Real World Peaceful Parenting

Do you find yourself looking for an ulterior motive in your child’s actions? When we believe we are going to catch our children at their worst, that is what we train our brains to see.

I offer a solution to stop keeping score. It begins with your thoughts. Learn how to calm your mind, feel prepared, and use your child’s hyperfocus and strong will to talk honestly so that you both feel seen. Tune in to stop negative future forecasting today.

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Are you overwhelmed by all the information, advice, and parenting how-tos out there? While seeking out expert advice is good, I often see parents who lack confidence in their parenting struggle to perfectly implement all the ideas they’ve heard with their own family.

Learn how to become your own expert as a parent. I explain why it’s important to be confident in your parenting and how you can choose what you believe about your parenting.

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Imagine you’re in a situation where you step out for whatever reason and your co-parent has to take over parenting during that time. You’re at the gym or with friends or helping your mom, and your co-parent texts you a question about the kids or unloads on you about the past few hours as soon as you get home. You struggle with feeling empathy for your partner while also feeling resentful and frustrated.

This week, I explain why it’s essential to communicate and set boundaries in this frustrating situation. I discuss why it’s important to recognize that your co-parent has a completely different skill set from you and why that means it’s okay for them to struggle sometimes.

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I’m joined by Deena, a Hive member who has undergone a massive transformation in her parenting. Since joining The Hive, Deena said her parenting has gone from one characterized by “screaming, chaos, and feeling alone” to “calm, peaceful, and empowered.”

Deena and I discuss her road to peaceful parenting. Deena shares the techniques that have helped her the most in her parenting and why The Hive has impacted her.

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As parents, we can often find ourselves asking our children “why?” Why are they acting this way? Why do they always forget things? Why are they not listening? We think that what our kid is doing is the problem. If they just acted differently, we wouldn’t get so frustrated and dysregulated. In reality, we have to step back in these moments and realize that it’s not our kids that are the problem, but really our thoughts that are triggering us.

This week, I talk about why asking your kid “why” is never a good idea. I discuss why choosing different thoughts and answering that “why” on your own can lead to a greater connection with your kid.

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A lot of times when our kids do something that upsets us, we quickly jump to conclusions about what it might mean about them and how they feel about us. Often, this can result in us getting triggered and no longer parenting from a calm, empathetic place. One of the best things you can ask yourself in these moments is “what am I making this mean?”

I discuss the power of asking the question “what am I making this mean?” when you’re being triggered by your kids’ behavior. I talk about how just asking this question can be an opportunity to connect with your kid and heal your own inner child.

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One of the most frustrating situations in parenting is when your kid just won't take “no” for an answer. Most of the time, our instinct is to explain back to them why we set a particular boundary and try to make them understand our reasoning. 

The problem with this response is that we're looking for our kids' approval and they are just not going to give it to us. 

In this episode, I’ll discuss the dangers of being a people-pleasing parent when our kids won't take “no” for an answer. I’ll explain why being firm with our boundaries actually teaches our kids resilience, models healthy behavior, and ultimately makes them feel loved.

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What’s something your child does that triggers you? Maybe it's sneaking sweets or doing something they knew was wrong because a friend encouraged them to. Usually, the behaviors that trigger us the most are the ones that make us fear for our child’s future and the kind of adult they’ll become.

I explain why the best thing we can do when we’re triggered is to get neutral. I’ll give you some tools to show up for your kids in a neutral way and get away from fear-based parenting.

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One of the most powerful tools you can implement as a parent is the pause. Although it might seem small, just pausing during your parenting allows you to do so much.

I discuss the power of the pause as a parent. I talk about the major benefits of learning to pause in a difficult moment with your child – how it can help you to better connect with them and teach them how to regulate their own emotions.

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Our kids can be great teachers in showing us the things we feel shameful about or have tried to hide from the world – our shadow side. Often what we project onto our kids are wounds we developed as children ourselves.

I’ll show you how to start identifying your shadow side and how you may unknowingly project it onto your child. I’ll also explain how healing your inner child can help you overcome a major roadblock in connecting with your child.

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