Self-Helpless

Stop Asking Yourself the Wrong Questions: How to Unlock Deeper Fulfillment with Elliott Connie


Listen Later

Delanie Fischer chats with Elliott Connie, Psychotherapist and renowned leader in the field of Solution Focused Brief Therapy, about shifting the questions we ask ourselves in order to transform our lives. They discuss the difference between comfort and happiness, how to go deeper in times of indecision and struggle, and simple practices and rituals that create lasting change.

Discussed in this episode: 

  • SFBT and The Diamond Approach
  • Rejecting Perfect Timing Syndrome 
  • Has What You Want Changed? And Can You Trust It?
  • The Worst Question We Ask Ourselves
  • Comfort vs. Happiness (and Why Comfort Can Kill Us)
  • Will Therapy As We Know It Become Obsolete?
  • Can't Do It In The Ideal Way? Do It A Little Bit.
  • What's Your Version of Sunday Pizza Night?
  • Capitalism, Social Media & Pursuing What Matters
  • The Toughest Life Lesson Elliott's Learned
  • ----

    If Self-Helpless has supported you in some way, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416

    Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/

    Ad-free episodes now available on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless

    Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com

    ----

    Episodes related to this topic:

    Release Your Perfectionism Handbrake: Power Planning, Clean Rest, and Demystifying Procrastination with Sam Laura Brown: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22e1c287/release-your-perfectionism-handbrake-power-planning-clean-rest-and-demystifying-procrastination-with-sam-laura-brown

    Cracking The Code To Behavior Change: Troubleshooting Tiny Barriers That Destroy Big Goals with Molly Maxwell: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24e651e8/cracking-the-code-to-behavior-change-troubleshooting-tiny-barriers-that-destroy-big-goals-with-molly-maxwell

    10 Fascinating Tricks For More Wins And Improved Well-Being with Janice Kaplan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23c60009/10-fascinating-tricks-for-more-wins-and-improved-well-being-with-janice-kaplan

    Need a Strong Dose of Optimism? 5 Tips for an Instant Perspective Shift with Bill Burke: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/255fd6bc/need-a-strong-dose-of-optimism-5-tips-for-an-instant-perspective-shift-with-bill-burke

    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    ...more
    View all episodesView all episodes
    Download on the App Store

    Self-HelplessBy Cloud10

    • 4.8
    • 4.8
    • 4.8
    • 4.8
    • 4.8

    4.8

    2,887 ratings


    More shows like Self-Helpless

    View all
    Monday Morning Podcast by All Things Comedy

    Monday Morning Podcast

    32,279 Listeners

    Bertcast by Berty Boy Productions

    Bertcast

    10,570 Listeners

    The Dollop with Dave Anthony and Gareth Reynolds by All Things Comedy

    The Dollop with Dave Anthony and Gareth Reynolds

    18,367 Listeners

    TigerBelly by All Things Comedy

    TigerBelly

    15,280 Listeners

    The Terri Cole Show by Terri Cole

    The Terri Cole Show

    1,396 Listeners

    Breaking Bread with Tom Papa by All Things Comedy

    Breaking Bread with Tom Papa

    1,287 Listeners

    Losing 100 Pounds with Corinne by Corinne Crabtree

    Losing 100 Pounds with Corinne

    7,499 Listeners

    UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone by Kara Loewentheil

    UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

    5,125 Listeners

    Going Deep with Chad and JT by All Things Comedy

    Going Deep with Chad and JT

    3,410 Listeners

    On Purpose with Jay Shetty by iHeartPodcasts

    On Purpose with Jay Shetty

    27,343 Listeners

    Take Your Shoes Off w/ Rick Glassman by Rick Glassman

    Take Your Shoes Off w/ Rick Glassman

    2,423 Listeners

    The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast by Kate Anthony, CPCC

    The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

    570 Listeners

    The Nateland Podcast by Audioboom Studios

    The Nateland Podcast

    6,305 Listeners

    Anything Better? by All Things Comedy

    Anything Better?

    1,850 Listeners

    Financial Feminist by Her First $100K

    Financial Feminist

    6,428 Listeners

    We Can Do Hard Things by Treat Media and Glennon Doyle

    We Can Do Hard Things

    41,526 Listeners

    The Covert Narcissism Podcast by Renee Swanson, Bleav

    The Covert Narcissism Podcast

    47 Listeners

    How Not To Suck At Divorce by Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport

    How Not To Suck At Divorce

    274 Listeners

    Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani by iHeartPodcasts

    Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani

    1,737 Listeners

    The Mel Robbins Podcast by Mel Robbins

    The Mel Robbins Podcast

    19,492 Listeners

    CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT by Calling Home

    CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT

    330 Listeners

    Unlonely with Dr. Jody Carrington by Snack Labs

    Unlonely with Dr. Jody Carrington

    36 Listeners

    Divorce with Sam and Leah by Sam and Leah

    Divorce with Sam and Leah

    46 Listeners

    Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers by Heather Gray, LICSW

    Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers

    211 Listeners

    History Hyenas with Chris Distefano and Yannis Pappas by Chris Distefano and Yannis Pappas

    History Hyenas with Chris Distefano and Yannis Pappas

    5,411 Listeners