She Wasn't Born Yesterday

About the Guest: 

Dr. Naras Lapsys is a longevity expert, recognized for his profound knowledge and contributions to the field. With a keen interest that dates back over a decade, Dr. Lapsys has been at the forefront of the conversation surrounding longevity medicine and healthy aging. His professional career includes extensive research and a deep understanding of the aging process that has contributed to his expertise. He is a key figure in the field, contributing to the foundation of longevity medicine and being part of the society that champions this emerging medical specialty. 

 

Episode Summary: 

In this engaging episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” hosts Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines engage in an illuminating conversation with Dr. Naras Lapsys, an expert in the field of longevity medicine. The discussion delves into the intricacies of aging and the pursuit of extending both health span and life span. Beginning with personal anecdotes and smoothly transitioning into a scientific exploration, the dialogue is fuelled by curiosity and a quest for practical insights for those over 40. 

Dr. Lapsys shares his profound insights into the difference between health span and life span, underlining the importance of quality of life in one’s later years. The episode is rich with discussions on caloric intake, exercise, and the impact of longevity medicine as an evolving field. Emphasizing the role of consistent lifestyle choices beginning at an early age, Dr. Lapsys offers actionable advice backed by scientific research. The episode is not only educational but serves as a motivational tool, encouraging listeners to actively participate in shaping their aging journey as well as the distinctions between longevity, aging gracefully, and healthy living. 

 

Key Takeaways: 

• Caloric Intake and Body Composition: Overconsumption of calories is a significant contributor to aging; maintaining an optimal caloric balance and body composition is crucial for health span extension.
• Exercise as a Priority: Daily physical activity, irrespective of weather conditions, is paramount in promoting longevity and improving quality of life as we age.
• The Impact of Longevity Medicine: This emerging specialty in medicine focuses on enhancing health span by targeting the aging process early on and throughout life.
• Blue Zones: These are regions where people live exceptionally long, healthy lives, providing a template for lifestyle habits that promote longevity.
• Lifestyle Choices and Aging: Early and consistent healthy lifestyle choices, including diet and exercise, play a pivotal role in determining the quality of aging.

 

Notable Quotes: 

1. You could go to your next reunion and be with your classmates from high school graduation… and see that some of them are looking like they’re aging a bit better or worse than others.
2. How many calories are we consuming? One good way is you just look at yourselves. We can look at ourselves in the mirror.
3. Healthy longevity medicine is optimizing health span by targeting the aging process across the lifespan.
4. It’s a decision that we make – Dr. Lapsys on actively participating in one’s healthy aging process.

 

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About the Guest: 

Ben McEachen is the mornings presenter at Sydney's Hope 103.2 and is actively involved in a community support program known as Divorce Care, which he runs with his wife, Amy. With his life experience of separation and divorce, Ben brings a wealth of personal insight to the course, which is designed to help individuals navigate the emotional terrain of divorce. The initiative aims to offer guidance, support, and a space for healing and reflection for those going through one of life’s most challenging transitions. 

Episode Summary: 

In this earnest episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” hosts Amelia and Janet delve into the complex and often misunderstood journey of life after divorce. The conversation features Ben McEachen, whose personal encounter with divorce inspired him to facilitate a program called Divorce Care, aimed at guiding people through the emotional labyrinth that follows the dissolution of a marriage. 

Throughout the discussion, Ben touches on the profound impact of separation and divorce, not just on the individuals directly involved, but on their social circles, children, and community at large. The conversation weaves through the various phases participants experience, from the shock and grief immediate to the separation to the potentially empowering steps towards forgiveness, new beginnings, and self-reflection. This ep promises valuable insights into navigating divorce with compassion and the potential for personal growth. 

Key Takeaways: 

• Divorce can have traumatic effects, ranking as the second most stressful life event after the death of a spouse. 
• Divorce Care is a biblically-based support course providing a platform for those dealing with the ramifications of divorce. 
• The process of divorce touches upon various aspects of life, including the emotional impact, financial implications, and the dynamics of parenting post-separation. 
• Forgiveness is a pivotal theme in the recovery process, acknowledging one’s own role in the dissolution as well as releasing bitterness towards the ex-spouse. 
• The discussion emphasizes the importance of community support, especially within the church, during the often lonely journey of divorce. 

Notable Quotes: 

• “If you imagine ripping [a united marriage] apart, it’s totally understandable that people would be traumatized.” 
• “The ripple effects [of divorce] are just, I think, more wide-reaching than what most people would realize.” 
• “Even if you are 99.9% in the right…what is it that you brought to this relationship?” 

• “Forgiveness is like the key that unlocks the door that can free you from…prison.” 
• “It still seems like…churches don’t quite know what to do with separation and divorce.” 

Resources: 

Divorce Care was highlighted as the primary resource for individuals seeking support through their divorce. To find a local Divorce Care group, individuals can search online and find information regarding sign-ups and meetings. 

Sign up here for the specific Divorce Care program which Ben and Amy hosts in Sydney's Inner West. 

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About the Guest:

Dr. Marshall Ballantine-Jones is a seasoned researcher in the field of pornography’s effects, specializing in its epidemiological impacts on adolescents and young adults. With a PhD from Sydney University (Discipline of Child and Adolescent Health), he has conducted an extensive study under the supervision of renowned experts like Dr. Patricia Weerakoon. Dr. Ballantine-Jones is also the CEO of Digihelp, an organization that creates a school based program addressing sexualised media (pornography) in the online world and consults with schools to mitigate the negative impacts of this sexualization.

Episode Summary:

In this episode of "She Wasn't Born Yesterday," hosts Janet Evans and Dr. Amelia Haines engage in a conversation with an expert on the convergence of porn, mental health, and relationships, Dr. Marshall Ballantine-Jones. With rising concerns about the pervasive influence of pornography, this episode delves into the complex realities and the psychological underpinnings behind porn consumption.

Dr. Ballantine-Jones brings his extensive research to the table as he explains the neurological changes induced by frequent porn use and how this shapes behavior and decision-making. The candid conversation navigates through the challenges brought forth by porn addiction, the societal implications, and the unique dynamics as it pertains to women viewers and the hypersexualized portrayal of women in media.

Key insights are shared about parental engagement, educational strategies, and the brain's ability to reform from addictive patterns. The pod emphasizes the importance of confronting this sensitive topic, the role of communication in overcoming addiction, and the societal shifts that might encourage a healthier approach to human sexuality.

Key Takeaways:

• Pornography consumption can lead to the development of new neural pathways that prioritize porn use over other dopamine-producing activities, potentially leading to addictive behaviors.
• The impact of pornography varies between males and females, with women tending to engage with content that appeals to a narrative structure, like romance and intimacy.
• Engaging conversations with adolescents and young adults about the dangers of pornography and hypersexualized media can significantly influence their perceptions and behaviors.
• Personal struggles with pornography addiction require open discussions, therapeutic support, and engaging in new, fulfilling activities to form healthier neural pathways.
• The broader societal narrative around sexuality and empowerment can cloud the judgment about pornography's harmful effects, making informed, critical conversations all the more vital.

Notable Quotes:

• When you do high dopamine producing activities in repetition, our brain will fast track new neural pathways…
• Women who statistically find themselves regularly engaging with a form of pornography…tend to have a complex backstory…
• People are sexual beings and people like sexual pleasure. If someone's offering that for free, on tap…what's going to stop you?
• The only way that we're going to get genuine, community-wide, systemic pushback on pornography is if the hearts and minds of people are convinced that this is not good.
• I'd encourage you to do these things. I'd encourage you to talk to someone trusted about it…spend some time with a therapist…invest in new hobbies and passions…

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About the Guest:

Renae Leith Manos is an entrepreneur, journalist, luxury travel commentator, and coach. She is the founder of Renae's World, a leading authority in the global luxury hotel, restaurant, and spa review sector. With a background in journalism and a passion for luxury hotels and restaurants, Ranae has established herself as a prominent influencer in the travel industry. She has a wealth of experience in reviewing hotels and restaurants and has built strong relationships with industry professionals around the world.

Episode Summary:

In this episode, Janet and Amelia interview Renae Leith Manos, a 40+ influencer and founder of Renae's World. They deep dive into the reality of being an influencer and the hard work that goes into creating content and building a following. Renae shares her journey from being a journalist to launching her own brand focused on luxury travel. She discusses the challenges and rewards of being an influencer, the importance of authenticity, and the evolving trends in the luxury hotel industry. Renae also talks about her consulting business and her passion for mentoring young women in the digital media space.

Key Takeaways:

• Being an influencer is not just about taking pretty pictures and posting them online. It requires hard work, discipline, and a deep understanding of the industry.
• Authenticity is key in building a loyal following. People are looking for real experiences and genuine connections, not just polished and airbrushed content.
• The future of luxury hotels is changing, with a focus on wellness, sustainability, and personalized experiences. Hotels need to adapt to these trends to meet the evolving needs of their guests.
• Building a large following on social media takes time and effort. Engaging with your audience, sharing personal stories, and providing valuable content are essential for attracting and retaining followers.
• Influencers have the power to make a positive impact on the travel industry by supporting and promoting hotels and brands that align with their values and provide exceptional experiences.

Notable Quotes:

• "I think influencing is certainly one of those areas where there's a lot of smoke and mirrors in life." 
• "You have to be bright, courageous, and resilient to succeed as an influencer." 
• "None of this is real. What you see on Instagram or social media is not reality."

Resources:

• Ranae's World - Website
• Ranae's Instagram - Instagram

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About the Guest: 

Victoria is a senior executive at a multinational company. Her career encompasses roles in people management, talent management, and operations. Known for her strategy formulation and execution, she stands out as a multifaceted professional. However, Victoria’s story is not just about her professional achievements; it’s also about her personal journey overcoming domestic abuse, rebuilding her life, and finding love again post-divorce. She uses her managerial position to make change and support women going through similar crises. 

Episode Summary: 

In this revealing episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” hosts Dr. Amelia Haines and Janet Evans speak with Victoria, who opens up about her experiences of finding love after a traumatic past involving domestic violence. Victoria’s candid discussion offers insights into the complexities of starting anew, providing support for women 40+ who are navigating similar challenges. 

Victoria’s journey encapsulates the harrowing experience of domestic abuse while highlighting the resilience needed to escape and reconstruct a life of safety and happiness. The episode delves into her approach to dating and the process of rebuilding trust in new relationships. With a poignant and hopeful narrative, Victoria’s story underscores the possibility of rediscovering love and the importance of self-care. 

Key Takeaways: 

• Domestic violence survivors can rebuild their lives and find love again with time and healing. 
• Supportive work environments play a crucial role in providing solace and stability during times of personal turmoil. 
• Creating a safe and strategic plan is paramount when leaving an abusive relationship. 
• Entering the dating scene with a sense of fun and adventure is beneficial, rather than searching for someone to “fix” past trauma. 
• Open communication about past experiences in new relationships can lay a foundation for trust and understanding. 

Notable Quotes: 

• “Being alive is way better than being dead … every day is a great day to be alive.”
• “It didn’t impact how I saw other men.”
• “I felt ready again to actually think about those things and, yeah, start dating again.”
• “If he walks away after knowing this, then it wasn’t meant to be anyway.”

Resources: 

The resources mentioned in the podcast include Lifeline, a crisis support service (Phone 13 11 14 here in Australia). 

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About the Guest: 

Mark Tedeschi is a former New South Wales Senior Crown Prosecutor with over 20 years of experience. He has prosecuted high-profile cases, including the backpacker serial killer Ivan Milat, and has written several true crime books. Mark is also an accomplished photographer, with a keen interest in capturing the beauty of the world around us.

Episode Summary: 

Janet and Dr. Amelia of the “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday” podcast sit down and chat with Mark Tedeschi, a renowned former Senior Crown Prosecutor. They delve into the fascination with true crime, the intricacies of prosecuting a case, and the challenges faced by prosecutors. Mark shares insights from his experience and emphasizes the importance of maintaining objectivity and professionalism in the courtroom. The conversation also touches on the 'no body, no parole' law and the complexities of relationships with criminals. 

Key Takeaways: 

• Women are often more interested in true crime due to their focus on relationships and societal positions. 
• Prosecutors have the responsibility to present the case to the best of their ability, regardless of personal beliefs about the defendant’s guilt. 
• The no body, no parole law can be counterproductive and may not lead to the discovery of missing bodies. 
• Maintaining contact with the outside world is critical for prisoners, and some may insist on maintaining their innocence to preserve those connections. 
• Families of both victims and perpetrators can be deeply affected by a crime, often struggling to accept the actions of their loved ones. 

Notable Quotes: 

• “The whole system of jail discipline and order relies upon people who behave well in jail getting parole.” - Mark Tedeschi 
• “Often, people are victims of their circumstances, but that doesn’t excuse what they’ve done.” - Mark Tedeschi 
• “It’s very easy to have a relationship with someone who you visit once a week or once a fortnight.” - Mark Tedeschi 
• “She got herself into a terrible situation quite openly. She must have known that at some stage it would all come crashing down.” - Mark Tedeschi 

Resources: 

• Mark Tedeschi’s website 

Be sure to listen to the full episode for an in-depth view into the issue of true crime. Stay tuned for more enlightening content from “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday.” 

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About the Guest:

Annabelle Daniel is the CEO of Women’s Community Shelters, an organization dedicated to providing safe crisis accommodation for women and children experiencing homelessness or domestic and family violence. With a background in social work, Annabelle has been working in the field for over a decade, advocating for the rights and well-being of vulnerable women. She is passionate about creating holistic solutions and support networks for those in need. 

Episode Summary: 

In this episode, Janet and Amelia discuss the growing issue of homelessness among women over 50 in Australia with Annabelle Daniel, CEO of Women’s Community Shelters. They explore the factors that contribute to this trend, such as financial vulnerability, domestic and family violence, and lack of affordable housing. Annabelle highlights the various forms of homelessness beyond street homelessness and emphasises the importance of safe and supportive accommodation for women in crisis. She also discusses the challenges faced by women in accessing government services and the need for a holistic approach to address their complex needs. 

Key Takeaways: 

• Women over 50 are the fastest-growing cohort of homeless people in Australia, with financial vulnerability and domestic violence being significant contributing factors. 
• Homelessness is not limited to street homelessness; it includes situations where women are sleeping in cars, couch-surfing, or living in overcrowded or unsafe environments. 
• The journey out of homelessness is a long-term process that requires not only safe accommodation but also professional support, community wraparound services, and access to government resources. 
• There is a need for more crisis accommodation shelters and transitional housing options to meet the growing demand and provide immediate support for women in crisis. 
• Creative solutions, such as utilizing unoccupied properties or repurposing existing buildings, can help address the immediate need for safe accommodation while long-term solutions are being developed. 

Notable Quotes: 

• “Crisis can happen very slowly and then all at once. It might only take one event to tip somebody over into homelessness.” - Annabelle Daniel 
• “Being able to stay in your home in the short term doesn’t mean it’s necessarily safe or affordable in the long term.” - Annabelle Daniel 
• “Isolation is a significant risk for women experiencing homelessness, as abusers often work to cut off their social networks.” - Annabelle Daniel 
• “We need pragmatic solutions for people who are homeless tonight, while also advocating for long-term housing initiatives.” - Annabelle Daniel 

• “Women over 55 often don’t define themselves as homeless, but they may be entitled to support and services they never imagined they could access.” - Annabelle Daniel 

Resources: 

• Women’s Community Shelters 

Be sure to listen to the full episode for an in-depth view into the issue of homelessness. Stay tuned for more enlightening content from “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday.” 

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About the Guest: 

Kristina Keneally is the former New South Wales Premier and Labour Senator. She was dedicated to public service, with a focus on tackling significant issues such as stillbirth, a cause she holds close following her personal experience. Keneally is the CEO of the Sydney Children’s Hospital Foundation and has played an instrumental role in creating awareness and instigating change around the underrepresented issue of stillbirth in Australia. 

Episode Summary: 

In this episode of “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday,” former NSW Premier and Labour Senator Kristina Keneally joins hosts Amelia and Janet for a moving conversation about pregnancy loss, and how to move forward after such tragic experiences. The episode tackles the complexities of stillbirth, an issue Keneally has committed to addressing both personally and politically. 

Keneally shares her own story of pregnancy loss and the challenges in dealing with stillbirth publicly while serving in the public eye. The discussion covers aspects ranging from the emotional effects on families, to medical practices, cultural sensitivities, and legislative changes in Australia. Including the positive impact of a Senate inquiry into stillbirth, initiated by Keneally, and its resulting strides towards a national action plan to reduce stillbirth rates—an initiative the guest has passionately campaigned for. 

Key Takeaways: 

• Pregnancy loss, specifically stillbirth, is a significant but underrepresented issue in family life, with six babies a day stillborn in Australia. 
• Kristina Keneally’s personal experience with stillbirth has fueled her dedication to raising awareness and pushing for public health reforms. 
• Keneally’s advocacy led to a Senate inquiry into stillbirth, bringing the issue into the national discourse and resulting in a national action plan aiming to reduce stillbirth rates in Australia. 
• Cultural sensitivity and the varying responses to stillbirth across different communities highlight the complexity of addressing this issue. 
• Support for parents experiencing stillbirth, such as paid parental leave and bereavement counseling, is still inconsistent and requires more attention and standardisation. 

Notable Quotes: 

• “It’s like I joined a club I didn’t know existed, I don’t really want to be a member of, and I can’t get out of it.” 
• “If you can survive giving birth to your child who has died, and you can bury her…you’ve got an inner strength that all the other slings and arrows of life, you suddenly like, you know what? I’ve survived something far worse than this.” 
• “Christina Keneally wears same dress twice.”—Reflecting the often trivial public scrutiny faced by women in politics. 

• “My third child owes his life to the autopsy that was performed on his older sister.” 

Resources: 

• Stillbirth Foundation Australia website: Referenced for further information on stillbirth advocacy and resources. 

Be sure to listen to the full episode for an in-depth view into the heartrending topic of stillbirth and how incredible people like Kristina Keneally are working tirelessly to create change. Stay tuned for more enlightening content from “She Wasn’t Born Yesterday.” 

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How do you deal with the ‘pause’? How do you know you’re dating someone with a narcissistic personality disorder? How do you move on from divorce? Behind the scenes of a 40+ influencer and how to reverse the aging process, are just a few topics tackled.

She Wasn't Born Yesterday features Janet Evans, an ex M&C Saatchi advertising creative and Dr Amelia Haines, a sexual and relationship therapist, who have written Australia’s first book on empty nest syndrome called Empty Next. 

“So many unique issues affect women of our age, including empty nest syndrome, and nothing’s off limits in SWBY! We really dive headfirst into them, but hopefully with lightness and relevant wit where possible,” Janet commented. “We were incredibly lucky to chat to some very high profile guests, including CEOs of important organisations, who shared their expertise with us and our audience.”

 

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