Sex for Saints

Clients will often tell me that they don't need to use lube because there isn't anything wrong with them. This could not be further from the truth! There are many things that will affect your natural lubrication, including stress or dehydration, so having some lube you love at your fingertips will only make sex better. In this episode, we're going to talk about why we use lube, how to choose the right lube and what lubes I like the best. You should be using lube! Here's why.

Some of my favorites:

Coconu carries my favorite water-based and oil-based lube. Their hemp infused oil-based is a favorite of mine and can enhance orgasms. Use the code Amanda at checkout for 15% off.

Uberlube is another favorite of mine. This one is silicone based. It has vitamin E, is so silky and soft, feels good on my skin, and is long lasting. It is also flavorless.

Sutil is recommended if you have had a decrease in estrogen levels, either with menopause or breastfeeding.

Other brands I've either tried or heard good things about: Sliquid, Aloe Cadabra, Waterslide, YES, and The Butters.

This holiday season, can I suggest a new tradition? Giving, and receiving, sexy holiday gifts! When we're thinking about gifts for our spouse, we often think about what they need or want, and while that's great, I think as a couple, it's important to use this time to give each other something that helps turn up the heat and the desire in the bedroom. It doesn't have to be elaborate. It can be as simple as a sexy playlist. Join me as I share with you 6 ideas on how to have a sexy holiday this year!

I have a friend who has 7 kids, all born in September. That means that they were all conceived around Christmas. We've often joked about this with her, but it turns out that they aren't the only ones who get especially horny during the holiday season. In fact, more babies are conceived in December than any other month! Why is this? That's what we're talking about in the episode. There are some biological factors, some psychological factors, as well as some social and environmental factors that are playing a role in this, but whatever the reason, it's a great time of year to connect sexually with your spouse!

I'm speaking with therapist Jeff Lundgren, again, today about internal family systems. It's a therapeutic modality that he uses in his practice that I find fascinating. If you've ever seen the movie Inside Out, you've had an introduction to this type of therapy. So, in this episode, we talk about where the internal family systems came from, and most importantly, how it can help us in our sexual lives. I invite you to join us for this fascinating look into our minds.

Jeff Lundgren is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and holds a certificate as a Psychedelic-Assisted Therapist Provider. Jeff is a member of the Mormon Mental Health Association and the owner of a private group practice in Millcreek - Oak Branch Counseling. Jeff lives in Salt Lake City. He has a passion for the outdoors, music, autocross, and the joys of fatherhood.

At times in my coaching career, I've been asked by clients about the use of psychedelics in sex therapy. I know that this may be a controversial topic, but I think it's important to be given all of the information so you can make the decision for yourself. I am excited to have Jeff Lundgren on the podcast today to talk about it. This interview is fascinating! We talk about the history of psychedelics and their use in therapy. And Jeff shares some success stories he has witnessed in clients who used psychedelics to heal sexual dysfunction. Even if you've never been curious, I would still encourage you to listen to this episode to learn more about how to heal dysfunction in your life.

Jeff Lundgren is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and holds a certificate as a Psychedelic-Assisted Therapist Provider. Jeff is a member of the Mormon Mental Health Association and the owner of a private group practice in Millcreek - Oak Branch Counseling. Jeff lives in Salt Lake City. He has a passion for the outdoors, music, autocross, and the joys of fatherhood.

Most of us will say that our marriage is our most important relationship. Yet we often let things get in the way of making it great and our marriage gets put on the back burner. Whether that is kids, work, hobbies, or church callings, we don't put enough into our relationship. And that relationship is barely surviving instead of thriving. And when our relationship suffers, often so does our sexual relationship. So in this episode, let's talk about 11 ways to make a marriage thrive. We'll discuss how these strategies can help both your marriage relationship and your sexual relationship because we often talk of sex as a need, but it's not a need like air, food or water is a need. But it is a need for the thriving marriage that we want.

I think we all want to have an intimate marriage, but we often miss one important step in achieving that. To have an intimate marriage, we must understand and make room for both partners' wants and desires, without judgment or shame. But what I often see happening is that one partner thinks their wants and desires matter more than the other partner and they expect their partner to accommodate them. Or, I also see that one partner suppresses their wants and desires or preferences to accommodate their partners. This can create resentment, anxiety, and guilt. So, why do we do this and what can we do about it? That's what we're talking about in this episode.

Have you ever thought about how food can affect your sex life? That's what I'm discussing today with my guest and fellow life coach Lisa Salisbury. Thinking about what you put in your body and what you want from your body are important. But, let me be clear, we're not talking about counting calories or macros or anything like that. We're talking about listening to your body and knowing that if you'd like to have sex tonight, it might be better to not finish your meal and be overly full. I'm so excited for you to hear this interview. It is a great one!

Lisa Salisbury is a life coach for health and weight loss for women who want to lose weight without counting and calculating their food. As a former chronic dieter, Lisa knows what it's like to be all-consumed with everything that goes into your mouth. It was only when she learned the tools and skills through coaching that she was able to drop the dieting obsession and drop her weight!

Lisa is a certified Health Coach through Institute of Integrative Nutrition and a certified Life Coach and Weight Loss Coach through The Life Coach School. She also has a BS from Brigham Young University in Health and Human Performance.

She takes her clients through a 12 week program designed to help them eat well, think well and live well. When you learn the skill of paying attention to your body and losing weight, you'll be surprised at how it translates into other areas of life. Craving chocolate & craving more instagram? Same solutions. Avoiding vegetables/protein & avoiding your to-do list? Same solutions. You can hear many of these tools on her podcast Eat Well, Think Well, Live Well.

You can find Lisa on:

Her website: wellwithlisa.com

Instagram: @well_with_lisa

Her podcast: Eat Well, Think Well, Live Well

And download her go to meals guide at: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/625f1d3d96808aece7b0ee33

Many women tell me that sex is boring for them, which is one of the reasons why they don't have a strong desire for it. No one craves boredom. We crave pleasure, excitement, novelty, and fun. And if sex is boring, you are probably not having any of those things. But one of the biggest reasons why women are bored is because they often aren't being an active participant. What does it mean to be an active participant in your sex life? It means communicating your needs, being willing to try new things, setting the mood, role-playing, and so much more. It's time to take control of your own sexuality and be a good receiver of pleasure. Listen to this episode to hear even more ways you can be an active participant and a good receiver in sex.

The lack of sex education is a real issue in our country, so often people turn to pornography to learn about sex, which doesn't actually help our understanding of sex nor our relationships. In this episode, we're diving deep into the topic of pornography and its impact on our understanding of sex and relationships. We'll discuss why pornography isn't a great way to learn about sex, the misconceptions and myths it perpetuates, and the potential problems it can create in our sexual relationships. While pornography is a common form of sexual entertainment, it's not a reliable or healthy source of sexual education.