Everyone wants to be in a securely attached relationship, but what does secure attachment really look like? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk about secure attachment and address some common misconceptions. How can you know the difference between infatuation and secure attachment? How long does it take to develop secure attachment in a romantic relationship? How do securely attached relationships differ between different couples? Tune in to learn how you can create and maintain long-lasting and meaningful partnerships.

Timestamps:

• 2:00 - Secure attachment vs. infatuation
• 5:21 - How long does it take to know if you’re securely attached?
• 8:59 - Working through the challenge stage
• 11:26 - Misconceptions about secure attachment
• 20:25 - Make sure you both want the same type of relationship
• 23:02 - Action steps

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Jerry Colonna joins Jayson to discuss leadership and the longing to belong. How can parents help get their kids to adulthood? Why is it important for leaders to do the inner work? How can self-awareness help you access your empathy? How can you be more effective as a coach and a leader? Whether you’re a parent, a coach or a leader in some other capacity, there’s plenty to learn from Jerry’s story and his insights.

Timestamps:

• 8:19 - Why is it important for a leader to do the inner work?
• 12:11 - Accessing empathy through self-awareness
• 15:52 - How parents can help kids get to adulthood
• 19:23 - Being effective as a coach
• 27:54 - Where's the power?
• 30:27 - Depression in middle-aged men
• 33:09 - The seductive nature of doing
• 36:43 - Belonging
• 40:09 - The family dynamic
• 42:21 - Feeling alone in a crowd
• 45:16 - Nurturing true belonging
• 52:20 - How many corporations are doing the work?
• 57:16 - Taking a relational position as a leader
• 59:28 - How important are partners?
• 1:01:00 - Psychoanalysis
• 1:06:50 - Leaders need therapy too
• 1:13:27 - Jerry's advice for highschool kids
• 1:15:47 - Action step

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• Jerry Colonna - Reunion (reboot.io)
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Jayson explores the seven revealing signs of spiritual narcissism and the journey to authentic transformation. Join Jayson for insights into recognizing these behaviors in spiritual narcissists, from lingo mastery to their struggle with attachment work. Learn how to distinguish genuine growth and see when a spiritual seeker becomes an empowered, empathetic individual.

Timestamps:

• 3:57 - Seven signs of the spiritual narcissist
• 4:42 - Talking the talk without walking the walk
• 5:54 - Unsuccessful long-term relationships
• 6:37 - Recreating the family of origin
• 7:25 - A lack of empathy
• 8:05 - Fear of attachment
• 9:19 - Refusing to do the work
• 10:47 - How do you know if they’re changing?

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• 7 Signs of the Spiritual Narcissist and How to Know if They are Truly Healing
• 2 Types Of Narcissism & How To Avoid Them - Dr. Stan Tatkin
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If you’re in the personal development space, chances are you’ve heard the term 'doing the work' thrown around often, but what does it really mean? Is there a right way to do the work? How can you gauge whether your personal development work is really having an impact? Jayson and Ellen share their insights about what it means to 'do the work' and touch on topics from intimate relationships and family to psychedelics and yoga along the way.

Timestamps:

• 5:14 - What does "doing the work" look like?
• 8:17 - The litmus test for personal growth
• 10:15 - Why intimate partnership is so important for personal development
• 16:25 - Holding more complexity
• 21:12 - Doing the work should have results 
• 23:45 - The role of relational context

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Jayson sits down with author, philosopher and CEO, Brian Johnson, to talk about how you can reach your heroic potential. Brian shares Seven Objectives that you can implement today to supercharge your personal growth journey. Learn how to forge antifragile confidence, optimize your big three and dominate the fundamentals. If you want to master yourself and activate your superpower, this episode is a must listen.

Timestamps:

• 4:35 - Who is Brian Johnson?
• 12:04 - Seven objectives
• 13:55 - Antifragile confidence
• 23:23 - Sidestepping lizards vs slaying dragons
• 27:03 - Dominating the fundamentals
• 32:00 - The victim inside
• 35:20 - Knowing the ultimate game
• 44:11 - Optimizing your big three
• 48:52 - Tips for learning and reflection
• 52:45 - Ambition
• 58:52 - Brian's advice for young people
• 1:04:57 - Action step

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• https://www.heroic.us/
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Do you feel like you need to pick yourself back up? Jayson has a few words of encouragement for you today. All of us have an inner warrior that has gotten us through life’s trials until this point and Jayson offers two great tips for how to connect with that warrior part inside ourselves. He also shares a hack that can help you when life feels like it’s too hard. Tune in to learn how embracing hardship and getting out of your victimhood can help you meet life’s challenges.

Timestamps:

• 3:20 - Warriorship
• 9:05 - How do you meet challenges?
• 11:18 - Embrace hardship
• 15:31 - Your life is yours to deal with

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Lisa Dion joins Jayson to talk boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most important tools in intimate relationships. How much you struggle to say no can say a lot about how much you value yourself. You must have boundaries if you want to go the distance in a relationship.

Timestamps:

• The huge breakthrough insight about boundaries that Lisa shared with Jayson [6:38]
• The four things our brain is always scanning for to determine if there is a threat or challenge [8:34]
• What is Lisa’s definition of a boundary? [14:30]
• Jayson and Lisa demonstrate how to set a boundary [17:43]
• The big fear we all carry in ourselves [23:15]
• The weakness many of us have when receiving a boundary request [23:12]
• What are the most common feedback signs our body gives us? [27:00]
• The three types of boundaries [32:06]
• Jayson issues a boundary challenge [45:08]

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• http://lisa-dion.com
• http://synergeticplaytherapy.com
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Jayson and Ellen talk entrepreneurship. What inspired Jayson to create The Relationship School? What is it like to be in a relationship with an entrepreneur? What drives entrepreneurs? Can you be addicted to stress? Are you afraid that you’ll lose your motivation if you do the inner work and deal with your issues? Listen to discover how both your relationships and your business can benefit when you stop letting stress and inadequacy drive you.

Timestamps:

• 2:59 - What is an entrepreneur?
• 4:48 - Why do people want to coach entrepreneurs?
• 8:05 - How do entrepreneurs fuel their work?
• 19:49 - What does it look like to run a business in an integrated way?
• 24:11 - Can you get addicted to stress?
• 29:48 - Applying a growth mindset to every area in your life
• 31:24 - Advice for partners of entrepreneurs
• 36:09 - How being preoccupied causes issues in the family system
• 41:48 - Being proactive

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Xavier Dagba is a coach who focuses on shadow integration and trauma informed transformation. He has an inspiring story that emphasizes the power of listening to the voice inside and following your passion no matter the cost. 
Why is shadow work so important? What can you learn from your imposter syndrome? Can envy ever be used in a positive way? Join Jayson and Xavier for a powerful conversation that will change the way you think about yourself and your relationships.

Timestamps:

• 4:08 - Who is Xavier?
• 15:15 - How can you learn to listen to the voice inside?
• 24:18 - Xavier's journey to becoming a mentor
• 31:07 - Shadow integration
• 32:41 - Working with envy in a positive way
• 39:22 - Fatherhood
• 51:40 - What can imposter syndrome teach us?
• 1:04:00 - Xavier's advice for kids
• 1:08:00 - Action step

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Friends are some of the most important relationships in our lives, but some types of friendships help us grow more than others. Jayson explains why you need to cultivate friendships with people who are comfortable challenging you and who aren’t afraid to go deep. Learn why it's so important to have two of this type of friend and how you can set an intention to foster this type of friendship in the future.

Timestamps:

• 2:21 - Friends that aren't great for you
• 3:48 - The type of friend that you need
• 8:03 - Why you need 2 of this type of friend
• 10:56 - Setting an intention to go deeper in your friendships

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