Resiliently Rising: Healing After Betrayal Trauma

Do you keep "ruining" the good moments with your partner, pulling away, checking, or bracing just when things start to feel close? In this episode, Carrie explains why what betrayed partners call self-sabotage is almost always protection: a pattern the nervous system learned from real experience to keep you from being blindsided again. Carrie and David walk through how that protection forms, when it crosses from adaptive to maladaptive, and how to work with it instead of fighting it. David also names why the betrayer's defensiveness isn't the same kind of protection, and what actually helped Carrie's protection learn it could rest.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

 What actually happens in somatic coaching after betrayal trauma?

In this bonus episode, Carrie breaks down the coaching process—from nervous system education and mapping your unique patterns, to building personalized resources, understanding felt sense, exploring protective parts, and strengthening self-trust. She also explains why healing can’t be forced into a set timeline and why the goal of coaching isn’t to “fix” you, but to help you build safety, capacity, and a more compassionate relationship with yourself.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmLife Supplements Code CARRIEJEAN10 saves you 10%

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

After betrayal, boundaries can feel confusing. You may make yourself smaller, say yes when your body is signaling no, absorb other people’s emotions, or shut down completely to protect yourself.

In this Somatic Safety Session, Carrie guides you through a gentle body-based practice to reconnect with your natural boundary signals. Through spatial awareness, push-and-pull movements, and grounding touch, you’ll explore your personal space, notice your felt sense of yes, no, and not yet, and begin reclaiming a clearer sense of where you end and others begin.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmLife Supplements Code CARRIEJEAN10 saves you 10%

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

After betrayal, boundaries can feel confusing. You may make yourself smaller, say yes when your body is signaling no, absorb other people’s emotions, or shut down completely to protect yourself.

In this Somatic Safety Session, Carrie guides you through a gentle body-based practice to reconnect with your natural boundary signals. Through spatial awareness, push-and-pull movements, and grounding touch, you’ll explore your personal space, notice your felt sense of yes, no, and not yet, and begin reclaiming a clearer sense of where you end and others begin.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmLife Supplements Code CARRIEJEAN10 saves you 10%

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

What happens when you want to forgive after betrayal, but you cannot even imagine how to get there?

In this What You’re Wondering episode, Carrie and David explore forgiveness through the lens of betrayal trauma, faith, and nervous system healing. They unpack why forgiveness cannot be forced, how spiritual pressure can become another layer of harm, and why forgiveness is not the same as trust, reconciliation, or continued access.

 If you have ever wondered whether struggling to forgive means you are failing spiritually, this conversation offers another perspective: forgiveness may be a byproduct of healing, not the prerequisite for it.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmLife Supplements Code CARRIEJEAN10 saves you 10%

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie sits down with betrayal trauma therapist Lindsay Haverslew to unpack the harmful beliefs that often surround infidelity and betrayal. Together, they explore why betrayed partners are not responsible for another person’s choices, what may be happening beneath behaviors labeled as “reactive” or “controlling,” and why safety, validation, honesty, and transparency are essential for healing. They also share practical guidance for rebuilding self-trust and creating genuine repair after betrayal.

Connect with Lindsay:

📲 Instagram

🌿Subscribe on Substack

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

Healing after betrayal rarely moves in a straight line, and a hard day doesn’t mean you’re back at square one. In this episode, Carrie and David talk about why progress can be so difficult to recognize, how to tell the difference between familiar pain and present-day information, and why healing is about more than simply getting triggered less. They explore different ways to measure growth—including awareness, recovery, capacity, boundaries, and self-trust—and David shares why a betrayed partner’s triggers should never become the scoreboard for how well the relationship is doing.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Anger is not always the problem—it may be one of the ways your body tries to protect you. In this Somatic Safety Session, Carrie guides you through a gentle practice to notice, contain, and safely move protective energy without suppressing it or letting it take over. 

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

In this episode of What You’re Wondering, Carrie and David answer a common question after betrayal: How do you bring back the spark when closeness, affection, or intimacy no longer feels natural?

They explore why rebuilding connection has to begin with safety, not pressure, and how betrayal can change the way the body experiences affection, desire, and vulnerability. They also walk through the Gottman Trust Revival Method of Atone, Attune, and Attach, sharing practical ways couples can rebuild friendship, create affection without expectation, make space for grief, communicate about intimacy outside the moment, and create the repeated experiences of safety that allow closeness to return.

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

What happens when the person you want comfort from is also the person who caused the pain?

In this episode, Carrie talks with Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind, about the painful push and pull that can happen after betrayal. They explore why you may crave closeness one moment and need distance the next, how shame and powerlessness show up, and why these reactions are not signs that something is wrong with you.

Michelle also shares how healing begins by reclaiming your voice, your choices, and your power—and why recovery is not only possible, but mappable.

Connect with Michelle:

💛 Website

📲 Instagram

Connect with Carrie:

📲 Instagram

🌿Resiliently Rising Circle

✨Coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal 

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course

💊 PalmVitaResearch Supplements

🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions

🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay