Social Skills Mastery

Are thoughts about what you can accomplish preventing you from being an interpersonal skills ninja? You are likely experiencing limiting beliefs, or pervasive thoughts about your capabilities that are a roadblock to social ease and success.

Limiting beliefs, in most cases, are unconscious thoughts, which on the surface appear to be an aid in helping you avoid faux pas, frustrations, failure and disappointment. They are often tied to a time in the past where you may have suffered personally from an undesirable outcome,  and now when you come face-to-face with a similar situation, your subconscious finds a way to try to block it. A good starting exercise to counteract limiting beliefs is to look for the root of the problem by finding the agent causing such negativity.

Society imposes standards that generate limiting beliefs, and we tend to base our performance on the norm.

What is more important is creating a standard that pushes you to reach higher and achieve more, but completely on your own terms and in accordance with your own rules. Social Confidence Pro – Work with a Coach

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Are you pitching potential investors, wooing a new client, or interviewing for a job? It is worth your time to first become self-aware and determine the impression you make and how you think others perceive you.

This step must come first because you may miss out on a major opportunity simply by not modifying your demeanor to suit the situation.

Modifying your demeanor does not mean being falsely genuine and sincere in who you are, but rather making sure to be situationally appropriate, dressing the part, and using the language and terms that best suit the setting.

As much as we all wish that actual qualifications and the knowledge base we’ve amassed matters most, people are more likely to make quick decisions based on first impressions being an arbiter to our professional competence. And we can include ourselves as the makers of those same quick decisions when the tables are turned.

Impression management is the practice of ensuring the message you wish to send is understood by the specific individuals or groups you want to reach. It also means influencing, through your dress, demeanor, and physiology how people interpret what you say, and what is said about you.

Episode 73 of the Social Skills Mastery provides hearty food for thought that will help you become and remain highly aware of how critical managing your impression can be.

 

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Everything that at one time scared me, I’m now doing.

The biggest, over-arching reason why we don’t take action and the steps required to change is simply that we can’t be bothered to do so.

It seems like so much effort to put yourself out there. It feels like there’s so much involved when you show up. And it’s just so much easier to stay at home, convincing ourselves that we actually like it this way.

I look at life from both sides now. I can attest to the grass being greener on the socially secure side.

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The Inner Circle is opening soon. It’s the absolute, no B.S., best place for entrepreneurs, startups, and personal brands who are supremely good at what they do but just can’t find the courage and confidence to shout it from their soapbox.

I’ll show you how to speak up and stand out so you can make more money and create a bigger impact.

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Have you considered one-to-one coaching to manage introversion, and move past your battle with imposter syndrome, limiting beliefs, and the fear of criticism? Let’s Talk about how coaching can help you experience the joy and confidence you see in others and have always felt you too are not worthy. You are worthy! This is your time!

I’ve made some pretty big choices over the past several years;

• I’ve become a popular speaker in my niche.
• I’ve created a podcast.
• I’ve posted videos on all the big social platforms.
• I’ve done a TEDx Talk, viewed over 32 thousand times.
• I’ve powered through self-doubt.
• I’ve spoken first, rather than waiting for people to speak to me

Everything that at one time scared me, I’m now doing.

The biggest, over-arching reason why we don’t take action and the steps required to change is simply that we can’t be bothered to do so.

It seems like so much effort to put yourself out there. It feels like there’s so much involved when you show up. And it’s just so much easier to stay at home, convincing ourselves that we actually like it this way.

I look at life from both sides now. I can attest to the grass being greener on the socially secure side.

Come join me!

The Inner Circle is opening soon. It’s the absolute, no B.S., best place for entrepreneurs, startups, and personal brands who are supremely good at what they do but just can’t find the courage and confidence to shout it from their soapbox.

I’ll show you how to speak up and stand out so you can make more money and create a bigger impact.

Get on the list and you’ll be the first notified when the doors open.

 

Have you considered one-to-one coaching to manage introversion, and move past your battle with imposter syndrome, limiting beliefs, and the fear of criticism? Let’s Talk about how coaching can help you experience the joy and confidence you see in others and have always felt you too are not worthy. You are worthy! This is your time!

An attractive logo won’t help you establish a strong connection with a potential customer. That’s why it’s important, especially when you’re the face of your business to communicate fearlessly, frequently, and without worrying about criticism.

People will say things you don’t like, and that feedback must be filtered. When effective, criticism should be positively intended, specific, objective, and constructive in order to achieve desired results. If it feels like the comments were intended to hurt rather than help, then discount and ignore that particular individual.

Make it a point to surround yourself with people who make you better in every way.

 

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Being the first to offer a greeting as basic as “Hi” followed by your name is a total power move. When you are the first to speak and extend your arm for a handshake, you are seen as friendly, confident, and in control. That's attractive and impressive, primarily because most people wait for people to approach them first, not from a position of superiority, but from reluctance and fear of rejection.

More importantly, acknowledging people in business and socially is a kind gesture. We all want to be seen, and when someone takes the time to step out of their bubble to say hello it creates a moment of shared humanity.

 

The Social Priming System will help you practice ideal interactions and outcomes BEFORE they occur. You can download FREE social priming audios here.

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Learning to effortlessly develop meaningful connections with others is a large component of emotional intelligence. Even if you are somewhat reserved in business, you can begin first by listening, showing interest, and understanding the other person's energy so they feel comfortable, and you do as well. This skill goes far in building valuable connections.     My guest today, Irvine Nugent, Ph.D.  helps leaders engage with stakeholders and he will help you in understanding yourself, how you perceive, evaluate, and control others through emotional intellect, and effectively interacting and then using those skills to strengthen your personal and professional relationships.

 

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Have you wondered why conversations end a little too quickly, and people seem to walk away before you're finished speaking?

It’s estimated that up to 80% of our communications are non-verbal. So, understanding body language enables better self-awareness and self-control too, for you and your conversation partner(s).

The better we understand non-verbals, the better able we are to refine and improve what our body says about us, which generates a positive improvement in the way we feel, the way we perform, and what we achieve.

Body language allows us to understand more about our own and other people's feelings and meanings, and that can make all the difference in the world when we feel as though we’re not being heard, the feeling we’ve been overlooked, or that we’ve been slighted.

Our reactions to other people's movements and expressions and their reactions to ours contributes greatly to our mutual understanding, both consciously and unconsciously.

 

The Social Priming System will help you practice ideal interactions and outcomes BEFORE they occur. You can download FREE social priming audios here.

Social and “people skills” coaching will help you create new habits and overcome self-doubt. Sound intriguing? Let’s talk!

 

The quest for better conversations is always a top topic request, and that makes sense because it is one of the best ways to connect with other people.

Having a conversation requires some skill because they’re often spontaneous and informal – meaning you need to be able to think on your feet. Because being a good conversationalist can make such a huge impact on your life, this is definitely a skill you want to work on.

 

In your professional life, having good conversation skills can help you increase sales, your job performance, form positive working relationships, and gain new clients

 

In your social life, being a good conversationalist can help you attract a mate and build (and maintain) relationships. In short, there is no downside to being at ease while in conversation.

 

It is scientifically proven that rehearsing any upcoming scene in your mind will improve your performance when the time comes to step up and do that thing for real.

The Social Priming System will help you practice ideal interactions and outcomes BEFORE they occur. You can download FREE social priming audios here.

Social and “people skills” coaching will help you create new habits and overcome self-doubt. Sound intriguing? Let’s talk!

The power of kindness as a means to create meaningful connections between people cannot be overstated.  It is part of a social cycle in which at least one dominant participant extends a visible hand or a virtual olive branch to gain trust and offer genuine, authentic assistance.

When we truly understand that each of our lives is intertwined with few degrees of separation, kindness, compassion, and collaboration flow much more naturally in interpersonal interactions, socially, in the workplace, and extending into the community. In short, we are in this together.

Kindness has everything to do with solid social or people skills, and when you work on perfecting the skill of selflessness, you will find it easier to strike up conversations, speak from your heart on stage, and connect with people with the power of a super magnet.

Donna Cameron’s book is A Year of Living Kindly, and it will guide you in managing interactions with warmth and kindness.

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Most of our thoughts are prompted by our current environment, and we can’t help but think about what’s right in front of us. What we see and experience becomes what we think.

 

The issue is our evolutionary training, or in other words, our brain’s propensity to keep us safe and out of harm’s way— and this can include showing up, speaking up, and doing things that our brain says may be scary.

That is a big problem when you’re in business and you want to look good and be in the spotlight because every day your brain wants to keep you safe, but intellectually you want to excel, but you’re in a holding pattern.

This week’s episode will help you better manage your mind to think better, higher quality thoughts and begin to work towards a life that is free of social anxiety.

 

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