In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) My husband and I have been married for almost 15 years. Now that our children aren't babies anymore our sex life is being resurrected from the dead and better than ever. My husband has expressed an interest in me pegging him. I'll try anything once, especially since it's his hole and not mine. I'm writing to ask for pointers. What do I need to know? How can I make this more enjoyable for him? Tracey, do you have a book chapter on this? I'm so grateful this is anonymous!! I'm not willing to bring this up with my girlfriends.

2) We’ve moved houses and made friends with our neighbors who are the same age as us (early 40s). Their bedroom is near ours and we can hear them having sex. We were quite happy with our sex life, but now feel boring. They have sex for ages and make a lot of noise. They haven’t been together as long as us (15 years compared to their 2 years) but it’s still making us feel uncomfortable.

3) My husband of 20 years handed me his phone recently to look up information online while he was busy making dinner. While I was at it, I noticed that he's got the same period calendar installed as I have. Later, I took a closer look and saw that it had information about my cycle. That's fine, but he also has been putting notes on the calendar about our sex life and his masturbation habits. He writes comments like if I had an orgasm or if I finished by masturbating and who initiated, and—rightly noted by him—it's almost always me. It's like he's bookkeeping our intimacy. This also revealed to me that he masturbates way more than I knew: about 15 times a month in addition to the days we have sex together (which is about once a week). I feel like I want to confront him with this, but I'm reluctant to do it because I'm not sure how I feel about it. This didn't strike me well, but now I'm not so sure. Isn't this creepy?

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