Understanding How Real Transformation Happens

Summary:

Dr. Skinner highlights that change rarely happens instantly; it’s often a back-and-forth process requiring awareness, preparation, and consistent effort. MaryAnn adds depth by describing how fear, shame, and uncertainty can stall progress, especially when one partner is ready to change and the other is not. The episode provides practical insights into how both betrayed partners and those seeking recovery can understand where they are in the process—and what steps will help them move forward.

Listeners will come away with a better understanding of how real, sustainable transformation unfolds and how to support themselves or their partners through the often nonlinear journey of change.

Resources Mentioned:

Book: Changing for Good by James Prochaska, John Norcross, and Carlo DiClemente

Podcast: Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life

Podcast: Rise: Hope and Healing from Sexual Betrayal

Tool: 12-Step Recovery Programs and Sponsor Support

Concepts Referenced:

The Stages of Change Model (Prochaska & DiClemente)

“Proper Preparation Prevents Pain” – on emotional readiness for change

Automaticity and habit formation (66-day model for lasting behavioral change)

Understanding relapse and stress triggers