The Thais Gibson Podcast

Shocking Coping Mechanisms of Fearful Avoidants


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In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike break down the most common protest behaviors of the Fearful Avoidant attachment style—the subconscious coping mechanisms that can sabotage relationships, even when they’re meant to soothe.


Drawing from personal experiences, Thais and Mike share valuable insights into how Fearful Avoidants may push their partners away while yearning for deeper connection. They discuss:


🗣 Being Harsh With Their Words – Why Fearful Avoidants lash out when triggered (01:16)

💭 Spiteful Behaviors – The hidden reason they may act out (12:31)

⏳ Flip-Flopping from Hot to Cold – Why their emotions shift suddenly (24:09)

💔 Testing by Pushing Away – How they unconsciously assess their partner’s commitment (35:04)

🧐 Becoming Critical – Why they find flaws to create emotional distance (45:33)


Whether you're navigating a relationship with a Fearful Avoidant or working on your own attachment patterns, this episode offers practical strategies to heal, build secure relationships, and improve emotional communication.


Timestamps & Topics Covered:

00:00 - Intro

01:16 - 1 — Being Harsh With Their Words

04:48 - Saying What You Mean vs Speaking Out of Anger

12:31 - 2 — Having Spiteful Behaviors

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16:42 - Indirect Behaviors FAs do When They're Upset

24:09 - 3 — Flip-Flopping From Hot to Cold

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33:31 - Reachers and Settlers in Dating

35:04 - 4 — Testing by Pushing Away

45:33 - 5 — Becoming Critical

48:31 - Conclusion


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