Resiliently Rising: Healing After Betrayal Trauma

In this episode of The Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie and David unpack the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” and explore why it feels protective—but can actually keep both partners stuck. They share personal insight, the neuroscience behind real change, and a more helpful reframe: “An unhealed cheater will remain an unhealed cheater.” Whether you’ve been betrayed or are working to rebuild trust, this conversation offers hope, honesty, and a grounded path forward.

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📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean

✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety

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🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Episode Summary:

In this episode, I’m joined by my friend, former colleague, and Trauma Trained Somatic Practitioner, Meg Schnetzer, to talk about why healing in isolation keeps so many of us stuck. We share personal stories, explore the power of being witnessed without judgment, and talk about how co-regulation helps calm shame and fear. This is exactly why we created our group coaching space—to offer the kind of community we wish we had when we started healing.

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📲 Instagram:@_healwithmeg_

📲 TikTok: @megschnetzer

Connect with Me:

📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean

✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety

🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie and David speak directly to the ones who’ve caused harm—offering an honest, compassionate look at what it means to feel the weight of shame and still choose to grow. They unpack the difference between wanting forgiveness and becoming someone who is ready to receive it, and share personal insights about the quiet, steady work of repair. If you’ve ever wondered how to rebuild trust after betrayal, this conversation is a powerful place to begin.

Connect with Me:

📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean

✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety

🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

After betrayal, even moments of calm can feel threatening. In this episode, we explore why it becomes so hard to trust yourself, how protective parts show up to shield you, and what true intuition actually feels like. Using the 8 C’s of Self from Internal Family Systems, we’ll help you begin to tell the difference between fear and knowing—and share practical tools to reconnect with your inner wisdom.

Connect with Me:

📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean

✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety

🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

After betrayal, it’s not just trust in your partner that breaks—it’s trust in yourself. In this episode, Carrie and David explore the three core pillars of rebuilding self-trust and why this inner work is essential to healing. They share personal stories, somatic insights, and practical ways to reconnect with your inner knowing after it’s been shattered. Whether you're walking this path alone or alongside a partner, this conversation offers powerful guidance for learning to trust yourself again.

Connect with Me:

📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean

✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety

🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

After betrayal, one of the hardest and most haunting questions is: How do I know I can trust them again? In this episode, Carrie and David unpack what trust really means after it’s been broken—beyond just behavior change and apologies. They explore the difference between sobriety and recovery, how the nervous system responds to safety, and the subtle signs that trust might be starting to rebuild. With real-life examples and somatic insight, this conversation offers hope, clarity, and a deeper understanding of what it takes to feel safe again.

Connect with Me:

📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean

✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety

🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of healing after betrayal: boundaries. We explore what boundaries really are (and what they’re not), how they help us stay connected to ourselves and each other, and why they often feel so uncomfortable—especially in the aftermath of broken trust. Whether you’re learning to set boundaries, honor them, or receive them with less defensiveness, this conversation will help you see boundaries not as barriers, but as bridges to deeper connection.

Connect with Me:

📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean

✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety

🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, we’re diving into the world of triggers—what they are, why they feel so intense, and how they’re connected to the body and nervous system, especially after betrayal trauma. We share personal stories of being blindsided by triggers and explain what’s really happening beneath the surface when you suddenly feel like you’re right back in the pain. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of your body’s response and some compassionate tools to help you stay grounded when the past shows up in the present.

Connect with Me:

📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean

✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety

🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In Part 2 of this conversation, we’re continuing to explore the common mistakes couples make when trying to rebuild after betrayal—because awareness really is the first step toward doing things differently. We talk about the impact of overpromising and under-delivering, using betrayal as leverage, neglecting your own healing, and why grand gestures don’t rebuild trust—consistent actions do. If you’re in the thick of repair, this episode offers honest insight, personal stories, and gentle reminders that you’re not alone—and that real healing is possible, even when it’s messy.

Connect with Me:

📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean

✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety

🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

“Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media

Part 1 of 2: Rebuilding a relationship after betrayal is possible, but it’s also incredibly complex. In this episode, we’re sharing four of the most common mistakes couples make during the healing process that can actually slow down or sabotage trust repair. We talk about why acknowledging the betrayal matters, why rushing healing backfires, how avoiding hard conversations creates more disconnection, and the importance of setting clear boundaries.

Connect with Me:

📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean

✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching

💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus

🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety

🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership

👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

“Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media