The Crazy Ex-Wives Divorce Club

Stop Repeating Old Patterns: Attachment Styles in Love & Divorce Recovery


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Do your relationships keep triggering old wounds? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wife’s Club, therapist Melissa Lapides breaks down how anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up after divorce—and how to finally heal them.

Whether you’re newly divorced, co-parenting, or opening your heart to love again, this conversation will help you stop repeating painful patterns and reclaim your emotional power.


🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

  • What attachment wounds are and how they form in childhood
  • How anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up in love and divorce
  • Why sitting with emotions leads to deeper healing
  • Practical tools to separate real needs from emotional triggers
  • How to stop letting old wounds bleed into new relationships


⏱️ Episode Timestamps

  • 00:00 Intro

  • 02:22 Understanding attachment wounds

  • 05:28 Navigating separation & divorce

  • 06:21 Healing through self-awareness in divorce

  • 08:10 The role of mirroring in relationships

  • 09:01 Communicating needs in relationships

  • 21:27 Embracing acceptance in relationships

  • 22:10 The power of communication & compromise

  • 25:01 Nonviolent communication techniques

  • 29:13 Building emotional resilience

  • 30:48 Self-discovery & personal growth after divorce

  • 33:34 Navigating new relationships post-divorce


  • 🌟 Resources & Links

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    Connect with Melissa Lapides  (Licensed Psychotherapist & Founder of Securely Attached)

    • Website: getsecurelyattached.com

    • Instagram: @getsecurelyattached

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