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Have you had the experience of being inspired for a short amount of time, then realize something was missing to actually create the actual change you wanted in your life and marriage? Or how about with your partner... have you been frustrated because they say they are doing to make a change, only to fall back into the same patterns in just a few weeks?

This can be frustrating for both you and your partner, especially when they have said real change was going to happen and it doesn't. You lose a little bit of hope and trust in them. So in this episode you are going to hear about 3 things that your marriage requires to create that real and lasting change that you really want.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the brand new Couples Experience program starting Sept 1st, 2022. Read the details that you heard in the episode and register within the next 2 weeks. Then you can start your relationship assessment, book the 'results call' with us, begin the program, and block your calendar for the first community session!

If the date for registration has passed then you can order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Having hard conversations is a part of being in a marriage. These conversations come up when you feel disconnected, when a past conflict is unresolved, or when you are feeling disconnected and want to get back to connection. Depending on each of your styles of communicating, when you go to have these conversations, you might end up in the "Pursue-Withdraw" pattern.

In this episode you will hear the dynamics of this pattern, where one of you is trying to engage but the other pulls away, as well as the steps to take to get out of this pattern. Once you can navigate this pattern, you will feel confident that you can better handle these hard conversations while being on the same side with each other.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Register FREE for the LIVE Webclass August 17th, 2022 on: Handling Hard Conversations in Marriage and Creating a Safe Space For All Emotions.

After that date, you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

'Emotional Agility' is your ability to be with and accept your strong emotions while letting them better inform you of the next actions to take in your life. As you can already tell this is not an easy thing or a natural thing when you feel big emotions like fear, worry, anxiety, regret, or resentment.

Typically what would happen when these strong emotions come up, we either: avoid or suppress the emotion and try to just move on, just react and make another bad decision in these stressed states, for others they obsess over the thoughts and the emotions overtake and dibilate them into not doing anything.

Yet in this episode you will hear about "emotional agility" and how you can develop yourself to better handle high emotions to stay connected as a couple and acting toward your best interests.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Book mentioned in podcast, Emotional Agility HERE
2. Register for the upcoming FREE webclass on "How to Have the Hard Conversations".

Before you click away from seeing the overused word "goals", remember goals are the things you want to achieve in your life and marriage. So they are important, even though this conversation has been talked about so much. But there is a MISSING PIECE to all of this which is identifying your standards!

This is a conversion that we are even going through ourselves as we redefine what we want our next season of life and marriage to be. Goals don't always get achieved BUT they never will if you don't realize this key piece about your acceptable standards. This is all a part of being able to live your dream life as well. So make sure you tune into this one. The key terms here also come from the book we have been reading, The Power of One More, by Ed Mylett. That link is below again as well!

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

The Power of One More by Ed Mylett

A funny thing in a relationship is that in the beginning your differences attracted you to your partner. Some time later those differences become points of tension and butting heads. All of a sudden you want them to be less assertive and opinionated, more organized and to remember to put household things in the places you want, you want them to change their tone and sound less accusatory, or you differ on decisions to either go on a trip or to save money.

In this episode you will understand more about where your personality differences come from, but also that you don't have to seek to change them. You will hear about how our discovery of our differences in personality actually led us to being able to create more understanding, ease, and flow in our relationship. We use a type of personality test called Human Design to give us amazing insights into our natural characteristics, where we are different, but then how to use them to be a better team.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

Trips to see your in-laws… these are supposed to be times of fun, connection, and relaxation. Yet many times they can be quite the opposite. You might feel drained, depleted, constrained from being yourself and what you really want to do, and end up ending the trip without it being what you really wanted and would have fulfilled you.

The core reason for this is blurred or crossed boundaries. In this episode you will hear, after we just went on a trip to see our families, the categories of boundaries, why they get crossed, the reasons you do not bring them up, and some tips to create more harmony on your trips to see family.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together. Use code: podcast50

• Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
• You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

The most important thing in relationships is repairing and resolving conflicts. Because conflicts WILL happen, it's not about the amount or even having them.

Now true repair is not necessarily an easy thing, because of the emotion you both have, the different perspectives you have, and the complex dynamics that happen from making a few mistakes.

These mistakes leave you feeling unresolved, that it's your fault, blamed, or forced to move on and get past it. In all cases you don't feel understood or confident that anything will change or keep this from happening again.

In this episode you will hear the mistakes that keep you from truly repairing after having arguments, so that you can effectively do the most important thing for your relationship... actually repair from conflicts!

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together. Use code: podcast50
2. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
3. Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Having frustrations and feelings of resentment over your roles and responsibilities is a common thing we hear. One parter is frustrated about not getting help, then the response they get is: "just tell me what you need me to do" OR "I'm happy to help, just tell me what" OR sometimes "it's your job, you stay at home, I work, so just get it done".

This is frustrating for both partners, and triggers defensivness and often a conflict. This is because:

• For the partner having to remind: it feels like it's one person's responsibility to "own" the housework. It can feel like parenting your partner.
• For the partner feeling blindsided: I just don't see those things, I wish you'd tell me before you get so frustrated, they feel like a lot of emotion comes at them suddenly.

In this episode you will hear the main sources of this dynamic and what you can do differently to get back on the same page and feeling supported and loved in the roles and responsibilities you choose.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You and your partner both do a lot of things for the relationship and marriage to work. A lot of these things are done each day and are very routine. But it's easy to feel taken for granted, or even taken advantage of when you do not feel that your partner has acknowledged you for those things.

In this episode you will be reminded to acknowledge your partner more often AND 3 "things" to acknowledge them for that will progressively have them feel more and more acknowledged for. There are things that you would have not thought of!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

Would anyone actually raise their hand and say that they enjoyed failure? If any, it would be a small number for sure because we just don't like that feeling that comes with failing. But what if failure wasn't a separate thing from success? What if failure had to happen on the journey to success?

In this motivational moment episode, Aaron goes into the idea he got from his experience traveling to Austin Texas for a crypto conference. Though it was an unlikely place to get an idea for relationships, tune into this episode for a new perspective and motivation around any failure you experience in your relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!