The Crazy Ex-Wives Divorce Club

Stop Explaining Yourself: How to Choose Your Own Experience After Divorce


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What happens when you finally step away from the noise long enough to hear your own thoughts again?


In this Season 11 opener of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica — founder, coach, and creator of the No.vember Challenge — returns from a 10-day unplugged retreat in the Colorado mountains with three life-shifting lessons for women navigating divorce, healing, boundaries, and self-leadership.

These are the truths that help you choose yourself, protect your energy, and walk away from anything that no longer supports your growth.


🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

  • You are always in charge of your own experience — even when life feels chaotic.

  • Protect someone else’s joy without abandoning your own needs.

  • Honor your energy by stepping back without guilt or over-explaining.

  • Leaving misaligned rooms is one of the most loving acts of self-respect.

  • Boundaries are about your actions, not someone else’s behavior.

  • Saying “no” creates the space for your “hell yes” life.

    • Your healing reshapes the spaces, relationships, and opportunities you choose.


    ⏱️ Episode Timestamps

  • 00:00 Intro

  • 01:00 Lessons from unplugging in the mountains

  • 03:00 You are in charge of your own experience

  • 06:00 Choosing empowerment instead of blame

  • 08:00 Protecting joy and not raining on someone else’s parade

  • 10:00 Honoring your energy and giving yourself space

  • 12:00 The birth of the No.vember Challenge

  • 15:00 Leaving rooms and relationships that no longer serve you

  • 18:00 Boundaries, emotional capacity, and real self-leadership

  • 22:00 Knowing when it’s time to go

  • 27:00 Turning the everyday into hell-yes moments


    🌟 Resources & Links

    Join the No.vember Challenge
    A free 5-day challenge for women ready to stop people-pleasing, protect their energy, and say no without guilt.
    One simple challenge each day. Under 5 minutes. Massive shifts.
    Say no. Reclaim your time. Become Her.
    👉 https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/november


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    Ready to say no without guilt?
    👉 Join the free No.vember Challenge today.

    👉 ⁠https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/november⁠

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