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Object constancy is very much missing in a relationship with a narcissistic Hijackal, and it's an essential ingredient of a healthy relationship. In this episode, I explain what it is and what happens when it's missing.
Does your relationship feel like juggling jello? It will if you have a Hijackal in it!!!
Learn how to see and understand what's missing in your relationship that causes SO much tension and second-guessing. You may be blaming yourself as well as being blamed by the Hijackal, and IT'S NOT TRUE! That's why thinking about this important concept of "object constancy" helps you to understand why you feel so pushed around by the extremes of the Hijackal. Fancy name for a very important concept!
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#objectconstancy #wholeobjectrelations #beingthreatened #feelingthreatened #beingleft #neverfeelclose
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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Being with a narcissist or any Hijackal is exhausting! You really want to believe they love you and yet to scramble to find even little shards of evidence. Then, you make the shards sound like a whole thing, right? You second-guess yourself...because a Hijackal WANTS you to feel uncertain and confused. Listen in and recognize how and that this is happening, SO you can stop it!!!
Self-doubt means you lose faith and confidence in yourself and your abilities. You can also start questioning your memory, wants, judgment, needs, feelings, and thoughts. A Hijackal preys on your vulnerabilities in attempts to keep you second-guessing yourself and questioning your sanity. Do these 10 signs of self-doubt and low self-esteem sound familiar?
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Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients,only $97
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WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
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If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
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#selfdoubt #livingwithanarcissist #haveanarcissisticparent #selfcritical #difficultpeople #lowselfesteem
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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You look for signs that someone cares. You long for signs they love you, right? So any little glimmer seems hopeful. Yet, you feel alone, demeaned, dismissed, and ignored in so many ways. That's a problem!
In this episode, you'll learn more about why you cannot find the emotional intimacy you crave with an empathy-deficient person, a Hijackal who is narcissistic.. And, what you need to know to make good decisions about it, too. p.s. ALL Hijackals are narcissistic!
Hijackal® is my term for people who hijack a relationship for their own needs and purposes, and then relentlessly scavenge that relationship for power, status, and control. Got on in your life? A parent? Partner? Sibling? Adult Child? In-Law? Hijackals feel the need to take as much as they can from you, while giving you as little as possible to get away with. Familiar? Listen in.
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I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients,only $97
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WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
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YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
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#notfeelingsafe #noemotionalsafety #noequality #noempathy #noemotionalintimacy #
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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They keep you guessing, don't they? Narcissists--and all Hijackals--like to keep you in uncertainty, chaos, and confusion.
You HOPE you know them, and then they make you question it.
Can you rely on them? Only for one thing...and, I tell you about that ONE thing in this episode along with many signs showing you that it is unwise to trust a narcissistic person even you want to believe you know and like them. Honesty is a big question when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal, as well as respect, reliability, safety, and trust. Much as you want to believe they have those things to give you...sadly, they don't...and won't.
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I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients,only $97
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WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
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#knowliketrust #narcissistisunreliable #canttrustmypartner #canmypartnerchange #ihatethelies #timetoleave
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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Partner? Parent? Sibling? Child? Someone holding you as an emotional hostage? SEE THE SIGNS!
You may be making excuses for their behavior, and not seeing their destructive, manipulative ways. You need to clearly recognize these signs of emotional terrorists in action so you can clearly refuse to let them take you hostage.
You can become a hostage so slowly that you actually did so willingly. You thought it was compromise, collaboration, and the loving thing to do. You may not have thought of it as abusive...and, now is the time to find out what's really going on.
Emotional terrorists traffic in fear, obligation, guilt, anxiety, and hypervigilance. Do those sound familiar? You really NEED to know these signs!
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I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients,only $97
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
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#emotiona.terrorists #emotionalterrorism #emotionalhostage #takebackyourpersonalpower #saynotoabuse
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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...AND, it's not your fault! You can feel VERY lonely in a supposedly close relationship. You do everything you can to close the gap, yet nothing works. This episode will help you see what's up, and why it's a THEM problem, and not a YOU problem. Valuable to know so you won't lose sleep!
Recognizing the signs of emotional unavailability can relieve you of thinking you're not doing enough, or not good enough. That's GOOD NEWS!
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I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients,only $97
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
#emotionallyunavailable #notyourfault #lonelyinarelationship #partnerdoesntcare #doesntcarehowIfeel
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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Wonder why you do what you do? Feel like you feel? What shaped you? Listen to this episode and check for these twenty ways you could be feeling and behaving that are result of things you may not even think about in your childhood. Good step towards enhanced emotional well-being.
It's NOT direct cause and effect. People and events in your early life CAN lead to the way your feel about yourself in relationship in your later life. Important to recognize so that you can make conscious decisions about what is best for you. Two children in the same family can have very different perceptions and reactions to the same event. Everyone is different. AND, some of these may resonate for you. Others may be validating. All are good to think about!
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I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients,only $97
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
#childhoodtrauma #whatchildhoodtraumacancreate #whydoIdothis #signsofchildhoodneglect #Iwantahealthyrelationship #wanttofeelsafe
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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Are you focused on a Hijackal and not on yourself? That's just what the Hijackal wants you to do. Time for focus on your own internal well-being. In this episode, you'll hear 8 MUST HAVES, and, more importantly, WHY they are an essential place to start when you're feeling put down, worn down, and torn down by a narcissistic Hijackal. Regain your center. Reclaim your power...and rebuild your life.
Sound good? Great! You'll be on a good path to healthier relationships with yourself and others when you discover the power of these 8 MUST-HAVES. AND, put them into daily action in your life.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients,only $97
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
#emotionalwellbeing #dysfunctionalcoregulation #autonomyishealthy #takecareofmyself #expressmyfeelings #innerpeace
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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It's a sad turn of events when a way of misleading and manipulating people is the word of the year for Merriam-Webster. It's TOO much. It's emotional abuse. It's TOO frequent. Have you been gaslighted? Do you wonder if you're experiencing it?
It can begin very subtly, and you might feel a little flattered...or close. Slowly it becomes more persistent, and you might start second-guessing yourself and questioning your sanity. That's when you NEED to KNOW it's GASLIGHTING!
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I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients,only $97
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
#gaslighting #whatisgaslighting #secondguessingmyself #amicrazy #deviouscommunication #emotionalmanipulation
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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So frustrating, disappointing, and infuriating! Hijackals will NOT allow you to be equal in all the ways that count in a relationship. They reject it. It helps you to see it when you hear how and why it happens. You can feel it, for sure, but SO MUCH BETTER to know what's up, right?
Ever have the lingering feeling that the person you have in mind right now is not interested in ever letting you feel good enough? Be right? Get what you want? That's because of underlying inequality in many cases. I mean it: this is SO important to recognize and lean into. It can be the beginning of changing the games they play.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients,only $97
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
#nevergoodenough #cannotbeequal #alwaysneedstowin #lackofequality #emotionalmanipulation
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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The Save Your Sanity podcast offers episodes filled with the expert insights, validation, strategies, and support you need to recognize, manage, and recover from relationships with the…
She offers invaluable help to stop the second-guessing, undermining, and crazy-making traits, patterns, and cycles you have encountered in relationships with folks like those. Understand the ways, whys, and hows that verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and spiritual abuse affect you over time. Whether the Hijackal is a partner, parent, ex, or colleague, what you will learn here will strengthen and empower you to step up, speak up, and stand up for yourself in healthy, assertive ways.
Many Hijackals have behaviors that are considered the same as those who are diagnosed as narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths, sociopaths, and histrionic personality disorder. These insights will help you to make the changes--and good decisions--to move from pain to power, and that's exactly what you want to do! Listen now.
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