In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) So, guys have a built-in masturbation tool (the foreskin) and they discover it very early. They have some advantage I would say for discovering their body and how it can give them the pleasure of orgasm. I have a 13-year-old daughter and want her to also learn about her body and how to give herself an orgasm. I have been thinking about giving her access to a website called OMGYes which runs a masturbation course online. Even though I think this would be good for her, I am hesitant to be the one to suggest it, being a father. I’m nervous even to suggest this to my wife.

2) I'm a 48-year-old woman who would like to start dating again. But what do I do about the orgasm dilemma during the first sexual encounters with a guy? It takes time (and practice) to understand each other to achieve an orgasm for me. I've never found it at the beginning. Most guys think they can make a woman come on those first encounters, and if they don’t, it has a negative effect. But I don’t want to get caught into that bind of faking an orgasm, then not knowing how to communicate what I really need to get there. What is your advice?

3) So, I'm currently in a lucky position and have a good relationship and enjoy sex. My question is how on earth do you figure out your fantasies? Is there a list of fantasies somewhere so I can see which ones appeal? I don't really understand why I don't have fantasies beyond just having sex with a person that I like. Maybe I'm just extremely unimaginative (I don't seem to dream much either!), or maybe it’s just a repressed part of my psyche! I assume I must have some fantasies tucked away, and I would really like to be 'in touch' with some of my deeper desires, as I think this is probably important to having a fulfilling sex life. Can you help point me in a direction to uncover them?

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