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Warning: This episode contains an alarming amount of chat about a mysterious stranger called Derek and more casual mentions of “minge” in the first four minutes than any of us could ever have anticipated. It is funny, honest, slightly feral… and absolutely not one for the school run. Best enjoyed with headphones on and children safely out of earshot.
So, you've just started your sober journey? Doing Dry January? Or quietly wondering what life might look like without booze? This episode is your brutally honest, slightly emotional roadmap through your first 30 days alcohol-free.
Vic and Hamish take you through sobriety week by week, honestly unpacking what really happens to your body, brain, sleep, mood, social life, trousers, and overall sanity as alcohol slowly leaves the stage. Alongside plenty of science, swearing, and questionable oversharing, there are also genuinely tender moments where you might realise… you are actually doing this.
Today we explore those early sugar cravings and wobbles, the sudden bursts of confidence that can catch you out, the strange emotional storms that roll in around Week Two, the clearer thinking and calmer days that begin to appear in Week Three, and that brilliant Week Four moment when you look at yourself and think, “Hang on… this might actually work.
If you are five days in, swaying at day twelve, feeling uncertain at day twenty, or simply curious about how sobriety unfolds in real life, this episode gives you reassurance, humour, relatable stories, and genuinely helpful tools to get through it.
You are not broken, you are healing. And honestly, you are doing something extraordinary.
Press play, take a breath… and welcome to the awkward, hopeful, quietly life-changing first month of sober life.
💛 Resources & Links
📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted Sundays
A brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.
👉 Buy the book here
🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes
👉 www.soberawkward.com
🫖 Join The Cuppa Community
Our private, supportive online space for sober folk
👉 www.cuppa.community
📘 Get the Sober Awkward Guide
Our downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.
👉 The Sober Awkward Guide
📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:
Instagram: @soberawkward
TikTok: @soberawkward
Facebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women
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New Year, New Liver?
Feeling a bit "delicate" this morning? Maybe you’ve just woken up with a UDI (Unidentified Drinking Injury), a loaf of bread for a pillow, or you’re currently hiding under the duvet until the 3rd of January.
In our first episode of 2026, Hame and Vic are whispering a warm welcome to the "sober curious," the "done-with-hangovers," and everyone in between.
We’re stripping away the "alcoholic" labels and proving that you don’t need to hit rock bottom to decide that life is just... better without the booze.
In this episode:
You don’t have to commit to "forever" today, just give this episode a listen. What have you got to lose (besides the hangovers)?
💛 Resources & Links
📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted Sundays
A brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.
👉 Buy the book here
🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes
👉 www.soberawkward.com
🫖 Join The Cuppa Community
Our private, supportive online space for sober folk
👉 www.cuppa.community
📘 Get the Sober Awkward Guide
Our downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.
👉 The Sober Awkward Guide
📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:
Instagram: @soberawkward
TikTok: @soberawkward
Facebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women
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In this gloriously unhinged episode, Vic and Hamish find themselves in that awkward festive no-man’s-land between Christmas and New Year – gravy-stained, confused about the day, and dangerously close to eating a whole tin of Quality Street in one sitting.
But fear not. Among the leftover potatoes and peri-menopausal meltdowns, your sober elves are here with a very handy toolkit to help you navigate New Year’s Eve without diving headfirst into a bucket of prosecco.
Yep, we’re diving deep into why your mindset matters more than the perfect mocktail, how to handle your Aunt Karen when she calls you a party pooper, and what to do when the countdown begins and you suddenly feel the urge to shove someone for no reason at all. Plus, we make a strong case for why being tucked up in bed with a hot water bottle and a forensic crime doco by 9.07pm might actually be the ultimate New Year flex.
We also discuss frogs. Yes, frogs. There’s a weird moment where Vic tries to convince us all that carrying a tiny frog in your pocket on NYE can help you stay sober – and somehow, it makes sense. (Just go with it.)
You’ll also hear about our own cringey NYEs from the boozy past – from driveway spews to mysterious cardigans and rashy regrets – and how we’ve now completely redefined this weird night of the year into something we actually enjoy.
So whether this is your first sober New Year or your fifteenth, come hang out with us and feel smug, steady, and slightly feral in the best way possible.
This one’s all about preparing your brain, not just your beverage list.
Let’s make it awkward, weird, frog-friendly… and totally unforgettable.
💛 Resources & Links
📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted Sundays
A brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.
👉 Buy the book here
🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes
👉 www.soberawkward.com
🫖 Join The Cuppa Community
Our private, supportive online space for sober folk
👉 www.cuppa.community
📘 Get the Sober Awkward Guide
Our downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.
👉 The Sober Awkward Guide
📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:
Instagram: @soberawkward
TikTok: @soberawkward
Facebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women
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🎄 Merry Christmas from Sober Awkward! 🎄
It’s that time of year again, the crackers are cracking, the mulled wine is flowing, and somewhere in the chaos, a sober legend (yes, you) is standing strong. We know how awkward, emotional, and just plain weird Christmas can be when you’re doing it booze-free, so we’ve brought back our annual Sober Awkward Christmas Poem to help keep you smiling, grounded, and booze free.
This is our little festive gift to you, a reminder that you are not alone, and that choosing sobriety (especially today) is one of the most powerful, life-affirming things you can do. You won’t wake up with regret, fall headfirst into the gravy, or try to kiss your cousin during Love Actually.
You’re doing something brave. Something brilliant. Something you’ll actually remember.
So wherever you are, whatever your set-up, however awkward it gets — we’re sending you love, strength, and a huge dose of sober cheer.
Merry Christmas one and all,
Love from your favourite sober elves,
Vic & Hamish 💚
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If the idea of a sober Christmas makes you break out in a festive sweat, clutch a mince pie for emotional support, and whisper “Lord, give me strength,” then this episode is your new best friend.
This week, Mrs Santa (Vic, with her saggy boob and questionable stuffing) and her long suffering festive sidekick Elf Hamish dive headfirst into the sparkly chaos of Christmas. First the fantasy version where everyone drinks kombucha and expresses gratitude, then the real version where Uncle Gary is drunk by 10am and someone cries because their new crocs are the wrong colour.
Together they explore the myth of the perfect sober Christmas, the messy reality most of us face, and why the festive drinking culture feels overwhelming and very annoying when your'e sober. Today these two idiots offer up a simple sober toolkit to help you get through the day, and reflect on what Christmas really feels like without booze numbing the edges.
This is your festive mix of honesty, humour, science, awkwardness and hope. Everything you need to get through the holiday season without falling face first into the gravy boat. So grab a fizzy water, hide in the loo if you need to, and join us for the Christmas episode that helps you sleigh the holiday season with your dignity intact.
Merry Christmas sober legends. Feel the awkward and do it anyway!
💛 Resources & Links
📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted Sundays
A brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.
👉 Buy the book here
🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes
👉 www.soberawkward.com
🫖 Join The Cuppa Community
Our private, supportive online space for sober folk
👉 www.cuppa.community
📘 Get the Sober Awkward Guide
Our downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.
👉 The Sober Awkward Guide
📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:
Instagram: @soberawkward
TikTok: @soberawkward
Facebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
🎙️ Throwback Thursdays on Sober Awkward!
Every Thursday, we’re serving up a little slice of Sober Awkward history – a short, powerful clip from one of our most-loved past episodes.
Why? Because sometimes, the right words hit differently the second time around. Whether you’re new here or a long-time listener, these throwback moments are here to keep you company, remind you you’re not alone, and offer that little nudge of insight or encouragement just when you need it.
Think of it as a midweek check-in. Something bite-sized to walk with, laugh at, or quietly reflect on. And if the clip hits home? You can go back and listen to the full episode anytime – just follow the link in the show notes.
We know one episode a week isn’t always enough – so here’s your extra helping of honesty, humour, and a bit of awkwardness to get you through the week.
🎧 Listen to the full episode here → https://open.spotify.com/episode/6nqaxOxYpri8kreODVeiqb?si=58b04a10ed2e451e
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In today's episode, Hame sits down with the wonderful Clare Pooley. The globally celebrated author who's blog and subsequent book 'The Sober Diaries' has been been named as THE book that helped so many of our listeners get sober so it felt only right to invite her on!
This fascinating conversation ranges from how she labelled and overcame her 'wine witch' (and the surprising role that Game of Thrones played in it!), the 'Best Mum Cup' moment that would mark her final alcoholic drink, why she has never identified with the term 'alcoholic', how her sobriety prepared her for the challenges of being diagnosed with breast cancer and the rules she encourages on any teenager asking about how to drink alcohol.
As well as being a fountain of knowledge, Clare was exactly as kind, funny and relatable as you might expect.
We hope that this episode can inspire one more person to reconsider their relationship with alcohol to add to the long list!
💛 Resources & Links
Clare's website:
👉 www.clarepooley.com
Clare's Instagram:
👉@clare_pooley
📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted Sundays
A brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.
👉 Buy the book here
🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes
👉 www.soberawkward.com
🫖 Join The Cuppa Community
Our private, supportive online space for sober folk
👉 www.cuppa.community
📘 Get the Sober Awkward Guide
Our downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.
👉 The Sober Awkward Guide
📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:
Instagram: @soberawkward
TikTok: @soberawkward
Facebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to the final edition of our Sober Stories!
After the overwhelming response to a recent writing competition during which we asked you to share your JOURNEYS to sobriety (the good, the bad and the ugly!), we felt compelled to take things a step further.
We asked, you wrote, and now we're sharing the incredible, hilarious, and heartwarming stories you sent us. Get ready to be inspired by your fellow listeners, one story at a time!
Happy Saturday, y’all.
Sober Awkward Tools and Links
Join Cuppa – our alcohol-free community
A kind, no-pressure space to connect with others navigating sobriety
www.cuppa.community
Read Vic’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted Sundays
A brutally honest and hilarious look at booze, motherhood, and self-discovery
https://amzn.asia/d/fanNMha
Book a one-on-one session with Vic
Writing mentorship, sobriety support, or just a good old chat
https://www.soberawkward.com/store
Explore the full podcast archive
Catch up on all the messy, funny, honest episodes of Sober Awkward
https://open.spotify.com/show/4qXlSc9lDGStYLeYIjrWPH?si=ece6e75ae4f041f9
Follow us on Instagram
Behind-the-scenes chaos, awkward moments, and sober inspo
@soberawkward
Thanks for listening. Your support means everything. Whether you’ve been here since day one or this is your first toe-dip into the awkward, we’re so glad you found us.
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🎙️ Throwback Thursdays on Sober Awkward!
Every Thursday, we’re serving up a little slice of Sober Awkward history – a short, powerful clip from one of our most-loved past episodes.
Why? Because sometimes, the right words hit differently the second time around. Whether you’re new here or a long-time listener, these throwback moments are here to keep you company, remind you you’re not alone, and offer that little nudge of insight or encouragement just when you need it.
Think of it as a midweek check-in. Something bite-sized to walk with, laugh at, or quietly reflect on. And if the clip hits home? You can go back and listen to the full episode anytime – just follow the link in the show notes.
We know one episode a week isn’t always enough – so here’s your extra helping of honesty, humour, and a bit of awkwardness to get you through the week.
🎧 Listen to the full episode here → https://open.spotify.com/episode/4kibRjL1jhbp9lpakzsMOY?si=e54b386e94c44c90
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this week’s Sober Awkward, Vic and Hamish dive into one of the biggest, stickiest, most awkward questions in sobriety: Can I actually trust myself again?
Vic opens up about those final blurry days of drinking when she couldn’t even trust herself to say “no” to a jelly baby, let alone a vodka soda. Hamish admits he’s never trusted Vic with a map, a tech problem, or his childhood sticker collection — fair enough. But what happens when that mistrust is turned inward?
Together, they unpack how alcohol chips away at your self-belief, how broken promises and panic attacks can shrink your life, and why sobriety is less about perfection and more about proving (slowly, quietly, consistently) that you’ve got your own back again.
Expect awkward confessions, tips for rebuilding trust with yourself and others, a bit of trust trauma from the 1980s, and a brand new Sober Awkward anthem from listener Sean, who just celebrated 1 year sober (you legend, mate!). Check out Seans band @conflictmanagerband
Oh, there is some awful and somewhat offensive chat about rims.
Of course there is.
Enjoy!!!
A
#SoberAwkward #SoberCurious #Trust #WhoIsDrivingYou #SoberPodcast #AFLife #Hangxiety #ModerationIsAMyth #SobrietyWins #CraigDavidKnows
💛 Resources & Links
📘 Victoria’s memoir – A Thousand Wasted Sundays
A brutally honest and hilarious look at motherhood, anxiety, and ditching the booze.
👉 Buy the book here
🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward episodes
👉 www.soberawkward.com
🫖 Join The Cuppa Community
Our private, supportive online space for sober folk
👉 www.cuppa.community
📘 Get the Sober Awkward Guide
Our downloadable toolkit for ditching booze the awkward way.
👉 The Sober Awkward Guide
📱 Follow us for daily sober fun:
Instagram: @soberawkward
TikTok: @soberawkward
Facebook: Sober Awkward Community for Women
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
From the publisher's feed
Winner, Best Wellbeing Podcast at The Australian Podcast Awards 2024
Have you ever woken up after a big night and announced, “I’m never drinking again,” only to find yourself six hours…
Join author, podcaster and former binge drinking party animal Victoria Vanstone and broadcaster, writer and former stay at home drinker Ulrika Jonsson as they attempt to work out how the hell you do life without booze. Spoiler alert, neither of them has all the answers.
Each week on Sober Awkward, Vic and Ulrika rummage through the bits of sobriety people don’t talk about enough, anxiety, cravings, motherhood, ageing, relationships, sober sex, socialising, identity wobbles and that alarming moment when you realise you actually have to feel your feelings now. There are booze facts, ridiculous confessions, regular trips to the shame shed and absolutely no pretending that sobriety turns you into someone who enjoys green juice and sunrise yoga.
So whether you’ve hit a wall, you’re sick of hangovers and 3am anxiety, you’re quietly wondering if you drink too much, or you’re already sober and clutching a cup of tea wondering what the fuck happened to your personality, you’re in the right place.
Pop the kettle on. It’s time to feel the awkward and do it anyway.
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