How Snoring Can Lead to Divorce
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, hosts Seth Nelson and Pete Wright explore the connections between poor sleep, snoring, and divorce. Their guest is Alex Neist, creator of Hostage Tape, which produces anti-snoring mouth tape. Alex shares how his snoring led to his divorce. The hosts dive into the impacts of sleep problems on relationships and solutions anyone can try.
Snoring as a Divorce Factor
Studies show links between sleep issues and divorce. Alex's snoring made his wife resentful, led to them sleeping in separate rooms, and is seen as a contributing factor in their divorce. Snoring often goes unaddressed, allowing resentment to build over time. Snoring arises from mouth-breathing during sleep. Alex discovered taping his mouth shut improved his sleep and energy. He launched Hostage Tape to inspire people to get better rest.
Sleep & Relationship Health
"Sleep divorce" – sleeping apart due to issues like snoring – is a growing trend. Even if not the direct cause, sleep problems create friction and emotional distance between partners. Alex believes resolving snoring can be a contributing factor in saving marriages.
Listener Question
Seth and Pete also tackle a listener question! Seth answers a question about disclosing cash income from dog breeding in divorce asset division. Cash must be documented like other business income when dividing marital assets.Tune in for a fascinating episode!
Links & Notes

• Visit Hostage Tape’s Website or follow it on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube
• CBS News’ Story on Sleep Divorce
• #SleepDivorce on TikTok
• Sleep Studies
• The Gottman Institute’s “Magic Relationship Ratio”
• Check Out James Nestor’s Book “The New Science of a Lost Art”
• Schedule a consult with Seth
• Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

• (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
• (01:19) - Meet Alex Neist from Hostage Tape
• (01:57) - The Concept of Sleep Divorce
• (04:58) - Different Sleep Patterns
• (06:35) - Developing Friction
• (07:38) - Alex's Own Divorce
• (10:17) - Separate Bedrooms
• (10:58) - The Snore
• (14:17) - The Germ of an Idea
• (23:07) - First Time
• (25:18) - Nose Strip
• (26:39) - Women Snore Too
• (27:12) - Improves Your Life All Around
• (27:44) - The Resolution of Alex's Divorce
• (30:21) - Resolving Marriage Issues
• (31:22) - Loose Stats
• (33:36) - Finding Hostage Tape
• (37:09) - Listener Question
• (40:16) - Wrap Up

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