Steve and I were out on a hike recently, one of those soul-clearing walks where the body moves and the heart starts to open. We asked each other a simple but big question:
“If you died tomorrow, would there be anything you’d regret? Anything you wish you’d done, experienced, or seen?”
It hit us both, deeper than we expected.
And you know what surprised us? It wasn’t about all the things we hadn’t done yet. Not the trips we hadn’t taken, or the projects we hadn’t started, or some massive milestone we missed.
It was this: we wish we had allowed ourselves to actually enjoy the life we already have—more.
Like, properly soak it in. Let it land.
Not rush through it or stress over what’s next or what still needs fixing… but actually be in it.
It was such a wake-up call. Because we’ve worked hard to create a life we love. We’ve made big changes, taken risks, healed a lot. We’ve built something beautiful together—and yet, even with all of that, there’s still this pull toward the next thing, the improvement, the fixing, the striving.
And in that striving, we realised: we’ve been skimming past the gold that’s already here.
This conversation cracked us open.
We spoke about how hard it is sometimes to actually let ourselves enjoy what we’ve created. How uncomfortable it can feel to pause and receive.
Because there’s a part of us, like many of us, that still carries the old programming—“you’ve got to earn your joy,” “you’ve got to keep pushing,” “don’t get too comfortable.”
But what if this—this right here—is already enough?
What if joy isn’t something we have to chase or achieve, but something we’re allowed to feel now, exactly as things are?
That question on the hike reminded us: we don’t want to get to the end of our lives having missed it.
Missed the softness of the morning light, or the way our daughter laughs, or the quiet moments where everything’s okay and nothing needs to be fixed.
So this episode is us going there. Raw, reflective, and real.
We’re sharing the stuff that stirred in us, and what we’re choosing to do differently now—not later, now—so we can actually live the life we’ve got.
We hope it gets you thinking. Maybe even helps you pause.
Because it’s so easy to forget—but this moment?
It’s the one we’ve got. Let’s not miss it.
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