Same Team with The Freemans

Not too many people have the most ideal relationship that they would like. Even if your relationship is going well, you are on the same page about the direction of life, you have the jobs and life that you enjoy and you manage things well together... there is still a place you would like to be even a little better.

It might seem like this has been a sticking place for a longer period of time and it seems like it is difficult to really make that change. The reason is that this is a subconscious pattern driving the same actions and reactions within you.

In this episode you will hear how to initially access this subconscious pattern and then identify where (in your past with your parents) this is coming from.

Resources For Your Relationship:

The nature of this subconscious pattern makes it difficult to identify and change on your own. So if you would like support in this area you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

PS: for a limited time if you review the book on Amazon, you can be entered into a drawing for a free course from our Empowered Couples University!

Intimacy is a huge part of a relationship and if you have been listening here for a little while, you know we are big on both emotional intimacy through communication as well as physical intimacy.

For many partners too, if emotional intimacy is missing it's hard to want to be physically intimate let alone be able to explore and expand this area. We are always learning and open to expand any of our own limits and boundaries in our own relationship

From society you probably think of sex mostly as penetration, or from the purely sexual dynamic. But that's often rushed without the consideration of the other styles of intimacy.

When the energetics aren't there often the sex isn't that satisfying. There is a subtle and critical interplay with the energy between a couple that can quickly deflate an intimate interaction.

In this episdoe you will hear the profound lessons we learned as we went through the practice together during an intimacy/power dynamic sub/dom class on our trip to Hawaii.

Resources For Your Relationship:

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice!

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice!

Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful.

So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that women feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that women are experiencing in mariages right now!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice!

Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful.

So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that men feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that men are experiencing in mariages right now!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts Feb 7th, 2022. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship and even get a FREE book!

Ever wonder WHY your partner does things the way they do? Or maybe why they WON'T do something a certain way (like the way you asked them to)? The latter is more likely to happen which is then what leads to saying something like "I would like you to stop _____ " or "why can't you just _____". In either case you are looking for a change in behavior. When it doesn't happen, you just get more frustrated.

Todays' episode will reveal the deeper way to understand their psychology and what drives their choices and actions. Plus, it'll help you understand yourself more as well and why you even do the things you do (or don't do)! Think of todays' episode as the only way you can ever really change a pattern you feel stuck with.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Being rejected by another person is a pretty defeating feeling to have. All of us have experienced that at one point in our lives whether it was dating someone, rejected for a job you wanted, or even by someone that used to be a friend.

You probably don't think about it too much once you are married because well…you are married to that person and they are not going anywhere! Rejection usually comes with a forced physical separation, that's why in your relationship, the feeling of being rejected can be even more painful.

Underneath you can feel rejected in your ideas, how you communicate, even in your habits. This feeling can be why you don't bring up certain topics to your partner or even why you feel tension lingering between you and them.

In this episode you will hear the steps you can take if feeling rejected is a fear that has been creating emotional distance from your partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.
2. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
3. You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here, or email us at [email protected]

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It's a part of all relationships, at one point you have said (to yourself or aloud) "how do I get my partner to _____"? There is something that your partner does that makes you feel well... not the most stellar! Because you feel a certain way you want them to change something.

We are all about growth and change, that's what being in a relationship is all about. However there are better ways to "influence" your partner to make changes, that won't put them on the defensive or have them shut you out.

In this episode you will get 2 steps to take that will help you create influence with your partner so that you both see the change that you desire in the relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here.

The idea of having good habits is so simple and it probably feels like it's overly talked about. Every person on social media that jumps in to be an influencer or coach is going to talk about your "habits". We all have some good habits, and some bad ones… but we would say maybe there are not "bad" just habits that do not serve you any more. There will be many times in your relationship that you will find this to be true as well. There are some habits (whether in communication, roles, financial, or even task management) that do not serve your relationship any longer.

At the end of the day habits are very powerful because the majority of the actions you take in a day, even the thoughts that you think or the emotions that you feel… are just habits. We have found that there are many "habits" we have put in place that are vital to the health and success of our own relationship. In this episode we talk about 5 small habits that we have put in place that now, without even thinking about them, make a big difference in our marriage!

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here. So you're having a seemingly simple conversation with your partner or a perfectly normal day, and then BAM things escalate into an unexpected conflict. It's frustrating when that happens!

Many times that happens because of the way one of you initiates the conversation, and then the way the other person listens. So today's episode gives you 2 simple ways (that literally take you 5 seconds) to prevent these simple conversations from becoming an unnecessary conflict.

Episode Resources & Links:

Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg HERE

The "forgetting curve" principle shows that your partner is likely to forget 50% within an hour, 70% within 24 hours, and 90% within a week. So if this is true, why on earth would we expect our partner to remember something we express ONE time: like a want/need?! Since human memory can't be relied on and your partner likely has a lot on their mind/plate, then we need to partner with them by effectively providing gentle, loving reminders.

But what about nagging?! Someone asked this on our Instagram post.

In this episode we distinguish between "nagging" your partner and healthy "assertiveness."

Assertiveness is empowering, and a skill we all can get better at in a relationship.

To better use this skill in your conflict repair: Watch the FREE WebClass on The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days or Weeks. Register and watch here.