything right, and get it right quickly. My mind was racing with thoughts of deadlines, expectations, and the endless to-do lists that seemed to grow longer by the minute. In the midst of this chaos, the simple phrase "all in good time" emerged. It was like a gentle reminder from a wiser, calmer part of myself to slow down and trust the process.

These four words—"all in good time"—became a mantra that helped ease the angst and stress I was feeling. Every time I felt the urge to rush or push too hard, I would remind myself of this phrase. It acted as an anchor, keeping me grounded and bringing me back to the present moment. I realized that success doesn't come from forcing things to happen, but from allowing them to unfold naturally and organically.

By embracing "all in good time," I've been able to release some of the pressure and find a more balanced, peaceful approach to my work. It’s a reminder that everything has its own pace, and that forcing things often leads to burnout and frustration. This mindset has kept me close to the ground, more connected to my purpose, and less caught up in the whirlwind of my ego’s demands. It's a lesson I'm grateful for, and one that I hope to carry with me as I continue on this journey.

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Lately, I've been immersing myself in the art of listening, and it's been a transformative journey. I started journaling about my experiences with listening, prompted by Julia Cameron's book The Listening Path. Her insights have guided me to pay closer attention not only to the words people say but also to the deeper meanings and emotions behind them. Through my journaling, I've begun to notice patterns in my own listening habits, especially within my family dynamics.

One of the biggest revelations has been realising how often I cut people off, especially my family members. I catch myself assuming what they're going to say next or tuning out when I think I already know the gist of their message. Journaling about these moments has helped me become more aware of them. It's humbling to see how these habits can create distance in our relationships and prevent truly meaningful connections.

By consciously working on these tendencies, I'm learning to be a better listener towards the people I love, allowing them to fully express themselves without interruption. This practice has not only deepened my relationships but also enriched my understanding of those around me. It's amazing how much more you can learn about someone when you genuinely listen without jumping to conclusions or planning your response while they're still talking.

I invite you to join me on this journey of becoming a better listener. Pay attention to how you listen to others—notice when you might be cutting them off, assuming their next sentence, or tuning out. Journaling about these observations can be a powerful tool to deepen your own relationship with listening. It's a practice that has the potential to transform not only how we connect with others but also how we understand and connect with ourselves.

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I wrote this question down in my journal, played this song, closed my eyes, and let the answers find me.

The reason this question came up was due to writing the date, June 30th, at the top of my page and I thought, "wow, halfway through this year. How would I love the rest of it to be?" Then the question opened itself to the 'it' being 'life itself'.

Here's what came about ...

IMPACT - having major effect.
MEANINGFUL - worthwhile.
JOYFUL - great pleasure and happiness.
INTENTIONAL - done on purpose.

As I looked over my writings I thought, "shit yeah, that's how I'd love it to be! How great it would be to have major effect in the lives of my family, friends, loved ones and the world. To live a life that is worthwhile, create work in the world that is worthwhile. To do as such with great pleasure and happiness, and, on purpose.

This photo below sums the above up neatly. It was taken right after I finished recording my audiobook. This book has impact, meaning, was created on purpose, and written and recorded with great pleasure and happiness.

It begs the question, could all things be done this way? I'll come back to you on that.

Truly, how would you love it (your life) to be? And what would be your next best step to bring that way of life a little closer to you?

I'd love to read your insights and shares if you feel compelled to do so.

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When we make choices from our unhealed selves, we often end up pursuing paths that don't truly satisfy us or align with our deepest values. However, when we take the time to heal and reconnect with our true selves, our decisions become more authentic and fulfilling. Choices made from our true essence are guided by inner wisdom and genuine desires, leading us to a life that feels more aligned, purposeful, and meaningful. The contrast between living from our unhealed wounds and our authentic selves is profound, and the journey towards healing is not just beneficial but essential for living a truly fulfilling life.

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When you take your next best step guided by your inner knowing, you begin a journey of natural evolution. Each step, rooted in your authentic self, paves the way for the next, creating a path that aligns with your true essence. Over time, these steps build upon each other, leading you to places you never imagined. This process is organic and fluid, allowing you to grow and evolve in harmony with your inner wisdom. By trusting this inner guidance, you not only move forward but also deepen your connection to your true self, creating a life that is genuinely fulfilling and aligned with who you are.

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It's easy to give a lot of care to things that, in the grand scheme of things, don't really matter. Our egos often convince us to prioritize superficial concerns, social status, and external validation. However, our true essence knows better. It guides us to focus on what truly matters, to give the right kind of fucks. Living authentically means aligning with this deeper wisdom, caring deeply about the things that genuinely enrich our lives and reflect our true values. It's about finding the courage to let go of ego-driven worries and instead, nurture what is truly right, good, and meaningful for our authentic selves.

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