Resiliently Rising: Healing After Betrayal Trauma

The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy and connection, but when you're navigating betrayal trauma, they can bring up grief, anxiety, and the pressure to pretend everything is okay.

In this episode, Carrie and David share their personal experiences of navigating painful holiday seasons and explore why this time of year can feel especially difficult after betrayal. They discuss family dynamics, managing expectations, setting boundaries, and the responsibility of the betraying partner to show up with greater presence and support.

Whether this is your first holiday season after betrayal or you've been navigating this for years, this episode offers practical ways to honor your capacity, make room for both grief and joy, and give yourself permission to experience the holidays differently this year.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this What You're Wondering episode, David and Carrie explore what makes betrayal trauma different and why healing involves so much more than learning to trust your partner again. They share their own experiences with deception, gaslighting, self-doubt, and the grief of realizing the relationship you believed you had wasn't what you thought it was.

Because trauma isn't a competition. Different experiences create different wounds, and understanding what was injured is an important part of knowing what you need to heal.

In this episode, we explore:

Why betrayal creates a unique injury to attachment and safety

How gaslighting and deception can undermine your trust in yourself

Why betrayal can change the way you remember your past

The connection between betrayal, shame, and feeling like you're not enough

How to rebuild self-trust without needing constant certainty

What the person who caused the betrayal needs to understand about healing

Grieving the marriage you thought you had while deciding what comes next

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

After betrayal, it can feel like everyone has an opinion about what you should do. Stay. Leave. Forgive. Give them another chance. Between family, friends, faith communities, therapists, and social media, all those outside voices can make it even harder to hear your own.

In this solo episode, Carrie talks about why other people's opinions can feel so overwhelming after betrayal trauma, especially when your ability to trust yourself has already been shaken. She explores the pressure to make the "right" decision, the difference between receiving support and giving away your agency, and how to begin reconnecting with your own needs, values, and inner knowing.

Whether you're considering staying, leaving, rebuilding, or simply don't know yet, this episode is a reminder that you can listen to others without letting them make your decisions for you. You don't have to have all the answers today, and someone else's story doesn't have to become the instructions for yours.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

What is the connection between ADHD and compulsive sexual behavior—and where does understanding end and accountability begin?

In this episode, Carrie sits down with Monifa Ellis-Addie to explore how traits associated with ADHD, including impulsivity, novelty seeking, reward sensitivity, executive functioning challenges, and emotional regulation, can intersect with compulsive sexual behavior and recovery. They also discuss why understanding what is happening underneath the behavior does not excuse betrayal or erase its impact on a partner.

This conversation offers a more nuanced look at recovery—one that makes room for compassion, appropriate ADHD support, accountability, and the deeper work required to create lasting change.

Connect with Monifa:

📲 Website

🌿ADHD Treatment Guide

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmLife Supplements Code CARRIEJEAN10 saves you 10%

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

Do you keep "ruining" the good moments with your partner, pulling away, checking, or bracing just when things start to feel close? In this episode, Carrie explains why what betrayed partners call self-sabotage is almost always protection: a pattern the nervous system learned from real experience to keep you from being blindsided again. Carrie and David walk through how that protection forms, when it crosses from adaptive to maladaptive, and how to work with it instead of fighting it. David also names why the betrayer's defensiveness isn't the same kind of protection, and what actually helped Carrie's protection learn it could rest.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

 What actually happens in somatic coaching after betrayal trauma?

In this bonus episode, Carrie breaks down the coaching process—from nervous system education and mapping your unique patterns, to building personalized resources, understanding felt sense, exploring protective parts, and strengthening self-trust. She also explains why healing can’t be forced into a set timeline and why the goal of coaching isn’t to “fix” you, but to help you build safety, capacity, and a more compassionate relationship with yourself.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmLife Supplements Code CARRIEJEAN10 saves you 10%

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

After betrayal, boundaries can feel confusing. You may make yourself smaller, say yes when your body is signaling no, absorb other people’s emotions, or shut down completely to protect yourself.

In this Somatic Safety Session, Carrie guides you through a gentle body-based practice to reconnect with your natural boundary signals. Through spatial awareness, push-and-pull movements, and grounding touch, you’ll explore your personal space, notice your felt sense of yes, no, and not yet, and begin reclaiming a clearer sense of where you end and others begin.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmLife Supplements Code CARRIEJEAN10 saves you 10%

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

After betrayal, boundaries can feel confusing. You may make yourself smaller, say yes when your body is signaling no, absorb other people’s emotions, or shut down completely to protect yourself.

In this Somatic Safety Session, Carrie guides you through a gentle body-based practice to reconnect with your natural boundary signals. Through spatial awareness, push-and-pull movements, and grounding touch, you’ll explore your personal space, notice your felt sense of yes, no, and not yet, and begin reclaiming a clearer sense of where you end and others begin.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmLife Supplements Code CARRIEJEAN10 saves you 10%

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

What happens when you want to forgive after betrayal, but you cannot even imagine how to get there?

In this What You’re Wondering episode, Carrie and David explore forgiveness through the lens of betrayal trauma, faith, and nervous system healing. They unpack why forgiveness cannot be forced, how spiritual pressure can become another layer of harm, and why forgiveness is not the same as trust, reconciliation, or continued access.

 If you have ever wondered whether struggling to forgive means you are failing spiritually, this conversation offers another perspective: forgiveness may be a byproduct of healing, not the prerequisite for it.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmLife Supplements Code CARRIEJEAN10 saves you 10%

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie sits down with betrayal trauma therapist Lindsay Haverslew to unpack the harmful beliefs that often surround infidelity and betrayal. Together, they explore why betrayed partners are not responsible for another person’s choices, what may be happening beneath behaviors labeled as “reactive” or “controlling,” and why safety, validation, honesty, and transparency are essential for healing. They also share practical guidance for rebuilding self-trust and creating genuine repair after betrayal.

Connect with Lindsay:

📲 Instagram

🌿Subscribe on Substack

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!