Recovery Elevator

Today we have Chad, with 37 days of sobriety. This is how he quit. Resources mentioned in this episode:

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Reddit Stop Drinking Forum - /r/stopdrinking

SMART Recovery

SHOW NOTES

Paul Introduces Chad

Chad has been sober for 37 days! Boom! Chad racked up about 2.5 years of sobriety in a previous life... "It doesn't get any easier. The best thing you can do is to get sober and stay sober." Chad is 25 and works in the communications field. He was born and raised in Atlanta and has lived all over the world. Chad is currently single (and recommends staying this way in early sobriety). Chad is really into backpacking... He got totally hooked during his time in rehab.

What were your drinking habits like?

"I avoided drinking and other habits until the summer before I went to college. I was afraid that something would happen to me if I drank. Little did I realize that that would become a self-fulfilling prophecy." Chad joined a fraternity in college and was drinking close to a 750ml of "nasty" Burnett's vodka a day...

Did you ever try to "cut-back" and put rules in place?

"You name it, I did it... But nothing ever worked." Chad went to rehab around age 22/23 to a place in the Pisgah National Forest, where he relearned how to live life -- survival techniques, meditation, etc. Chad attributes the program to his sobriety.

After 2.5 years of sobriety, what was your shoelace? What made you drink again...?

"Oh man, as with so many men in sobriety, it was a lady friend..." Chad was going on a first date with a girl that he perceived to be way out of his league... Chad was so nervous and remembered how embarrassed he would feel if he had to explain on a first date that he doesn't drink... Looking back, Chad now knows that honesty is the answer. "One drink led to two drinks... And three months later I was back to blacking-out..." The girl left Chad after two months when she realized something just wasn't right. Chad believes that he had this experience so that he could add it to the long list of reasons why he doesn't drink.

Chad talks about recovery and his recovery portfolio.

Chad is working with a sponsor (AA) as he feels that he needs to get relief quickly. Chad is working one step every week right now -- it's like a mini 12-week program. AA is working for Chad and he is going to keep doing it... Besides listening to the RE podcast (Chad's favorites are RE 67 with Buddy and any that highlight the newly sober). "These relationships that we form (in recovery) go way beyond the face value of most relationships. People in recovery can relate on such a deeper level."

When your next shoelace comes, when life happens, what do you plan on doing differently?

Chad is now asking for help. "It's admitting that you need help, that I need to reach out for additional resources. I see this as a sign of being a man." It's calling his sponsor, connecting with his recovery groups/contacts, and listening to the RE podcast. It is a courageous thing to be vulnerable and ask for help.

Who's your favorite Atlanta hip-hop star?

Listen in to get an update on ATL stars from Paul & Chad!

Rapid Fire Round

1. What was your worst memory from drinking? "In November of 2015, I got behind the wheel of my car and decided to visit a friend 4 hours away... Short of the long of it, I woke up in jail the next day in Raven Co. I was off by quite a bit..."
2. Did you ever have an "oh-shit" moment? "37 days ago when a co-worker pulled me aside and asked me if I was drunk in a meeting. It was no longer a personal thing."
3. What is your plan in sobriety moving forward? "Continue to utilize and build 'that' network. I'm so afraid to ask for help, so if I'm constantly surrounding myself with other alcoholics in recovery I know that I can always reach out for help."
4. What's your favorite resource in recovery? "On Reddit - Stop Drinking sub-Reddit, where people can chat in a forum, and SMART recovery."
5. What's the best advice you've ever received (on sobriety)? "Footwork. It's what action you're taking in order to stay sober the next day. Putting one foot in front of the other."
6. What parting piece of guidance can you give to our listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? "Listen to the examples that people have provided, examine the evidence and determine for yourself what you're willing to do to get back on track and to be happy because what you're doing right now clearly isn't working. Take an objective look and take action."

QUOTABLES

"When you make it through a craving, that feeling of accomplishment, that general good feeling... That's the new high that I'm chasing." - Chad

"I'm finally doing it for myself, not for other people." - Chad

"You might be an alcoholic if you get behind the wheel of a car with 2-bottles of vodka and end up floatin' in a canoe in Raven Co. where they filmed Deliverance... You might have a problem." - Chad

"We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up. WE can do this!"

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Today we have Julie, with 118 days of sobriety. This is how she quit.

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

Today's Sponsor: Café RE Use the promo code CONNECT for one free month in the alcohol-free community Café RE.

Join Cafe RE in April for a trip to PERU! Trip details can be found here: http://www.recoveryelevator.com/peru/

Rockstars Who are Sober:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/12-rock-stars-proud-to-be-sober/#/most-popular

http://www.eonline.com/news/271628/amy-winehouse-s-cause-of-death-accidental-alcohol-poisoning-blood-level-five-times-the-legal-limit

Good reads mentioned by Julie:

Drinking: A Love Story, by Caroline Knapp

Let's Take the Long Way Home: A Memoir of Friendship, by Gail Caldwell

SHOW NOTES

Paul Introduces Julie

Julie has been sober for 118 days. Julie is 46, she grew up in Annapolis and Germany. She has been working with the same marketing company for 20 years. Julie is on her 4th year in a relationship with a great guy who is a normal drinker. She loves to stay active and be outside.

What are you going to do differently this time?

Julie was sober for 129 days before relapsing at a wedding. Now, the next thing for her is to get to 130 days. Julie was "white-knuckling" it, doing it all on her own. This time around, the difference is that Julie is reaching out and connecting through Cafe RE, sober friends, and she is holding herself accountable.

Julie speaks on how to tell your friends, "I don't drink,"

Talk to me about your bottom?

"I let down a friend. I had promised to help a friend at a certain time. I drank. And I passed out… Sleeping through my commitment." Despite many other signs that somehow didn't get Julie to quit for very long… this was the final trigger. "I'd have many incidents where I would stop for one to three days, but this last one was it."

What were your drinking habits like?

"I was a wine drinker. When one (referring to either 'red' or 'white') would present a problem to me, I would switch. Sometimes it was 'red' and then it was 'white.' I don't like beer or hard liquor. In High School I felt that my shyness was hurting me, so I started drinking to "loosen-up." Come college, I'd be the one passed out on the couch. It never occurred to me that I had a problem. In my 30s, it got pretty scary. I started drinking alone. I just took the ball and ran with it."

Did you ever try to "cut-back" and put rules in place?

Julie played games. The 'red' wine, 'white' wine game. She wouldn't keep wine in the house, but would play games where she based her whole lifestyle around the wine shop hours. She used day/time constraints to "control" the drinking… Shockingly, it didn't work. "I remember standing on my front porch thinking, drinking is my biggest problem ever." Julie used to drink to calm her anxiety, but what she found was that drinking actually caused anxiety.

Walk me through the start of your sobriety.

"Whatever works for you, grab it and go with it!" Julie does not participate in AA, but sees it as a very valid way to support a sober journey. Julie uses the Cafe RE Facebook group to connect and create sober like-minded friends. Julie reads a lot of books, listens to podcasts, and connects with others.

What does your recovery portfolio look like today?

"In recovery, I have a whole lot more free time." Julie is very connected to Cafe RE's Facebook Group (unsearchable and private group).

Rapid Fire Round

1. What was your worst memory from drinking? "I passed out in an Uber and the driver couldn't wake me up when he got to my house so he called an ambulance."
2. Did you ever have an "oh-shit" moment? "I had a couple of these… My habit was that I would take my wine to bed. I wanted to be safe, so I'd take my wine to bed… If I woke up at 6am and there was still wine left, I'd finish the bottle."
3. What is your plan in sobriety moving forward? "I'm going to stick with Cafe RE, the facebook page, and continue reaching out and connecting and sharing with people."
4. What's your favorite resource in recovery? Besides Cafe RE! "Drinking: A Love Story, a book by a woman who has now passed away. She wrote about her drinking story in a way that I was able to connect with." Julie also mentions, Let's Take the Long Way Home: A Memoir of Friendship.
5. What's the best advice you've ever received (on sobriety)? "Life is better sober."
6. What parting piece of guidance can you give to our listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? "You can do it. It is absolutely possible. You just can." Julie recognizes that she is in early sobriety, "But, it is doable!"
7. What did you lose to alcohol? "I lost a lot of self respect and I lost time. I lost evenings to red wine. But, the good news is as soon as you stop, you get those back."
8. What advice would you give to your younger self? "I wish I never started drinking. I was just fine the way I was, I didn't need to fit it."
9. What's on your bucket list? "My goal is to visit 50 countries by the time I'm 50, including going to the Galapagos and on a safari."

QUOTABLES

"That's the thing I didn't know about our problem, it doesn't back dial. It just picks up right where you left off." - Julie

"There is no better time to get sober. If today is the very best day to quit alcohol, do it." - Paul

"You might be an alcoholic is you shop for the test online that is going to tell you that you aren't an alcoholic." - Julie

SOBER & NOT-SO-FORTUNATE MUSICIANS

We can learn from the past. Although some stories are not so bright, we can learn from the successes and the tragedies of others. Some of the musicians below made it and are still able to share their art and creativity with the world... Unfortunately, some were not so lucky and left this world too early.

Sober Musicians

Steven Tyler - The Aerosmith frontman maintained sobriety for 12 years when he became seriously clean in 1988. Though that streak was compromised by a relapse into prescription drug addiction in 2006, Tyler checked himself into the Betty Ford Clinic three years later and has said to be dedicated to his sobriety ever since.

Neil Young - Young finally commented publicly about his sobriety two years ago, stating that he had achieved sobriety in 2011 after decades of alcohol and drug use. According to Young, he wanted to see what his life would look like from a sober perspective and has been going strong, viewing life with a new lens for over three years now.

Eric Clapton - Clapton, who has made a career off of his work with Cream as well as his solo work, has been sober since the late 1980s. He is publicly dedicated to recovery, holding benefit concerts and acting as founder of Crossroads Centre, an addiction treatment center in Antigua.

Elton John - Elton John has been sober for over 20 years. The main source of inspiration for his own sobriety was witnessing the death of Ryan White, an Indiana teenager and poster child for HIV/AIDS. John felt that as a gay man he needed to get his life together to help those suffering from HIV. According to many different sources, John claims that getting sober has been his greatest achievement.

Ringo Starr - The drummer from The Beatles has been sober since the 80s-- a time which he has referred to as an "alcoholic haze." Today, he exercises three times a week, practices daily meditation and is a vegetarian.

Tom Waits - Known for his booze-drenched voice and persona, Waits has been sober for over 20 years now and credits his wife Kathleen in helping him get there. The singer went to AA and though he's happy to be in recovery now, says that it was a struggle.

Keith Urban - Keith Urban has battled with drug and alcohol addiction since the 90s and also salutes his wife, Nicole Kidman, for intervening and helping him achieve sobriety--though he also indirectly attributes her to be the cause of his relapse. After being sober for six years in 2004, Urban found himself drinking again after marrying Kidman and having to cope with time apart during her filming obligations. One day, after returning home from a shoot, Kidman staged an intervention. Urban reentered rehab in October 2006 and rededicated himself to sobriety.

Anthony Kiedis - Kiedis, the singer for the Red Hot Chili Peppers, has been sober for years after having grown up alongside an addict (his father) and later becoming one himself. Now, he's dedicated to fitness and Men's Fitness has listed him as having one of the best rock star abs.

Chris Martin - Coldplay's front man openly talks about the days when he used to use, but he is now dedicated to clean and sober living. In fact the musician doesn't even drink coffee today.

James Hetfield - The Metallica singer entered rehab in 2001 and has been sober ever since. His journey has been documented in the film Some Kind of Monster.

Moby - Moby is known for his straight-edge Christian (though he's not really Christian) look but this musician had more passed-out drunk moments than revelations in the 90s. After fearing that he was going to lose his memory from all the drug use, he left New York a few years ago to start over in LA and began attending AA meetings.

David Bowie - Bowie spent decades off the wagon due to a heavy cocaine addiction, but finally kicked the habit sometime in his 50s. Now, at the age of 68, he is enjoying a full life in sobriety with model wife Iman.

Not so fortunate Musicians

Amy Winehouse - Honorable British musician Amy Winehouse died of an alcohol addiction in 2011. Known for her eclectic style and deep contralto vocals, Winehouse had much going for her but turned to drugs and alcohol due to stress and her sad life story. ***Tune in to RE81 for a full story on Amy Winehouse, her struggle and ultimate demise from alcohol.***

Whitney Houston - Singer Whitney Houston, cited by the Guinness World Records as the most awarded female act of all time, was repeatedly in and out of rehab. She passed away in 2012, allegedly as a result of her addiction.

Flava Flav - Rapper Flava Flav has had his license suspended as a result of DUIs at least 43 times.

Billie Holiday - Holiday suffered from alcoholism for most of her life. She died of pulmonary edema and heart failure caused by alcohol induced cirrhosis of the liver on July 17,1959. She was 44 years old.

Bon Scott - AC/DC singer Bon Scott died of alcohol poisoning combined with choking on his own vomit after night of heavy drinking on February 19, 1980. He was 33 years old.

Hank Williams (the original) - On January 1, 1953, Hank Williams died as a result of hemorrhages in his heart and neck. His chronic alcohol abuse was believed to be a factor in his death at age 29.

Jim Morrison - On July 3, 1971, Jim Morrison died of a heroin overdose after a night of heavy drinking (accounts are hazy and disputed, but we're going to allow his inclusion). He was 27 years old.

John Bonham - On September 25 1980, Led Zeppelin drummer John Bonham died after drinking over one liter of vodka. He died choking on his own vomit. He was 32 years old.

Keith Whitley - Country musician Keith Whitley died of alcoholism on May 9, 1989. His blood alcohol level was .47 at the time of his death. Whitley was 34 years old.

Lester Young - On March 15, 1959, Jazz musician Lester Young died from heart failure after years of alcohol abuse. He was 49 years old.

"We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up, we can do this!"

Today we have Lo, with 7.5 months of sobriety. This is how she quit.

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FYI! Alcoholism does not discriminate. It is straight-up an equal, all around ass-kicker… Alcoholism does not care about your gender, race, social status, height, weight, athletic prowess, economic status or celeb status. Yep, that's right, this mean celebrities can be alcoholics too! It's just that you don't ever hear about the list of celebs that fade away because their drinking habits become too much… They just literally fade away. Adios…

But, what you maybe didn't know is the list of recovering alcoholics that run the Hollywood gamut. So here it goes, a short list of the Famous & Sober: Stephen King, Ben Affleck (rehab in 2001), Michael J. Fox, Jamie Lee Curtis, Diana Ross, Mel Gibson, Johnny Depp, Mickey Mantle, Eminem, Anthony Hopkins, and Harry Potter (became sober is 2010).

Resources mentioned in this episode:

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SHOW NOTES

[ 08:40 ] Paul Introduces Lo

Lo has been sober for 7.5 months. She is originally from Northern Minnesota with a bad (but proud) habit of moving back to Bozeman, Montana time and time again. "It has been a good place to keep coming back to." Lo is a massage therapist. She enjoys running, hiking, coffee, theatre, and is rediscovering her passion for art. "There are so many more hours in the day now that I'm practicing sobriety," comments Lo on making time for creativity and art.

[ 10:52 ] What brought you to the decision to stop drinking?

"I surrendered enough." It took Lo close to a year to truly decide to get an AA sponsor and stick with the plan. "The previous day I had wanted to drink so bad. The next day it returned, so I drank. It was enough, the shame, the guilt, the wanting to commit suicide the next day. It was enough. My emotional hangovers were just so heavy."

[ 14:29 ] Did you have any 'plans'?

"Sometimes I would wake up and feel shitty enough that I didn't want to drink. My therapist told me to try to have only x amount of drinks per week… I usually hit the mark by Monday or Tuesday. I would tally up the drinks at the end of the week, and I just never could make it…"

[ 17:23 ] How did you do it 7.5 months ago?

"I finally got serious with the program (referring to AA). It took me several months to come to the understanding that I was an alcoholic. It was time to take the program seriously."

[ 19:45 ] Paul refers to the idea of "breaking up with the word alcoholic."

Check out RE #75 for more on this!

[ 21:07 ] Lo speaks about her struggles, discovering who she is and what having a higher power means to her.

"I have to learn to trust it. To let go." Lo finds relief in this technique, knowing that she has relief from her mind and anxiety.

[ 25:39 ] What does your recovery portfolio look like today? Walk me through a day in recovery with Lo.

Lo gets out for a morning run a couple times a week, drinks coffee, meditates, and tries to stay conscious of being connected to her higher power. Lo also stays in contact with people from the program (AA), texting, calling and just connecting.

[ 31:48 ] Lo talks about the 'Pink Cloud' that has not shown up yet.

[ 29:00 ] Rapid Fire Round

1. What was your worst memory from drinking? "Last summer when I drank TOO much. I wasn't planning on drinking that evening and then had a suicide attempt."
2. What is your favorite Flow Riders song? "That's a great band!" Paul is also a comedian...
3. Did you ever have an "oh-shit" moment? "The same night that I had the suicide attempt. My actions were just going down a road that I wasn't even thinking about."
4. What is your plan moving forward? "Keeping up with my friendships, connecting, going to meetings and listening to RE."
5. What's your favorite resource in recovery? "AA Program and the Podcast (RE)."
6. What's the best advice you've ever received (on sobriety)? "The goal is not to feel better about life, but to stay sober."
7. What parting piece of guidance can you give to our listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? "It's worth all the hard work and it will pay off. Don't quit before the miracle happens."

QUOTABLES

"Adios alcohol, welcome back hobbies and passions." - Paul

"If you're concerned enough about your drinking and you're at an AA meeting (you're probably an alcoholic)" - Lo

"We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up, we can do this!"

Today we have Randy, with 124 days of sobriety. This is how he quit.

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Ponder this. We have been conditioned to think that alcohol is relaxing. Now, cue the visions of a Corona commercial; a couple on the beach, kicking back beer after beer… In fact this notion of "relaxation" has the exact opposite effect on our bodies. Alcohol actually slows down your brain's function, affecting two neurotransmitters, Glutamate and GABA. Glutamate is an excitatory neurotransmitter that is released by nerve cells in the brain. It is responsible for sending signals between nerve cells, and under normal conditions it plays an important role in learning and memory. When we consume alcohol, Glutamate production slows W-A-Y down, completely bogging down your brain's neuro-highways. GABA, is an inhibitory neurotransmitter that reduces energy and slows down brain activity. Alcohol increases GABA productions…. Folks, that is just not a good thing. This process starts instantly after just one drink… And stays with you long after you stop drinking…

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SHOW NOTES

[ 07:34 ] Paul Introduces Randy

Randy has been sober for 124 days (using the sobriety tracker). "It feels great, every day is a new experience." Randy is from the East Coast (grew up in RI) and made his way around the world in the Air Force. Randy found his career through the military. Randy now works in aviation with the FAA in Guam, U.S.A. Randy is a hardcore cyclist, with a renewed passion for pedaling.

[ 11:29 ] What was your elevator like? What was your bottom?

"I'd been a lifelong drinker and never thought that I would have a problem, I thought drinking to some degree was healthy…" Randy made all kinds of "plans"… a 30-day sober binge, operating in moderation, writing, using apps, etc… "IT DID NOT WORK!"… "I have that switch, once you turn it on, it doesn't really turn itself off…"

In preparation for his daughter's baby shower, Randy noticed that he went through a 6-pack within an hour… He quickly opened up the next 6-pack and shortly thereafter found himself drinking a bottle of wine… "The next morning I'm completely useless, I wasn't there, I wasn't available…" The shower happened and the next day I thought to myself, "I don't want to do this anymore, that continuous vicious cycle."

[ 26:30 ] Randy speaks about his clarity and peace of mind being sober.

[ 26:59 ] What does your recovery portfolio look like today? Walk me through a day in the life of Randy.

"It's staying engaged with the process and the journey of sobriety. I think about alcohol multiple times throughout the day, and then I just have to let it go…" "Yeah, yeah, there's the beer (commenting on the coolers full of beer @ Kmart)," says Randy. "Just noticing these thoughts and letting them go, constantly reminding myself why I'm doing this. Cafe RE is the strongest network that I have. I've been to one meeting (AA), and it was a candlelight vigil. I just haven't found myself showing up at meetings, just not yet anyways."

[ 36:02 ] Rapid Fire Round

1. What was your worst memory from drinking? "The day that I ran my own sailboat on the ground. I haven't shared this with too many people, I nearly lost my boat that day and it was absolutely alcohol related. I was boating under the influence and couldn't execute all of the steps necessary to avoid the reef."
2. Did you ever have an "oh-shit" moment? "Oh many! The sailboat ride where I had my hand in the cooler for 8 hours was one for sure…"
3. What is your plan moving forward? "More of the same. Reminding myself of all of the positive things that have come from leaving alcohol behind. And, living my life! Just knowing that I don't have to have a drink to experience things."
4. What's the best advice you've ever received (on sobriety)? "Listening to yourself. If it doesn't feel right to you, then it probably isn't okay."
5. What parting piece of guidance can you give to our listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? "Just to be honest with yourself. If you wake up with that heavy feeling like you've gotta take action, do it. Don't beat yourself up, listen to yourself and take it one day at a time."
6. What brand of boat shoes would you recommend? "If you've got a boat, you don't need shoes… unless you've got a staff…" You've got listen to really get it!

QUOTABLES

"Enough is enough. I was tired of waking up with that dull, heavy feeling in the mornings." - Randy

"I've got to take this one day at a time." - Randy

"If you're a real boater, you don't need shoes." - Paul

"Maintain a clean deck." - Randy

"We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up. WE can do this!"

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Today we have Annie has been sober for 2 years. This is how she quit. She never thought twice about her drinking because she didn't know enough about it. Annie started journaling about her drinking habits as an exploration in March of 2013 which enabled her to stop drinking in December of 2013. Annie is from Colorado and works in marketing. She is married with children and loves the outdoors (hiking, skiing).

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[ 02:08 ] When did your Elevator hit its bottom? When did you finally decide to stop drinking?

Annie was living in London when her Elevator hit bottom the first time. Annie and her family were going to the London Eye (an amusement park) and she had decided it was a good idea to bring in two large beers, packed in her purse, to sip on. "I dropped my purse and the beers exploded, spraying beer all over my children and my parents." "I had a 'What the fuck has happened, what am I doing?' moment right then." On another trip, Annie was traveling all over the world for work, she comments, "You'd take off on the airplane and get drunk, and then I'd justify having drinks in the lounge… I was pretty much existing on coffee and alcohol. I realized that I had to get back into regular mommy life. I just remember sitting there thinking, Whoa, what is this?'"

[ 04:27 ] Talk to me about your drinking habits?

"The plans are my worst enemy! As soon as you start to try to stop something, it becomes even more tempting. It's like putting yourself on a diet." Annie had all sorts of ideas/plans: no drinking until 5pm, only having 2 glasses of wine (but after two she didn't care how many more she consumed), trying to have a sober day... "I remember finding an excuse every single day to drink. I was driving myself further and further into separateness and defensiveness."

[ 06:31 ] How did you make the change (into sobriety)?

"I didn't seek help. I just didn't know any better. I didn't know what I didn't know (referring to all the resources out there). I had a different kind of 'talking-to' with myself one day in the Heathrow airport, I decided to give myself permission to write about this, to explore this in a mindful way." Dr. John Sarno's work really inspired Annie to dive deeper into understanding her need to drink.

[ 09:59 ] What was it like?

Annie's research took her on a journey for 8-9 months. "I was still drinking during the research, but by the time I stopped, I had made peace with it. On an emotional level, I felt free." "It was like being sick to save my life for about a month. There were a lot of tears and a lot of laughter and joy."

[ 13:23 ] This Naked Mind - Control Alcohol by Annie Grace

Paul lets the Cat out of the Bag (meow!) - Annie Grace wrote, "This Naked Mind - Control Alcohol". It is a MUST read for recovery.

[ 14:40 ] What was the push back like after writing a book that wasn't based on AA?

"I questioned the word 'alcoholic' because in my research, any organism can become addicted to something. I took issue with this because we are all built with flesh, blood, bones, and cells… We are all the same. The word 'alcoholic' is really a solace for people."

[ 20:12 ] Annie talks about the Hedonic Threshold and the fact that alcohol is just plain addictive.

[ 25:17 ] What is the difference between the conscious and the unconscious mind?

Annie speaks wholeheartedly about protecting her unconscious mind and understanding the need to have self-compassion, self-worth and acceptance in this process.

[ 31:15 ] Annie's Projects

This Naked Mind - Control Alcohol is available on Amazon. She is also working on a second book that focuses on the first few years of her sobriety, highlighting techniques she used to maintain a clean and naked mind and keep the garbage out. Annie is also putting together a video-based course complete with worksheets and exercises that she hopes to launch this Fall (2016).

[ 32:12 ] Rapid Fire Round

1. What was your worst memory from drinking? [ 32:20 ] "Not having the memories. I don't remember moving day and moving days are supposed to be special. I lost that day."
2. Did you ever have an "oh-shit" moment? [ 32:52 ] "I had a lot of those. They were all at 3AM when I'd wake up and couldn't remember how much I'd drank the night before."
3. What's your plan in sobriety moving forward? [ 33:10 ] "Continuously protecting my unconscious mind, continuously asking "why" and "what."
4. What is your favorite resource in recovery? [ 33:33 ] "Ten minutes of watching my breath every single day."
5. What's the best advice you've ever received (on sobriety)? [ 34:11 ] "It's more about living than it is about sobriety. Living alcohol free and living your life."
6. What parting piece of guidance can you give to our listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? [ 34:56 ] "Right now, in this moment, FORGIVE YOURSELF. Realize that you've been caught in an addictive trap. The sooner you can get to a place of acceptance and love yourself through this, opens the journey to becoming sober."

QUOTABLES

"There are so many people who are heavy drinkers, who don't believe they are alcoholics, because we use it (the word 'alcoholic') as a shield to defend our addiction." - Annie Grace

"Shame, guilt and self-loathing just don't work. We need understanding, acceptance and love." - Annie Grace

"Acceptance is the answer." - Paul

"As soon as you start to try to stop something, it becomes even more tempting. It's like putting yourself on a diet." - Annie Grace

Resources Mentioned in this Episode

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"We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up, we can do this!"

Today we have Westin, with over 3 years of sobriety. This is how he quit.

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Some of my best memories are those of camping with my family in Southern Utah. Camping growing up used to consist of fishing, catching lizards and snakes, watching the sunrise and sunsets.

It was a simple and joyous time that I spent with my family. These are fond memories. But, somewhere along the line, my camping experiences diminished, the joy of spending time in nature was replaced with Hot Dogs, Booze and Passing Out.

Last weekend, I was camping with Ben (my partner in crime, my four-footed friend), we had called it a night and crawled into the back of my truck in the woods of Montana. Now, these are real woods, mountain lions, grizzlies, etc. Nature is not to be taken for granted around here. Suddenly, around 2am, I awoke to Ben's perked ears and sounds of snapping branches. The sounds grew louder as whatever was roaming the woods got closer… I reached for my headlamp… And...

GOATS! Rocky Mountain Goats, a herd of them… Now, if I had been camping with Hot Dogs and Booze I would have been PASSED OUT (probably face down in a pile of biting red ants at that!) and would never have experienced this beauty, this joy. The Goats brought me out of the truck where I was then able to see the expansiveness of the sky and the stars and experience the cooling sensations of the pine trees. Nothing needed to change. I didn't need to drink a Keystone Light or 50 of them…

I am now getting back my memories and creating new memories that are more than just a party. Memories such as this that fill me up with satisfaction, connection, and awe.

AND NOW… onto the podcast!

SHOW NOTES

Paul Introduces Westin

Westin is from Indianapolis, Indiana. He is 33, has been married for 7 years, and has an amazing little girl who is turning 4 in September. "She is the most important thing in my life alongside my sobriety." Westin works at an addiction treatment center as a "Recovery Coach."

How long have you been sober?

Westin has been sober for 2 years and 363 days, he is 2 days away from 3 years of sobriety! "Right now I'm in a place where I have to count days again. I'm in a weird place where I just have to count." says Westin on his sobriety.

When did you realize it was time to quit drinking?

"My bottom was 3 years ago almost to the date. I woke up face down on my Mom's couch, not knowing how I got there, and not knowing what happened over the past 24 hours. I was highly addicted to Klonopin and drinking on top of them. I looked up from the couch and just saw this look of utter disappointment on my Mom's face. It was different. I had unknowingly gone through her medicine cabinet the night before, and found all sorts of pills in my pockets."

What were your drinking habits?

"I was a blackout drinker from the age of 17. I was never trying to control it, I thought it was normal. I was proud of the amount of alcohol I could consume…" "But, I was physically addicted to it… Always struggling with anxiety and shaking. I couldn't function without that first drink, and then the pills took over."

What does it mean, when you're back to counting the days?

In the early days of sobriety Westin was counting: 30 days, 60 days, 90 days, 1-year sober… Getting those next tokens, proving to himself that he could do this. "I needed the external motivation. From 2-years sober to just now I didn't count, I didn't need to, but now, I'm back to counting the individual days. I've been referencing my sobriety tracker, and just trying to get through each day. It's not a comfortable feeling."

The whole 'God' word in AA. That one word kept you from getting sober… Expand on that.

Westin discusses his "religious" philosophy and how he made AA work as an agnostic. Westin had been agnostic (without knowledge, an individual who does not claim to say whether God exists or does not exist) most of his life. AA taught Westin to own his agnosticism, his belief system. "I'm now more comfortable being honest and open with who I am, and AA taught me this. I found a way to make my beliefs, or lack thereof, work within the framework of AA." The gift of desperation allowed Westin to take what works and leave the rest…

How did you do it? (on getting sober)

Westin went to a treatment center, Fairbanks Hospital in Indianapolis. "I looked at my wife and said, I think I need some help with this."… "We tried to do a walk in, but like a good addict I had just finished the rest of my klonopin refill (half of the prescription), so I had to wait. I went through a 7-day long detox and then a 6-week intensive outpatient treatment."

What emotions did you feel?

"I had anxiety through the roof. Drinking brought about terrible, terrible anxiety… But now, I didn't have my self medicating procedures in place. I had to face it. My anxiety was peaked out for 6 months. Drinking was not an option." "That was my first time going into treatment, I had been looking for a solution, and I just kept doing all the things that were recommended to me. I still struggle with social anxiety. I still can't attend a basketball game or a big social event…"

What is your recovery portfolio like today?

"My recovery is inspired by my work, surrounded by people who are on this same journey. I don't want to be that guy who is physically in shambles and I get to see that every day. I attend a minimum of 2-3 meetings a week. If I'm struggling, I hit the meetings hard." Westin takes a holistic approach that includes: AA and the 12 steps, eating better, daily physical exercise, and alone time…

Rapid Fire Round

1. What was your worst memory from drinking? "Waking up with the shakes, just yelling out in pain with the convulsion I was feeling in my body."
2. Did you ever have an "oh-shit" moment? "In retrospect, yes. I was drinking at my Mom's house, everyone else had gone to bed and I'm up taking shots by myself… She comes downstairs and gives me that look like, "What is wrong with you?!" I was past the point of control."
3. What is your plan moving forward? "Continue moving forward one day at a time, continue being teachable, and sharing my experiences with others."
4. What's your favorite resource in recovery? "Meetings are really, really important along with interactions with recovery podcasts - Recovered Podcast & Beyond Belief - and the recovery community."
5. What's the best advice you've ever received (on sobriety)? "Take what works and leave the rest."
6. What parting piece of guidance can you give to our listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? "If I can find a way to make this work, then literally anybody can. Anybody can find a way to make it for them."

QUOTABLES

"I need to get plugged-in, connected back to my recovery network." - Paul (on being in a recovery rut)

"Take what works, and leave the rest." - Westin

You might be an alcoholic if…

"You continue to drink once everybody else has been asleep for hours."

"If you are still thirsty at 2am in the morning."

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"We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up, we can do this!"

Today we have Simon, with 15 years of sobriety, shares how he did. Three years ago, Simon started the Hope Rehab Center in Thailand and has been helping people change transform their lives.

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The Conscious and the unconscious mind. I recently read the book "This Naked Mind - Control Alcohol" by Annie Grace and the chapter covering the how the brain worked was fascinating.

Conscious: Aware of something, knowing that something exists or is happening.

Unconscious: The part of the mind a person is not aware of but is a powerful force in controlling behavior.

Consciousness: Being aware of something within oneself. The upper level of mental life that a person is aware of as contrasted with unconscious process.

Warning: This may blow your mind...

• The unconscious mind is responsible for desires
• Studies show, we have two separate thinking systems. The conscious mind, and the unconscious mind
• When we want something to change in our life, we usually make a conscious decision. However, drinking is no longer a conscious decision.
• The unconscious mind doesn't get the memo
• Unconscious learning happens automatically and unintentionally
• We are conditioned to think drinking enhances our lives and makes us happy
• This is why when we want to drink less, our unconscious mind tells us to drink more. Insert major dilemma here.
• We have been conditioned to believe in alcohol. To believe that me and some random captain would make it happen.
• The unconscious mind is not logical. It's comprised of feelings, observations. It's the source of love, jealousy, fear, kindness and sadness.
• When a person makes a decision to quit drinking alcohol, their unconscious mind is never in on that conversation. Gary, pull up a chair.
• Studies dating back to the 1970's indicate our unconscious mind makes 1/3 of a second fast than our conscious mind.
• The unconscious mind controls the emotions. When someone tells yourself to stop having a bad day, that never works. But over time, this positive reinforcement can work.
• Liminal thinking, which we will get to in later podcast episodes, is how will cover how to converse with the unconscious mind.
• The unconscious mind is formed by beliefs, conclusions, assumptions, experiences and observations. Often time, it is far separated from reality which is where the conscious mind lives.
• Our culture of drinking makes everything better has been ingrained into our unconscious mind without us ever knowing. One easy way to challenge this, which we often never do, is look for external validity. For example, the bud light makes you a better beach volleyball player. Go to a beach and try to find a real life example if this. It won't happen.
• We let the unconscious mind determine our thinking because we like certainty. In the conscious mind, there is so much unknown and that is always scary. The unconscious mind is a bubble of safety where we feel comfortable.
• Why did I find it so hard to quit drinking? Well, I knew I wouldn't have a good time at a social event sober, I knew I wasn't funny, I knew I wouldn't be able to chat with girls. I never stood a chance at quitting drinking unless a pain point was strong enough, aka, the bottom.
• We can address this by bringing unconscious experiences, observations, assumptions and conclusions, into conscious thought. We do this through knowledge.
• Before we drank alcohol, we were happy joyous and free, we didn't miss it.
• The Author Terry Pratchett says, we need to be able to at any time, accept that fact that we all could be absolute and utterly wrong.

Today we have Paul, with 18.5 months of sobriety. This is how he quit.

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That's right, I'm breaking up with the word alcoholic and opting for a simpler less defining answer of I don't drink.

I got the idea for this podcast after reading the following article and I hope you like the show notes. As you can probably tell, I've had some recent help with show notes since mine leave much to still be desired.

COUNT ME OUT OF "RECOVERY NATION" - NEGATIVE SELF-IDENTITY IS THE CRUELEST STIGMA

(Stanton Peele: July 7th, 2016)

1. The labels "alcoholic", "addicts", and "in recovery" dehumanizes people, both for the person

themselves and their children.

-Influence contributor, Meghan Ralston, wrote in her article (I'm Breaking Up With the Word

Addict),

Agree - "Even in a chaotic stage of drug use, we are not "other." We are women, we are someone's daughter, we continue to laugh, we continue to like jazz and cheeseburgers and comfy pajamas. We cry, we get so lonely, we hate sitting in traffic. Addiction can be wretched, no question, but we do not ever stop being human beings, even during the times in our lives when we are dependent on drugs."

Disagree - "For many people, myself included, the word "addict" is incredibly harmful and offensive. You do not have my permission to call me an addict. You can of course refer to yourself as an addict, if you wish."[1]

1. Don't refer to yourself as an "addict."

-It's depressing

-No one should highlight/define themselves by their worst trait or period in

their life.

1. These concepts arose in conversation between Dr. Peele and Talk Recovery Radio:

"Dr. Stanton Peele was today's thought provoking live guest on Talk Recovery.… our show is meant to be a platform where all pathways to recovery are welcomed to be discussed… But today, that almost didn't happen. There was an 'us and them' feel to the show… Why do people feel the word addict is stigmatizing?"[2]

-Peele explains that the host seemed to feel that he was part of a movement

that set people recovering apart from everyone else.

-Culture seems to encourage this separation.

-public policies

-celebrities' confessionals

-treatment circles

-recovery high schools

-etc.

-Show host ironically wonders why there's a stigma towards addicts while he himself labels

himself as one.

1. Peele refuses to label himself by marching with Recovery Nation, a group that lets themselves be lead

by their labels.

-"Thinking of yourself as an alcoholic causes you to behave the way you think alcoholics

behave."

-To quote Peele and Ilse Thompson,

"You are not your addiction; you are a valuable human being whose qualities endure and exceed your addiction. … It's impossible to expect a person to achieve wellness by focusing on his or her faults and mistakes. Perhaps this is why conventional recovery asserts that people must remain 'in recovery' forever and continue to identify themselves as addicts, no matter how long they are sober."[3]

-Today people seem to expect labeling. Peele states,

"Imagine a child with a learning difficulty looking at you and saying, 'I am retarded,' or 'I am stupid.' We would cry and hug them and tell them that wasn't true!"

-Peele goes on to pose the question of why it is that people always discourage each other from

identifying themselves by their problems or illnesses, except when it comes to addiction.

-While debating former head of treatment at Hazelden, Peele asked how he short-circuited his family

heritage.

-While the clinician had a cynically humorous answer, Peele gave his answer for the man to the

radio show hosts. The method to preventing his children from taking on addictive traits was to

raise them in emotionally and financially stable home, encourage them, provide for them, and

allow them to be who they want to be.

-What doesn't help children, is to burden them with the "destiny" that they would most likely be

an alcoholic.

-The "tough love" approach often comes in too late, Peele says.

-Before a child can misbehave during drug use, you ought to instill him with morals of

responsibility to themselves and others.

-Peele is reframing addiction in an opposite direction from the "disease" mindset. He puts it like this:

"Addiction is not a consequence of taking drugs and drinking. Rather, it arises from the way in which these and other compelling activities fit into people's lives and meanings."

-To end the interview, Peele asked how the show host quit smoking cigarettes.

-His response was that his recovery program didn't allow it, but also that it didn't allow him to

call himself a cigarette addict. Rather, they insisted on the generic term addict.

-He then was able to quit smoking (one of the hardest substance addictions) without patches.

This was because it didn't address smoking, or label them as cigarette smokers.

FOR COPYRIGHT PURPOSES

All content read here has been cited appropriately. The content is based majorly from the article written by Doctor Stanton Peele: Count Me Out of "Recovery Nation" - Negative Self-Identity Is the Cruelest Stigma of All. For original sources, please consult the bibliography located below.

BIBLIOGRAPHY

1. Peele, Stanton Dr. "Count Me Out of 'Recovery Nation': Negative Self-Identity Is the Cruelest Stigma of All." The Influence (blog), July 7, 2016. Accessed July 14, 2016.http://theinfluence.org/count-me-out-of-recovery-nation-negative-self-identity-is-the-cruelest-stigma-of-all/.

1. Peele, Stanton. Recover! An Empowering Program to Help You Stop Thinking Like an Addict and Reclaim Your Life. Boston, MA: Da Capo Press, 2015.

1. Talk Recovery. "Interview with Doctor Stanton Peele (Facebook Post)." World Addiction Treatment Expert Dr. Stanton Peele | Last Door(blog), June 30, 2016. Accessed July 14, 2016.https://www.lastdoor.org/world-addiction-treatment-expert-dr-stanton-peele/.

4.Ralston, Meghan. "I'm Breaking up with the Word 'addict' and i Hope You'll Do the Same." The Huffington Post (March 25, 2014): 1. Accessed July 14, 2016.http://www.huffingtonpost.com/meghan-ralston/breaking-up-with-the-word-addict_b_5028999.html.

[1] Meghan Ralston, "I'm Breaking up with the Word 'addict' and I Hope You'll Do the Same," The Huffington Post (March 25, 2014): 1, accessed July 14, 2016,http://www.huffingtonpost.com/meghan-ralston/breaking-up-with-the-word-addict_b_5028999.html.

[2] Talk Recovery, "Interview with Doctor Stanton Peele (Facebook Post)," World Addiction Treatment Expert Dr. Stanton Peele | Last Door (blog), June 30, 2016, accessed July 14, 2016, https://www.lastdoor.org/world-addiction-treatment-expert-dr-stanton-peele/.

[3] Stanton Peele, Recover! An Empowering Program to Help You Stop Thinking Like an Addict and Reclaim Your Life (Boston, MA: Da Capo Press, 2015).

Today we have Ronnie, with 25 years of sobriety. This is how he quit.

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We also discuss 50 ways to stay sober this summer.

Ronnie Marmo

Ronnie got sober a few times throughout his life, once at age 17 and again at age 20. At age 20, he found himself smoking crack on the sidewalk after 3 years of sobriety… One drink of alcohol was his gateway drug.

Ronnie's background:

Lives in L.A. and works as an actor and director, running two theater companies. Check out 68 Theatre Company. Ronnie is 45 and married with a dear family… For more information on Ronnie and his work - ronniemarmo.com.

Take us back to age 20...

Was that your bottom?

For me, "I was out of control ever since I started drinking. I always drank and got high in the same way. I was never a social drinker, I had no interest in drinking socially."

It went something like this - one gallon of vodka, one quart of Yukon Jack, and then I found myself waking up at a sober picnic. My sponsor asked me if I was humble enough… I said yes, and went back to rehab for the 3rd time.

What is it like being sober in your industry?

It's like anything, many people are sober, once you start talking "our" language. Those who do drink and get high, it's never an issue, but I tend to gravitate towards people who are sober.

Let's talk rules: Did you ever try to put rules into place?

"I thought alcohol was a problem, but I didn't think it was my biggest problem. I constantly negotiated with myself. Normal people don't hide bottles. Normal people don't wake up needing a drink."

People have gone on retreats and think that anxiety is the issue, or depression is the issues, when underneath it is really the alcohol.

Literally, every day of my life I spent my day trying to figure out how to get more booze.

Do you remember your first intensive rehab?

"I hadn't even seen the STEPS on the wall!"

Now, I have a healthy fear of booze.

Talk to me more about this healthy fear, I'm terrified of this stuff…

When I look at it, it's rare that I glorify a drink. When I see booze, I get nervous. If I ever take a second to glorify it. I immediately think I could destroy my life. It happens quickly.

That thought is so fleeting, it's not even an option.

Bill W. and Dr. Bob:

http://theatre68.com/

Playing in north Hollywood, CA

Soon to star in the movie, Back in the Day.

Walk me through a day in your sobriety:

I don't go to as many meetings as I should, but I never miss my Wednesday home meeting.

If I do these things daily:

• Give thanks

• Reach out to a newcomer

• Walk with love and grace

• Attend a meeting

If I don't do these things, life is just harder...

What are your thoughts on relapse:

It's a weird disease because you have to self-diagnose it. It's 2:30 in L.A. right now, if I had a drink right now, I'd be smoking crack by 7:30pm… Relapse doesn't have to happen, but if it does, hopefully you can choose sobriety again quickly.

What would you say to your younger Ronnie:

"The sooner you can get past being so dependent on the drink or the drug the sooner you can get on with your life, doing what you really want to do."

"No matter where you go or what you do, drink a lot of water and walk slow."

What's still on your bucketlist:

• Doing what I love
• Helping others
• Shoot a movie in Italy for a summer...

All these items are attainable with sobriety.

Rapid Fire Round:

1.What was your worst memory from drinking?

Stealing my mother's pocket book.

2.Did you ever have an oh-shit moment?

I had a spiritual awakening in the courtroom, asking the judge for help. The things that came out of my mouth were nothing that I had intended to say when I walked in.

3.What is your plan for sobriety moving forward?

Keep showing up and trying to be graceful, reaching out to others, and trying my best on a daily basis to stay with a formula that works. Keeping it super simple!

1. Favorite resources?

Meetings

1. Best advice you've ever received?

Drink a lot of water and walk slow

1. What parting piece of guidance can you give?

If you are thinking about it (getting sober) and it's on your mind, there's a really good chance that you should be doing it. Give it a really strong 90 days.

"You might be an alcoholic if…"

You might be an alcoholic if you steal from someone you love just to get a drink or a drug.

You might be an alcoholic if after 2 years of sobriety you take a drink and later you end up smoking crack.

Connect with Ronnie:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ronnie.marmo

Twitter: @Ronniemo22

50 Ways to stay sober this summer

1. Wear sun screen – Lots of sunscreen
2. La Croix Soda water. Drink lots of soda water
3. Enjoy time in a hot tub / spring or sauna
4. Beach trip: The small stream behind your neighbor's house even has a beach
5. Movie Day: The Anonymous People
6. Scroll through your phone contacts and call someone you did wrong in the past. Don't tell them what they did wrong, but what you did wrong
7. Binge watch old TV episodes: Prefably not Mad Men, they drink like fish
8. Yoga / Meditation
9. Create a new sober drink concoction. Watermelon and milk is one I stumbled upon
10. Do that fitness thing: Biking, swimming, whiffle ball, golf etc.
11. Join a Book Club that actually reads the book
12. Adopt-A-Pet, dog, cat, gecko
13. Think of the most pressing issue in your life right now… and then write down what your part of it is.
14. Go to a museum
15. Pinterest - find new recipes or a DIY project on Diypete.com
16. Google Mindfulness and what that really means
17. Buy a new car; one that you have never drank in
18. Learn how to shoot a bow and arrow
19. Find something like Jolly Ranchers to subside cravings
20. Build a pergola or Sauna at your house
21. Gauge your emotional sobriety (in the future) by purposefully removing the staples out of your stapler
22. Volunteer – be of service (This is a big one)
23. Acceptance is the answer - period
24. Take a look in the mirror and observe what you see. Get REal with yourself
25. New Hobbies- Painting / Coloring
26. Travel - take photos of you wearing your RE shirt
27. Fundraise for the Recovery Elevator trip to Peru in April 2017
28. Go to an outing wearing a shirt that says something like "sober as shit" so no one offers you a drink
29. Listen to the RE Podcast episode 52 – one of my favorites
30. Play a good natured joke someone
31. Pay for the person's order behind you – Regardless of what line you find yourself in
32. Attend a 12 step meeting on the other side of town that speaks a different language
33. Enjoy NA Drinks such as a virgin a piña colada
34. Announce to the world you're an Alcoholic via facebook and become accountable – the results will pleasantly surprise you
35. Read page 471 in the big blue book: daily
36. Once again, tell yourself acceptance is the answer
37. Put your forehead on a baseball bat, spin around 15 times, and give the person closest to you a hug
38. Google CBT - Charlie Beta Typhoid
39. Jump rope – I've never heard of a relapse while jump roping
40. We all know someone who should probably think about giving the bottle a rest. Invite them to Dairy Queen for their lunch specials from 11:30pm - 2pm and then take them to an AA meeting. They will most likely thank you later
41. Water balloon fight - freezing balloons the night before is optional
42. Watch the movie dodgeball with Ben Stiller, and then watch it again
43. Third Eye Blind – All of it - #bestbandever
44. Check out your local events calendar and go to an event you're not interested in attending
45. Laser Tag
46. Take a sober road trip with another sober buddy of at least 100 miles each way. On your way, stop and say hello to me in Bozeman MT
47. Get flowers or a gift card for someone you absolutely cannot stand to be around
48. Ask yourself if you're where you want to be in life at this very moment. If the answer is now, ask yourself if you're willing to something about it
49. Sunscreen – wear Lots of sunscreen
50. Go get a natural high – sky diving, jump off the high dive at the local pool, go carts etc.
51. Don't Drink

Let me know at [email protected] how many of these you tried this summer!

Today we have Barb, with 15 days of sobriety. This is how she quit.

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I got the idea for today's podcast from an article sent to me from a dear friend that was in the Lush. Fitting publication eh?