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Have you never had that feeling of being perplexed and thrown off guard when you tried to bring something up to your partner? You might have had a recent upset, an event that you were frustrated by, or another emotion that you needed to express to your partner. Within a few seconds your partner dumps all their own upsets and frustrations at you; even going as far as to compare how their pain is worse than yours!

This is an "emotional hijack" that makes the conversation all about them and leaves you feeling stunned, caught off guard, that it's unfair, and even selfish of them. What makes matters worse is that you had a positive intention to communicate openly and often vulnerably with them. After this, why would you even want to bring up anything in the future?

In this episode you will hear about the reasons this dynamic happens and what is really going on for them to take over your conversation. Then you will hear 2 things that can be done differently so that you do not lose faith and trust in each other to be able to express yourselves without you feeling hijacked!

Resources For Your Relationship:

As a listener get $50 off The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you to be better at both the speaker and listener role, as to not hijack important conversations with your partner! At checkout use the code: 50bundle

Food that is "bland" isn't bad or inedible, it just lacks any zest or real flavor. Marriage can take on a similar feeling too, it's not that anything is a major problem, but you are not feeling any real zest, excitement, or even newness.

As you will hear in this episode, all relationships will find themselves in this type of season for some specific reasons. You will also hear some examples, that might even be happening for you now, that signify that you need to take these steps to bring in some freshness, newness, and intentionally to your zest for life and each other!

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument so you reconnect in minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks).
2. Watch our free webclass on: End the Battle for Fairness to align relationship roles, reduce overwhelm, and be a united team again.
3. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training).

This is a bit of a celebration episode for us personally… Just in the past week this podcast broke into the Top 20 relationship podcasts on Apple, we went over 100,000 followers on Instagram, and we had over 500 couples join the Fight Smarter Weblcass! (by the way if you missed the weblcass you can watch it again with this link)

As you can imagine for us, we are very proud and excited, plus we have been receiving SO many questions from all the new couples in this relationship ecosystem. So this episode is focused on the 5 top questions we have been receiving over DMs and through emails from all this new activity.

We are doing this in part so that the one thing WE KNOW, you can come to know too… That most couples are really dealing with the same kinds of challenges. Though the circumstances and emotional responses might be different, many of the relationship themes are the same. This is so that you know you are not alone in what you go through!

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. If you missed the Fight Smarter Weblcass you can watch it again with this link.
2. The best parenting and discipline course we have found is from a good friend Amy McCready called Positive Parenting Solutions.
3. The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!
4. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Have you ever tried to validate your position during an argument by saying "Oh but that wasn't my intention"? Have you noticed how that doesn't help at all? At least in that moment, because it is not the right time. It shows the need to understand the big difference between intent and impact.

In this episode you will hear about how intention doesn't matter in these moments and the more you fight for explaining it, the further down you will go into conflict. You will hear how to switch into acknowledging impact, which is the most important, and only thing, to do when your partner has emotion present.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join our LIVE FREE WebClass on Nov. 3rd, 2022 - Fight Smarter: Prevent Unnecessary Arguments, Deescalate Emotional Triggers, and Repiar Faster as a Couple.

If that date has already passed then watch the replay WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Though you, and every other couple, face different challenges in your life and marriage; why do some struggle and some thrive? Struggling doesn't mean that you are just facing a challenge, because everyone will. Struggle then is the experience you have while facing a challenge.

Of all the couples we talk to and coach, we have seen patterns between those that experience disconnection, anxiety, and tension and those that maintain connection, togetherness and being a team during challenging times.

In this episode you will hear 4 differences that we have seen between couples that "struggle versus those that thrive". By knowing these differences, you will be able to implement a few simple things to move out of a state of struggling to one of progress and growth.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join our LIVE FREE WebClass on Nov. 3rd, 2022 - Fight Smarter: Prevent Unnecessary Arguments, Deescalate Emotional Triggers, and Repiar Faster as a Couple.

If that date has already passed then watch the replay WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

A part of a thriving relationship depends on the work done by each partner to grow individually. You have heard common phrases like your "wealth grows at the extent you grow" and this could be said about your relationship as well. As much as it takes using the right skills and tools as a couple, it all starts with your own willingness to progress on your own individual path of growth.

In this episode you will hear 3 things that women need to work on in marriage right now. This is coming from the most common things we are hearing from couples in our own private coaching every day. Men and women do 'deal with' different challenges and even general patterns within a marriage; so get ready to help advance the growth for all women in their respective relationships! Let's go…

Resources For Your Relationship:

Start your relationship growth now with The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here if that is the next right step for you!

A part of a thriving relationship depends on the work done by each partner to grow individually. You have heard common phrases like your "wealth grows at the extent you grow" and this could be said about your relationship as well. As much as it takes using the right skills and tools as a couple, it all starts with your own willingness to progress on your own individual path of growth.

In this episode you will hear 3 things that men need to work on in marriage right now. This is coming from the most common things we are hearing from couples in our own private coaching every day. Men and women do 'deal with' different challenges and even general patterns within a marriage; so get ready to help advance the growth for all men in their respective relationships! Let's go…

Resources For Your Relationship:

Start your relationship growth now with The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here if that is the next right step for you!

We are just off hosting the Couples Workshop in Arizona yesterday, and this was one of the biggest takeaways from the ½ day in person event. Communication seems easy when you only think of it as "verbalizing what you are thinking". But this often leads to the biggest communication mistake that turns simple conversations into an argument.

In this episode we will give you the inside look at the most effective communication tool that we teach at the Couples Workshop and in our coaching. By changing your very first sentence to your partner you can stay on the same team together and support each other in fulfilling your relationship needs and wants!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Do you feel like life is piling things onto you and your partner right now? There are defintely seasons where a lot of hard things can hit you all at once which really makes it difficult to stay positive and stay connected as a team.

In this solo episode you will hear from Jocelyn to get two things to do in seasons like these. Everything, even challenges, are temporary. But use these two things so you can stay connected until the ride is over!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Here you are having a slightly tension filled conversation with your partner, then out of nowhere they bring up something from the past! "You did the same thing last week" or "this is exactly what you do, you don't respect me".

One of the most common things we hear that escalates things quickly is the past being brought up. This is not just random however, this is an indication of a few things. In this episode we're going to share FOUR of the most common things this indicates and all 4 could really strike a chord, so be sure to listen all the way to the end!

Resources For Your Relationship:

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If that date is already past then you can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here