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The thing is, it's not respectful to just bring up a topic whenever YOU want to talk about it. Why? Because it's not respecting and honoring your partner's boundaries or taking into account if they're really and open and prepared for it.

And this applies to moments when you want to: ask them to do something, express feelings you have about a certain issue, give them feedback, etc.

Implementing "Permission-Based Communication" will help you two have more constructive conversations, so you'll love this episode!

Also, make sure you watch the FREE WebClass we recorded for you all:

The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days, or Weeks

End the year by having this meaningful conversation together as a couple about your life and relationship goals. Life goes by pretty quickly, so it's important to pause each year and make sure you're on track with what's important to you both.

Plus, you will feel a new sense of partnership and inspiration when you have one or more goals that you're pursuing together.

Tune in to this episode to hear:

• How it benefits your partnership to have goals you pursue together
• Step-by-step how to have this conversation about your goals and priorities
• 3 meaningful questions to ask each other

Resources Mentioned:

1. Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on--> The 5 Steps to Repair After An Argument So You Reconnect in Just Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days, or Weeks
2. Book called Limitless by Jim Qwik

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Masculine and Feminine energy exists within all of us, and is critical to feeling "in sync" with your partner (rather than resistant). The masculine energy is: action-oriented, discerning, directive, logical. And feminine energy is: feelings-oriented, receptive, intuitive

If you experience resistance, tension, or even a lack of "attraction," it could be because one or both of you is out of balance in your masculine/feminine energies.

This episode is going to give you an interesting take on your communication and relationship.

Get ready for a powerful reflection!

Resources in this episode:

1. NEW FREE WebClass: The 5 Steps to Repair After an Argument in Just Minutes HERE
2. Mars and Venus in the Bedroom by John Gray HERE
3. Sacred Relationships book HERE

A NEW, SURPRISE (and FREE) Resource announced on this episode!

The way you two repair after a conflict will either lead to emotional baggage or emotional healing and bonding. The thing is, it can be hard to set aside the ego and focus on repair, especially when you also feel hurt about some things said and done during the argument.

This episode focuses on the MOST critical step to repair (of the 5 total), which also tends to be the hardest.

But by focusing on this step we share, you WILL resolve things faster, and move towards emotional healing. Tune in for this critical step to take.

Relationship Resources:

YOU GET EARLY ACCESS to our brand new (and free) WebClass on:

The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (instead of hours, days, weeks). GO HERE TO SIGN-UP AND WATCH.

Every interaction is either a deposit or withdrawal from your partner's "love account". Meaning, every little remark you make or thing you say either deposits love and connection or it takes some away. The thing is, less "love deposits" are made for couples who are together a while or find themselves in busy seasons of life.

Most couples will go through seasons like these where they need to be making more deposits but they are actually making more withdrawals unconsciously. This isn't just a relational "nice idea" because the level of your love accounts determines how on edge, reactive, and snappy you are to each other. The hardest thing about having a low account is that you are much less willing to do the thing you need, to fill it back up…

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

*It would be an amazing baby gift if you would leave a review for the book. As content creators, that is a huge deposit into our love accounts!*

There has always been a focus on the future that we each want to create. As a couple this can be in the form of setting goals or establishing your vision statement. This is a great thing because you can't get anywhere if you don't know where you want to go. But sometimes this can leave you feeling disappointed that you are "not there yet" or be discouraged when you feel you are not making as much progress as you would like.

In this solo episode with Aaron you will hear how there is a gap that gets created from this thinking, which can cause you to feel more disappointed about the relationship, when really you just need to change a particular focus. You will hear how you can close the gap between where you want to be and where you are now, so that you are not left feeling discouraged about your current relationship or your partner. You will easily gain appreciation and gratitude by making this one small shift.

Episode Resources & Links:

1. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
2. The Gap and The Gain book by Ben Hardy HERE

The Danish people have ranked as the "happiest people on earth" for 40 years in a row starting in the 70's, only to be rivaled by Norwegian and Finish people over the last several years. And their happiness isn't dependent on things like: the weather or low taxes (it's actually pretty cold and dark there, and they have relatively higher taxes)....so they must be doing something else right to be so happy.

So in today's episode we cover 3 of the traits that they focus on to be the happiest people. Many of the traits we KNOW are critical to having a happy marriage. Of course just being a happier individual will lead to a happier relationship, but you will be able to know exactly what traits to improve in your relationship, so that your own happiness is intentional and not just based on better life circumstances.

Episode Resources & Links:

1. If you're a parent, attend the WebClass taught by parenting expert, Amy McCready, on November 10th. Details and registration HERE.
2. Read the book we referred to in the podcast, The Danish Way of Parenting HERE
3. Read our book, The Argument Hangover and claim $200 worth of bonuses HERE.

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Episode Resources & Links:

1. FREE Parenting WebClass with Amy McCready on November 10th HERE
2. Hypnobabies Program for Natural Birth HERE
3. Pelvic Floor Birth Program (One Strong Mama) HERE
4. The Conscious Parent book by Dr Shefali HERE
5. Video on baby communication sounds HERE
6. Elimination Communication (Go Diaper Free) HERE

There are many ways to parent a child and even the way of "let's just figure it out as we go". We wanted to take this episode to share with you about our prep for becoming parents this coming December.

As we are so into communication and emotional intelligence between couples, you shouldn't be surprised that we are learning about how to do that with our own daughter.

Of course reading and listening is not the same as the "as lived experience", there are a number of philosophies and parenting guidelines that we are committed to implementing so that we can be truly conscious parents. Being conscious parents will allow us the best opportunity to raise a conscious child.

By no means are we saying we will be perfect or that we are judging any other ways of parenting, we just wanted to be open with you all about our journey and to even see the correlations to being a great partner. We believe that if you want your children to have great relationships, you have to have one yourself!

In this episode, we discuss:

1. Our preparation for natural birth and helpful programs
2. Non-mainstream techniques for parenting intentionally
3. Conscious parenting and raising her to be the best version of herself
4. Developing "Emotional Intelligence" in our parenting approach (just like our marriage)
5. What we've learned from different cultures (outside the United States) for developing happy human beings

Additional Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

If you are a parent (or soon to be) you must attend the FREE Webinar with our guest Amy McCready on November 10th at OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com/parenting because she's takes all the topics today even deeper to the specific how-tos!

As you can already tell we have a guest on this episode and it's none other than nationally renoun parenting expert Amy McCready!

Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, parenting contributor on the TODAY show, best-selling author, and creator of The 7-Step Parenting Success System that has helped over 100,000 parents of toddlers to teens bring peace into their homes.

During this episode you will hear:

• What to do if you disagree on your parenting philosophy like authoritative vs her method of Positive Parenting Solutions
• What to do if triggered by your kids and preventing an argument with partner and
• How to make sure your partnership AND your parenting thrives at the same time.

Don't forget to register for the follow-up FREE Webclass that Amy is doing for our community only at: onlinecouplesworkshops.com/parenting

On the webinar you will get:

• The 5 Steps for No-Yelling consequences ALL parents can agree on
• How to find common parenting ground — even if it feels like a battlefield
• 3 action steps you can take TODAY to unite in parenting

Resources For Your Relationship:

If you missed the Nov. 10th webinar...

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Every one of us humans has needs that need to be fulfilled to have a good life. Part of this search to fulfill these needs is what leads you to get into a relationship in the first place. You might think about survival type needs to begin with like food and shelter, but these are emotional needs that all of us seek to have fulfilled.

Since these 6 needs are emotionally based it can be easy to not pay attention to them which leads to it being easy to let them decline. Though it isn't immediately obvious, the lack of these needs is what leads us to all our actions. When they are low in a relationship, it can lead to taking small innocent actions that lead to bigger issues of trust and disconnection.

In this episode you will hear the 6 human needs that were made famous by a Tony Robbins TED talk, but you will hear examples of how this places out in your relationship. We give you two actions to take to figure out your top two needs and the way to make sure you are always on top of where your partner's level of fulfillment is at.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get 50% OFF The On-The-Go Communication Course to enhance your communication skills, even during your busy life, by using the code: PODCAST

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.