Social Anxiety Solutions - your journey to social confidence!

In this episode... Seb shares his plans for a small-group social confidence retreat in Chiang Mai, Thailand, on January 24–31, 2027. He describes a week of tapping and group work, outdoor adventures, and time to relax with people who understand social anxiety. If you're interested but anxious about joining, Seb explains how pre-retreat calls can help everyone get to know each other, why activities are optional, and what needs to happen before the retreat is confirmed. He also covers the costs and payment options. Find out more about the retreat and see whether it feels right for you: https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/retreat

Can't stop replaying an awkward or embarrassing conversation in your head?

Maybe you keep thinking about what you said, cringing at how you came across, or worrying about what the other person thinks of you.

In this episode, I'll guide you through a 10-minute tapping exercise to help you work with the anxiety, embarrassment, and self-judgment that can stick around after a difficult social situation.

You don't need any tapping experience. Simply follow along, tap where I tap, and repeat the words out loud.

Before we start, you'll bring the situation to mind and notice how uncomfortable it feels. At the end, you'll check in again and see what, if anything, has shifted.

You might feel a little calmer, lighter, less caught up in what happened, or see the situation from a different perspective. And if nothing shifts, that's okay too. This is one short exercise, not a promise to resolve everything in 10 minutes.

Want to go further?

Fast Social Anxiety Relief (FSAR) is my step-by-step program combining psychology with tapping, with 50+ guided tap-alongs to help you work with social anxiety before, during, and after social situations:

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Have you ever wondered what life actually looks like after overcoming social anxiety?

Many people don't want to become the most outgoing person in the room. They simply want to enjoy a coffee with a friend, stop worrying about being judged, or feel comfortable being themselves around other people.

In this episode, you'll hear three former clients share what happened after they overcame years of severe social anxiety.

You'll hear how they went from:

• Hiding in bathrooms during social events • Constantly worrying about what other people thought • Feeling trapped by fear and self-consciousness

…to building lives they never thought possible.

Not because they forced themselves to become different people.

But because they gradually learned to feel safe being themselves around others.

If you've ever wondered whether overcoming social anxiety is really possible (or what becomes possible afterwards), this episode is for you.

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In this episode... For years, Tiffany struggled with social anxiety.

She dreaded social situations, felt uncomfortable around people, isolated herself at times, and constantly replayed conversations in her head afterward. Deep down, she didn't trust people, and she didn't fully trust herself.

In this conversation, Tiffany shares how she went from feeling anxious, guarded, and self-conscious around others to co-leading in-person retreats and speaking in front of groups with confidence.

Along the way, we discuss:

• The traumatic experiences that contributed to her social anxiety • Fear of judgment, overthinking, and self-criticism • Why self-acceptance became such an important part of her healing • The role of forgiveness and self-compassion • How emotional healing gradually changed her relationship with anxiety • What happened when she stopped judging herself • How her relationships improved, including her relationship with her mother • The surprising path that led her from isolation to leadership

One of the most powerful themes in this conversation is that social anxiety often isn't the real problem.

Beneath it can be self-judgment, unresolved emotional pain, lack of self-trust, and difficulty accepting ourselves.

As those deeper layers heal, confidence often emerges naturally.

If you've struggled with social anxiety for years and wonder whether meaningful change is possible, I think you'll find Tiffany's story both inspiring and encouraging.

Warm regards,

Seb

Social Anxiety Solutions

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What if the reason your anxiety keeps coming back isn't because you're thinking the "wrong thoughts"?

In this episode, Sebastiaan sits down with psychologist Steve Wells to talk about Intention Tapping, a variation of EFT tapping that has deeply influenced how Seb helps people with social anxiety.

They explore why social anxiety often can't be "out-thought," why emotional attachment matters more than thoughts alone, and how tapping may help reduce the nervous system's perception of threat.

You'll hear why anxiety can become linked to everyday social situations, why resisting anxiety often makes it stronger, and how Intention Tapping can help release the emotional charge underneath social anxiety symptoms.

In this conversation, they cover:

• Why logic alone often doesn't stop social anxiety • The difference between CBT and tapping • Why anxiety is not just a thought problem • How emotional attachment keeps anxiety active • Why social anxiety is often a protective response • How tapping can help calm the nervous system • Why small shifts matter more than people think • How tapping can support gentle real-life progress • What to do when tapping "doesn't work" right away • How setbacks can become breakthroughs

They also discuss fear of judgment, blushing, physical anxiety symptoms, performance anxiety, upcoming social events, public speaking, podcasting, salsa dancing, and why forcing yourself to face your fears is not always the most effective path.

If you've tried changing your thoughts, affirmations, mindset work, or pushing yourself through social situations but still get triggered, this episode will give you a different way to understand social anxiety and what may help it shift.

Learn more from Steve Wells: https://intentiontapping.com https://eftdownunder.com

Get Sebastiaan's free training: Overcome Social Anxiety Without Having To Force Yourself To Face Your Fears https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow Want structured guidance applying tapping to social anxiety? Fast Social Anxiety Relief is Sebastiaan's step-by-step program that shows you what to tap on, how to use tapping before, during, and after social situations, and how to gradually reduce the emotional triggers behind social anxiety. https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/

Do you feel awkward or stuck when trying to talk to new people? You are not alone. Social anxiety can make simple interactions feel like a big deal.

In this episode I talk with Christoph Schiessl, someone who feels naturally at ease meeting strangers and building connections anywhere in the world. We explore how he approaches people without overthinking, why he expects positive interactions, and how his mindset makes socializing feel simple and even enjoyable.

What you'll discover: 🔹 How to start conversations without overthinking what to say 🔹 Why most strangers are far less judgmental than you think 🔹 How to feel more relaxed when meeting new people 🔹 Why focusing on connection works better than trying to impress 🔹 How to make friends naturally through simple interactions

💡 Quote from Christoph: "When I meet someone, I'm fully there in that moment. That's what people feel."

Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.

Do you want more connection, but still overthink what to say when meeting someone new? You are not alone. Social anxiety can make starting conversations feel much bigger than it is.

In this episode I talk with Teun Melis about how to start conversations in a low-pressure way, how to keep socializing light and natural, and how real friendships usually grow. We explore why curiosity works better than trying to impress, why repeated shared activities make connection easier, and why a little awkwardness is not a problem if you keep showing up.

What you'll discover: 🔹 A simple low-pressure way to start conversations 🔹 Why curiosity works better than trying to be interesting 🔹 How timing can matter more than saying the perfect thing 🔹 How friendships grow naturally through shared interests and repeated contact 🔹 Why a little awkwardness is normal and worth pushing through

💡 Quote from Teun: "Just see it as a game, try out different things, and don't focus on the result."

Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.

Do you want more connection, but still overthink what to say when meeting someone new? You are not alone. Social anxiety can make starting conversations feel much bigger than it is.

In this episode I talk with Teun Melis about how to start conversations in a low-pressure way, how to keep socializing light and natural, and how real friendships usually grow. We explore why curiosity works better than trying to impress, why repeated shared activities make connection easier, and why a little awkwardness is not a problem if you keep showing up.

What you'll discover: 🔹 A simple low-pressure way to start conversations 🔹 Why curiosity works better than trying to be interesting 🔹 How timing can matter more than saying the perfect thing 🔹 How friendships grow naturally through shared interests and repeated contact 🔹 Why a little awkwardness is normal and worth pushing through

💡 Quote from Teun: "Just see it as a game, try out different things, and don't focus on the result."

Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.

Do you want deeper connection, but still hold back because getting hurt feels too risky? You are not alone. Social anxiety can make vulnerability feel unsafe, especially in relationships.

In this episode I talk with Dr. David Lake, psychotherapist and relationship expert, about why vulnerability feels so difficult, why fear of being hurt blocks true intimacy, and why social anxiety often magnifies the "I'm not good enough" belief. We also explore when vulnerability is helpful, when it is not, and how authentic feedback can help you feel safer being yourself.

What you'll discover: 🔹 Why fear of being hurt blocks true intimacy 🔹 Why the "I'm not good enough" belief runs so deep 🔹 How criticism and conditional love feed self-doubt 🔹 Why vulnerability only works in the right context 🔹 Why "good enough" is healthier than trying to be perfect

💡 Quote from David: "It requires a lot of courage to be authentic and be your true self with another person."

Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.

Do you ever know a situation is safe, but your body still reacts like it is not? You are not imagining it. Social anxiety often goes deeper than logic.

In this episode I talk with Gwyneth Moss about why social anxiety does not always respond to visualizations, thought work, or trying to push through it. We explore why your thinking mind and your deeper fear response can go in opposite directions, and how EFT can help the part of you that still feels unsafe begin to calm down.

What you'll discover: 🔹 Why logic alone often does not resolve social anxiety 🔹 Why your body can still react even when you know you are safe 🔹 What Gwyneth means by your "inner animal" 🔹 How EFT helps calm the part of you that feels unsafe 🔹 Why trying it works better than arguing about it

💡 Quote from Gwyneth: "With social anxiety your animal brain is going, 'it's not safe, it's not safe,' and your thinking brain is trying to go, 'yes it is, it's ok,' but there is no trust and the two are going in opposite directions."

Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.