I get asked a lot about desire. My clients notice that throughout the month they are either really ready for sex or they don’t want it at all. And then I ask them if they’ve ever tracked their cycle to see if these days coincide with what’s going on in their bodies. Most haven’t. So today we’re going to talk about what is happening in your body during your menstrual cycle and what that means for your sex life!

In our conservative Christian culture, oral sex comes with a lot of hang ups. But it doesn’t need to. In this episode, let’s talk about how amazing oral sex can be between you and your spouse. Let’s look at the hang ups that either spouse might have and see what we can do to help them. After all, a high percentage of women say that oral sex is the most reliable way for them to orgasm. There is a lot of pleasure to be had there. Maybe it’s time to give it a try?

I have some serious concerns about an upcoming Come, Follow Me lesson on pornography.  Hear my concerns and what you can do about it.

https://amandalouder.com/cfm-june-13-pornography/

We have all read those scriptures that tell us that thinking about sex is bad. But, what if we’re interpreting those scriptures wrong? In this episode, we explore what those scriptures actually mean and what that means for us and our fantasies. We all have them and that’s ok. Don’t fight against your fantasies! It’s the intention that matters!

Someone shared with me recently that their friend says she has a great sex life, but she won’t let her husband watch her undress because she doesn’t like her body after having a baby. I want to talk more about that in this episode. Can you really have a great sex life while hating your body? No. As much as you can’t hate yourself thin, you can’t be fully present in your sex life while hating how you look. It’s time to be your own best friend. Are you ready? Let’s go!

How can you go from good sex to great sex? I get so many messages from all of you who have listened to the podcast saying how much it has helped you. This is definitely my calling in life so I love hearing that! But as I work with more and more clients in a group coaching setting, I am realizing that the personalized help you get through group coaching can help your sex life even more! In this episode, I want to share with you an experience one of my clients had in a coaching setting. Can you go from good sex to great sex? Yes! If the podcast has made things good, imagine how much better group coaching would make it!

I got asked a question that I didn’t know the answer to so I brought in an expert! The question was about sex and menopause. Is it all over once you hit 50? It doesn’t have to be! Cami Hurst, a counselor and sex therapist from Meridian, Idaho joins me to in this episode to share her expertise on what to expect with your sex life and menopause. I learned so much from her about what’s happening in women’s bodies and most importantly what we can do about it! 

What do you want out of your marriage? I think we all want our marriages to be healthy and full of passion, right? But, how do you do that? Today I’m talking about the 4 keys to a healthy and passionate marriage. Can you disagree and still be close? Yes! Can you love your spouse for who they are, not who you wish they would be? Absolutely!

When something is scarce, you want it more! (Remember the toilet paper shortage of 2020?) So what does this have to do with sex and marriage? When you’re not having sex, you begin to be preoccupied with sex. I see this scarcity mindset show up in my coaching practice in two ways. Either you don’t have enough to give or you feel like you need to do more to be fulfilled. In today’s episode, we talk more about this scarcity mindset and how to change your mindset to make sex something for you not something you have to do.

What exactly is transactional sex?  The idea that your relationship could include this type of sex is probably something you may not even be aware of - but there’s definitely a subconscious tracking of who is doing what for who, and when.  Today I am going to give you 7 key warning signs that your sexual relationship is transactional and then what you can do about it.