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All you need in times like these is a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the slump of discouragement that you feel. This episode is the short and sweet motivational moment you need to get back to being the best person and partner you can be!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Have you thought much about legacy? It's a word with a big meaning behind it we know. Many people don't think about this until later in life, yet it can be a very impactful thing right here and now. We will take this one layer deeper even… What is the story of your relationship right now? Does it seem like a comedy, tragedy, drama, or mystery? Whichever it is, is this the legacy you want to create?

In this episode you will reframe how you see the current situations in your relationship as well as understand the aspects of the "Hero's Journey" so that you can create yourself and your partner as the heroes in the story that you are writing and experiencing at the same time!

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here
2. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

We know there are times that you feel discouraged in your relationship, and honestly sometimes it's just about an event in your individual life that isn't going the way you would like. There might even be times that you just feel a general sense of discouragement when you wake up. This feeling isn't from anything specific, but some carry over from the previous days or weeks.

Either way all you need in times like these is a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the slump of discouragement that you feel. This episode is the short and sweet motivational moment you need to get back to being the best person and partner you can be!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

There's something you wish your partner would do for/with you. Or there's something you want to receive or experience in your partnership. But you might have thought to yourself, "if I tell them that I want _____, it won't be as romantic because they didn't think of it themselves."

This episode is about rethinking what is really ROMANTIC, and how to set your partner up for success to fulfill your wants and needs….whether it's a small or big gesture within the partnership.

Relationship Resources:

1. Schedule a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session with us and overcome any challenge you're facing as a couple. Go Here and Sign-up.
2. Connect with us on Instagram HERE.

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Within the episode you will hear about the 4 Month - Couples Experience Group Workshops and Coaching Program. After you listen, if you are interested to be a part of the live expereince with us and want more detials, message us in 1 of these 3 ways:

Email: [email protected]

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In This Episode

is a POWERFUL followup to the last episode on arguments: There is a key underlying cycle that happens in every relationship. It is one of the main patterns that cause conflicts and keep them going without you realizing it!

This principle is written about in a book called Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. It's a very insightful, simple and powerful principle. Personally we listened to the first 3 chapters (on 1.5 speed) and felt we had gotten the point and urgency enough to put it into practice and share with you about it. Without realizing this cycle you will feel as if you are in a trap and can't get out.

Additional Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Register for the FREE Communication WebClass TONIGHT April 12th

If you are in Arizona, or close to, registrations for the in person Couples Workshop in Arizona on May 12th, 2022 is now open!

About the Episode:

You've had this thought in the middle of an argument right, "what are we really arguing about right now?" This is a very common feeling about being lost or unclear about what is being fought about or what started it. If you think about it, when you find yourself in a place like this, is it likely you can easily find your way out if you don't even know what got you here? Likely not!

But this is not just you, arguments have different layers and if you are unclear, like even about what your desired outcome is, how can you expect to be anything but confused and ineffective?!

That's why in today's episode you are going to hear our takeaways from the book "Thank you for arguing" and how we even used it to understand more about an argument we had (yes it's true we have arguments ourselves!). As you will hear though, all relationships have arguments but there is one key that leads to a healthy relationship, or ones that eventually end!

On top of that you are going to hear the 3 sources of arguments as well as the 3 methods of arguments so that you can better navigate arguments in your own relationship and bring them to a win-win resolution to be more connected and understanding of each other.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

The referenced book for the episode: Thank You For Arguing by Jay Heinrichs

NEW COMMUNICATION WEBCLASS on April 12th 2022: Don't miss this live weblcass to end frustrating patterns and better understand each other. https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/

Is the following communication pattern at all familiar to you?

Partner A- attempts to share a feeling or need.

Partner B- wasn't prepared and then gets defensive.

Partner A- gets triggered by the response and feels invalidated.

Partner B- starts shutting down and disengaging.

Partner A- gets reactive and brings up the past or blames.

Partner B- retreats and withdraws their attention, energy and love for a day or even a few.

Imagine if you could finally break this pattern! That is what this episode is all about and you will see a key way to interrupt this pattern to go from disconnection and frustration to connection and understanding.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You know those moments when you're frustrated or disappointed in your partnership? Have you thought about what the ROOT cause of the frustration is? Don't worry, most people we talk to haven't identified it, which is why we're covering it on today's episode.

This principle will be ESPECIALLY helpful if you tend to run into the same thing over and over again or you feel like "we'll never see eye to eye on this."

By the end of this episode, you will know exactly what to reflect on personally AND discuss to help eliminate most upsets.

Also, schedule a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. We take you through our powerful expectation process and you will know how to handle things differently together. Read the details and book one of the 5 spots HERE.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.
2. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

All relationships go through seasons of adjustments when "bigger" life events happen. The goal isn't to avoid big life events or challenges, or even try to just make it through it. These seasons are the opportunities to grow the most in your relationship. To do that however you will have to be more flexible, proactive in your communication, and have more grace for each other so that you stay together and not have the event create separation.

Our big life event has been having our baby, who is now 3 months old! Many of you are of course interested in our specific parenting updates around what is working well for us, what challenges we have faced, and how we have gotten even closer together. In this episode you will hear just that, but also the tools that we use ourselves so that you too can maintain your connection no matter what life season you find yourself in.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Parenting Resources From Episode:

Dreamland swaddles & blankets - 20% OFF EVERYTHING using code: Freemans15

Go Diaper Free elimination communication book and potty training program

Wonder Weeks - developmental leaps app

Taking Cara Babies newborn programs

We posted this question on IG and got a TON of interesting comments. A bit of a range in answers from "NOPE, definitely not" to "Shouldn't we focus on sacrificial love and put others before ourselves"? So we're going to address some of the nuances of the comments and some specific points to really answer this question.

We admit that like a few comments, it's not just a yes or no answer. So in this episode we will cover what needs to be in place and how can needs/wants get communicated to not run into having to sacrifice but find what is best for the relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Sign-up for the 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)