In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) My wife and I communicate well about sex, but lately I’ve become extremely turned on by the thought of watching her have sex with a stranger. I think it’s called ‘hotwifing.’ It’s just a fantasy, and I’m not sure how I’d feel if we acted on it. Usually, anytime we have a ‘kink’ we tell each other, but I worry she’ll think I’m a pervert with this one!  Should I tell her or keep it bottled up? I know it’s quite common, but it’s also weird. I guess my question is: is it normal, and should I tell her or keep it to myself? I doubt she’d be game to do it anyway, and I don’t want to freak her out after 15 years together.

2) I’m a 60-year-old man who has been happily married for over 30 years. Sadly, my wife is increasingly less interested in sex. Not only has her libido plummeted, but penetrative sex is painful and non-penetrative sex just doesn’t do it for her. She doesn’t want to give up totally on sex with me, but says it is best if we just do it occasionally. Very occasionally. I struggle with this. I need more than just masturbation, and she understands that. After a lot of talking, she’s suggested we practice non-monogamy. (But just me, since she doesn’t want to have sex with anyone else). We have agreed on some rules: I can’t have sex with someone we know (I wouldn’t anyway), I can’t pay for it, and I must practice safe sex. But that’s as far as we’ve got. Please can you help us, as I don’t know what to do next. And just to clarify: we still love each other, we still want to spend the rest of our lives together, we get on really well, and I am not interested in a romantic relationship—just a ‘play partner.’

3) I loved the question asking you both what are three things you wouldn’t do in bed. Can I be cheeky and ask what three things you WOULD like to both do, but have never done!

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