Conversations about sex are so important, but approaching the topic with a partner can feel overwhelming. When we come up against sexual challenges in our relationships, it can be easy to fall into patterns of blame and shame. Listening to this episode is a great first step as you find your voice and reclaim your power in your sex life. You’ll hear from psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri, who joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation all about sexuality and her new book, What Happened to My Sex Life? They explore the importance of creating shared agreements and visions with your partner when it comes to sex, how to navigate retroactive jealousy, and the role safety plays in our sexual connections. They also respond to a listener question about how someone’s sexual history can impact their current relationship dynamic.

Dr. Kate’s book: What Happened to My Sex Life? A Sex Therapist's Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection, and Pleasure - https://bookshop.org/p/books/what-happened-to-my-sex-life-a-sex-therapist-s-guide-to-reclaiming-lost-desire-connection-and-pleasure-kate-balestrieri/fcee606927121387?ean=9781891011764&next=t&next=t%2Ct

Dr. Kate’s Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri

Dr. Kate’s website: Modern Intimacy - https://www.modernintimacy.com/dr-kate-balestrieri-sex-therapist/

Get Naked with Dr. Kate (podcast) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/get-naked-with-dr-kate/id1563975869

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day - https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t

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Today’s episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). We’re exploring how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. 

Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-role-did-you-play-in-your-family-of-origin-re-release/id1588419386?i=1000676613922

All previous role-specific episodes are also linked below, along with the FREE Family of Origin Roles workbook, Reclaiming You.

We’re taking a look at “The Rebel” role in today’s episode. Some family systems are well-equipped to handle disagreement, debate, and resistance. But when a family is under pressure in any way, a child who questions or challenges the system is going to be seen as a threat. While the Rebel may cling to their strong opinions and double down on their critical stance, feelings of fear, isolation, and anxiety may occur and continue into adulthood, especially around conformity and authority. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Rebel can break free from old stories that their only path to safety was to push back and choose the path of opposition. 

Relevant links:

Reimagining Love episode: “People-Pleasing vs. Brutal Honesty: When & How to Share Feedback with Your Partner” - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/people-pleasing-vs-brutal-honesty-when-how-to-share/id1588419386?i=1000593435253

Reimagining Love episode: “When Having ‘No Filter’ Hurts a Relationship” - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/when-having-no-filter-hurts-a-relationship/id1588419386?i=1000592040330

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You - https://static1.squarespace.com/static/68fb9be6dd08f86094b477d5/t/695460efc0563e326f3c907d/1767137519524/foo_workbook.pdf

Past episodes of the Family of Origin Roles Series: 

The Perfect One (From Performance to Presence) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-of-origin-roles-series-the-perfect-one/id1588419386?i=1000679074329

The Easy One (From Accommodation to Authenticity) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-of-origin-roles-series-the-easy-one/id1588419386?i=1000679861104

The Struggling One (From Scapegoat to Self-Advocate) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-of-origin-roles-series-the-struggling-one/id1588419386?i=1000682992450

The Peacemaker (From Referee to Realist) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-of-origin-roles-series-the-peacemaker/id1588419386?i=1000683905568

The Parentified Child (From Confidant to Consultant) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-of-origin-roles-series-the-parentified-child/id1588419386?i=1000688828837

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz - https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesquiz

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article - https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/work-issues-at-the-heart-of-couples-conflicts/

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day - https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter - https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

Submit a Listener Question - https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today’s episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). We’re exploring how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. 

Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-role-did-you-play-in-your-family-of-origin-re-release/id1588419386?i=1000676613922

All previous role-specific episodes are also linked below.

We’re taking a look at “The Parentified Child” role in today’s episode. The child cast into this role likely heard that they were “so mature,” “wise beyond their years,” or were praised for their comforting presence when they were growing up. The problem? Kids shouldn’t have to provide emotional support to the adults in their family. Unfortunately for the Parentified Child, this felt like the surest route to safety and love, perhaps due to a chaotic environment, overwhelmed parents, or conflict in the family system. As an adult, the Parentified Child carries with them a certain set of beliefs and tendencies that they picked up as a kid in this role. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Parentified Child can free themselves from always taking on others’ needs and create more egalitarian relationships that feel safe and nourishing.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You - https://static1.squarespace.com/static/68fb9be6dd08f86094b477d5/t/695460efc0563e326f3c907d/1767137519524/foo_workbook.pdf

Reimagining Love episode with Dr. Hillary McBride: Getting Present: Tuning Into Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/getting-present-tuning-into-your-body-with-dr-hillary/id1588419386?i=1000583003768

Reimagining Love series: “I Love My Partner, But Their Family is Toxic”: Part 1 - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-love-my-partner-but-their-family-is-toxic-part-one/id1588419386?i=1000581520129

Part 2: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-love-my-partner-but-their-family-is-toxic-part-two/id1588419386?i=1000582290241

Girlhood Interrupted: The Erasure of Black Girls' Childhood (Rebecca Epstein, Jamilia J. Blake, Thalia González, from the Center on Poverty and Inequality, Georgetown Law) - https://genderjusticeandopportunity.georgetown.edu/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/girlhood-interrupted.pdf

Past episodes of the Family of Origin Roles Series: 

The Perfect One (From Performance to Presence) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-of-origin-roles-series-the-perfect-one/id1588419386?i=1000679074329

The Easy One (From Accommodation to Authenticity) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-of-origin-roles-series-the-easy-one/id1588419386?i=1000679861104

The Struggling One (From Scapegoat to Self-Advocate) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-of-origin-roles-series-the-struggling-one/id1588419386?i=1000682992450

The Peacemaker (From Referee to Realist) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-of-origin-roles-series-the-peacemaker/id1588419386?i=1000683905568

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz - https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesquiz

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article - https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/work-issues-at-the-heart-of-couples-conflicts/

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day - https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter - https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

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Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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On today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the topic of attachment with guest Thais Gibson, an author, counselor, and the co-founder of The Personal Development School. While the discourse around attachment so often focuses on identifying what’s “wrong” with us, in this conversation, Dr. Alexandra and Thais explore how understanding and investigating our attachment style can create fertile ground for us to change the way we show up in relationships and break frustrating patterns. Our attachment style is not our destiny, and when we begin to understand the roots of this subconscious programming, we have the opportunity to reprogram ourselves for better and more fulfilling relationships. This episode will give you the tools and insights to start down that path and think more expansively about attachment.

Thais’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/?hl=en

The Personal Development School: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=google-search&utm_medium=cpc-lead&utm_campaign=18002521897&utm_term=&gc_id=18002521897&h_ad_id=669729918143&utm_content=the%20personal%20development%20school&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiA-ty8BhA_EiwAkyoa3z3T3TuA97YrM94r0tXSv9POnZZRtUuXq3m84CMMe-o1W8CwB7UaYxoCJ1QQAvD_BwE

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

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Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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Today’s guest is Jillian Turecki, a certified relationship coach, teacher, author of the new book It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life, and host of the podcast, Jillian On Love. You’ve likely seen her wise and straightforward videos that get right to the heart of our most pressing dating and relationship questions. She’s helped thousands through her teachings, courses, writing, and her popular social media accounts to revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they can transform their romantic relationships. 

One of the central tenets of Jillian’s work is the idea that the common denominator in all your relationships is you. A lot of us know in our bones that creating safety inside ourselves is the key to healthy relationships with others—but we don’t always know how to do this or where to start. Jillian and Dr. Alexandra also discuss estrangement and navigating complex relationships with family members. Tune in to today’s episode to hear all of Jillian’s wisdom!

Relevant Links:

It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths about Love That Will Change Your Life by Jillian Turecki https://bookshop.org/p/books/it-begins-with-you-the-9-hard-truths-about-love-that-will-change-your-life-jillian-turecki/eea0130dbab15569?ean=9780063374362&next=t&

Jillian’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki/?hl=en

Jillian's website: https://www.jillianturecki.com/

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day - https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter - https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

Submit a Listener Question - https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today’s episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. 

Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-role-did-you-play-in-your-family-of-origin-re-release/id1588419386?i=1000676613922

We’re taking a look at “The Peacemaker” role in today’s episode. All families have conflict, and it’s common for one child in the family to play a referee or mediator role, either through intervention or more subtler peacemaking strategies, such as comic relief. As adults, Peacemakers likely find themselves between friends and family members when there are tensions and may struggle to extract themselves from these dynamics. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Peacemaker can embark on their healing journey.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You - https://static1.squarespace.com/static/68fb9be6dd08f86094b477d5/t/695460efc0563e326f3c907d/1767137519524/foo_workbook.pdf

Reimagining Love: Disrupting the Underfunctioning/Overfunctioning Dynamic - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/disrupting-the-underfunctioning-overfunctioning/id1588419386?i=1000565488608

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz - https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesquiz

Reimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You’ & Exploring Your Family of Origin” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tending-to-little-you-exploring-your-family-of-origin/id1588419386?i=1000584624154

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article - https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/work-issues-at-the-heart-of-couples-conflicts/

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day - https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter - https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

Submit a Listener Question - https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today’s episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. 

Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-role-did-you-play-in-your-family-of-origin-re-release/id1588419386?i=1000676613922

We’re taking a look at “The Struggling One” role in today’s episode. In some families, there is an individual who needs more care and attention than others. There are a number of reasons why this might be the case, including a difference in ability, a behavioral challenge, or a mental health condition. In any case, the “struggling one” is the recipient of a lot of the family system’s energy, and this dynamic may lead to certain challenges and strengths for that person in adulthood. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Struggling One can embark on their healing journey.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You - https://static1.squarespace.com/static/68fb9be6dd08f86094b477d5/t/695460efc0563e326f3c907d/1767137519524/foo_workbook.pdf

Minorities Less Likely to Be Identified for Special Education, Study Finds (EducationWeek) - https://www.edweek.org/leadership/minorities-less-likely-to-be-identified-for-special-education-study-finds/2015/06

‘Boys are disappearing’ from mental health care as signs of depression go undetected (NBC News) - https://www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/depression-anxiety-teen-boys-diagnosis-undetected-rcna141649

Girls With Social and/or Attention Deficit Re-Examined in Young Adulthood: Prospective Study of Diagnostic Stability, Daily Life Functioning and Social Situation (National Library of Medicine) - https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10201085/

The "Spoon Theory" (Christine Miserandino, www.butyoudontlooksick.com) https://lymphoma-action.org.uk/sites/default/files/media/documents/2020-05/Spoon%20theory%20by%20Christine%20Miserandino.pdf

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz - https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesquiz

Reimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You’ & Exploring Your Family of Origin” - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tending-to-little-you-exploring-your-family-of-origin/id1588419386?i=1000584624154

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article - https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/work-issues-at-the-heart-of-couples-conflicts/

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day - https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t

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Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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On today’s episode of Reimagining Love, Vanessa & Xander Marin join Dr. Alexandra for a frank and compassionate conversation about sex—specifically, sex in long-term relationships. It’s normal for couples to fall into a rut in the bedroom, ranging from sex feeling kind of “meh,” to long periods without any intimacy at all. These ebbs and flows are part of being in a long-term relationship or marriage, and the good news is, there are actions you can take to chart a new course with your partner and to get excited about each other again. 

Vanessa and Xander are a couple who have been creating that very roadmap for folks, through their amazing online courses (https://vmtherapy.com/courses?ref=courses-page&utm_term=courses-page), their podcast, Pillow Talks, and their New York Times-bestselling book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Vanessa is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience who has been featured in outlets like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and she has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. And Xander? Well, he is a “regular dude” who left his corporate job to join Vanessa in this work. Together they blend clinical wisdom, humor, openness, and their own personal stories to normalize talking about our sex lives and to offer techniques for improving yours. You are going to hear about their personal experience with couple therapy and how they landed on the agreement, “If it matters to one of us, it matters to both of us.” They share so many juicy insights about sex, from desire discrepancy to initiation to their amazing acronym “P.L.E.A.S.E.,” which you’ll learn in this conversation. This episode will give you the confidence to shift the way you and your partner talk about sex and couple therapy, as well as anything else you might be stuck on.

Relevant Links:

Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa & Xander Marin - https://bookshop.org/p/books/sex-talks-the-five-conversations-that-will-transform-your-love-life-vanessa-marin/f36dca5028d38840?ean=9781668009314&next=t&

Vanessa & Xander’s website: https://vmtherapy.com

Vanessa & Xander’s podcast, Pillow Talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pillow-talks/id1569466131

Resources about power exchange/kink: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/bedroom-conversations-why-great-sex-starts-with-great-communication

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

Submit a Listener Question: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today’s episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. 

Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it last month! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-role-did-you-play-in-your-family-of-origin-re-release/id1588419386?i=1000676613922

We’re taking a look at “The Easy One” role in today’s episode. If you were the kid who could always “go with the flow” in your family, this might be you. As a child, you didn’t express a lot of needs (even though you had them, as we all do!), and that may have been a relief to the Big People in your system, because their attention was needed elsewhere. As an adult, you may identify as a people-pleaser, always attuning yourself to the people around you, wondering how you can make them comfortable or happy. You may believe you’re only worthy to the degree that you’re accommodating others. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Easy One can embark on their healing journey.

Visit www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon to check out the class I co-taught with Ryan Holiday and other experts about the wisdom of ancient philosophy and how it can help us improve communication, resilience, and relationships.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You - https://static1.squarespace.com/static/68fb9be6dd08f86094b477d5/t/695460efc0563e326f3c907d/1767137519524/foo_workbook.pdf

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz - https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesquiz/

Reimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You’ & Exploring Your Family of Origin” - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tending-to-little-you-exploring-your-family-of-origin/id1588419386?i=1000584624154

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article - https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/work-issues-at-the-heart-of-couples-conflicts/

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day - https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter - https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

Submit a Listener Question - https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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Today’s episode is part of a new solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (aka FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. 

Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it last month! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-role-did-you-play-in-your-family-of-origin-re-release/id1588419386?i=1000676613922

Up first in Dr. Alexandra’s exploration of family roles is “The Perfect One.”  If you were the superstar kid in your family, known for bringing home good grades and accolades, this might be you. As an adult, perhaps you seek validation and affirmation of your worthiness through tangible accomplishments. You may believe you’re only as good and worthy of love as your job title, latest career win, parenting flex, or fitness milestone. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Perfect One can embark on their healing journey.

Visit www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon to check out the class I co-taught with Ryan Holiday and other experts about the wisdom of ancient philosophy and how it can help us improve communication, resilience, and relationships.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You - https://static1.squarespace.com/static/68fb9be6dd08f86094b477d5/t/695460efc0563e326f3c907d/1767137519524/foo_workbook.pdf

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesquiz

Reimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You’ & Exploring Your Family of Origin”: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tending-to-little-you-exploring-your-family-of-origin/id1588419386?i=1000584624154

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article: https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/work-issues-at-the-heart-of-couples-conflicts/

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t&

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

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Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/

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