Jim and I had a conversation in the membership group about discomfort and what it is revealing. I asked his permission to share it outside the group. 

So good they can't ignore you: Cal Newport. Saturday book 

I have strugrled with explosive temper resulting in lashing out.My emotinns are triggerd by feelings of injustice done towards me. I suppose by expressing anger one feels justified standing upto the injustice. If you can help with some tools as to how can the self feel ok and not express anger even in the face of injustice and how to navigate it in a better way. I feel terrible after i have lashed out and the feeling of anger is gone,also nothing actually is achieved with display of anger but in the moment its so difficult to remeber this and not lash out. Thanks

Was wondering how to recognize a difference between having personal criteria for certain things and conditioning? Is this the same thing and conditioning got a bad reputation in these conversations, always being seen as a partybreaker?

Example: My criteria for an intimate relationship is with a person who can commit to a monogamous relationship. I don't see a point to inquire anything about that. To

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Bad advice: Prioritise your mental health by...

Prioritize your mental health by distancing yourself from people who create drama and toxicity in your life. Set boundaries and surround yourself with a peaceful circle that loves you, supports you, and wants the best for you.

Seeing and honouring the child vs finding comfort in the victim hood that our experiences seem to justify. I find this subtlety difficult. There's such a delicious sadness in my victimhood.

On Sundays where possible I will publish conversations either with other teachers or with people on my programmes in which we look at different aspects of self and other. 

Today is a conversation with Piers Thurston recorded for his podcast about the nature of free will. 

The Expectation Effect by David Robson: The Saturday book

I wonder what really causes beliefs to shift? Before this conversation I would have said experiential learning. Now that still looks true, but bizarrely without a learner or doer or knower