Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

We spend a lot of time building gates and systems to protect ourselves from distraction of ADHD. But, what might we be losing at the expense of saying No? This week on the show, Pete talks about control and ADHD. Spinning off of the concept of Margin as discussed by Shawn Blanc and Richard Swenson before him, what does it mean for ADHD when our systems and processes that we use to protect ourselves and our focus cause us to run out of margin in our lives and run headlong into a broader world that doesn’t understand us?

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We had so many fantastic submissions for our "What do you want the world to know about ADHD" poll that we had to do TWO episodes! From judgment to raising kids with ADHD, this week you brought even more incredible insights to share with the rest of us. This is one of our very favorite pairs of episodes and is highlighted by your collective vulnerability and generosity. Thank you.

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There are so many signals coming at us; judgments, criticisms, guidance, and support. But so often, these messages come from those with limited experience with ADHD. This week on the show, asked you a simple question: What is it that you want the world to know about your life with ADHD?

You told us how you experience relationships. You told us how your memory impacts your day. You shared your challenges with intimacy. You talked about how hard it is to respond to well-meaning strangers who know a thing or two about gluten. You came at us with glorious gusto.

So please join us today for part one of what has become a two-parter and hear how your peers would like to share their ADHD experience with the world. Thank you for listening, and even greater thanks for sharing!

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One of the greatest muscles you can develop to help you relate to the world around you while living with ADHD is to become a better listener. Author Rebecca Shafir brings her communication skills — and her book on the subject — to help us out this week!

Rebecca a speech/language pathologist, an ADHD coach for over 25 years, a colleague of Dr. Ned Hallowell and the author of The Zen of Listening: Mindful Communication in the Age of Distraction. With over 30 years experience working with students and professionals to improve well-being, personal productivity and communication, she’s in the perfect position to teach us all to move on from active listening and become a truly mindful listener!

And, her book is now available on Audible! Support Rebecca and this show by starting your free Audible account today at audibletrial.com/theadhdpodcast. Start your trial then search for the book and start listening today! Our great thanks to Audible for their sponsorship of this podcast.

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Receiving a diagnosis of ADHD can be hard enough. But what do you do when your partner, friends, or family don't work to understand and support you?

This week on the show, Nikki and Pete take on this thorny issue. Yes, in fact, there are two sides, and approaching those closest to us with news that something is not as they’ve always understood it in your relationship can be jarring. Normalizing around this big new thing is the first step, then you can move on to the business of figuring out the rhythm of your relationship going forward. But what if you run into an ideological brick wall? That’s another story.

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It’s hard out there. Why do we make it harder by subconsciously practicing language that devalues us, our contributions, and our abilities? Inspired by recent conversations in our coaching groups, Nikki brings a strategy that can help you build the muscles and triggers you’ll need to both notice when you’re falling into the trap of limiting beliefs, but to correct the pattern with replacement language.

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Yes, you know what ADHD does to your attention. But did you know that part of your distractibility might just be because you're ... human? New research out of Princeton says distraction was an evolutionary benefit and our ability to cycle the spotlight of attention actually serves to keep us safe. Today on the show, we’re talking about the research, and Pete brings three tools that purport to rewire your brain through sound!

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Building and maintaining strong friendships is critical to emotional well-being. When we announced that we were doing a show on friendships and ADHD, you spoke up. This week on the show, we’re walking through a collection of questions from you, from setting better boundaries to navigating unbalanced relationships and so much more!

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Building and maintaining strong friendships is critical to emotional well-being. But ADHD characteristics can put a damper on social convention. How to cope? It starts with developing a keen understanding of how your brain and your own relationship with ADHD impacts how you relate to people important to you. This week on the show, we’re talking about the skills and traits you’ll need to develop to grow stronger and healthier human connections!

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Memory is a fickle beast. With ADHD, you’re saddled with the unpredictability of having a terrific and accurate memory one day to a devastatingly terrible memory the next. This intermittent reinforcement makes the ADHD memory unreliable, sure, but that doesn’t mean all hope is lost. From executive functioning to working memory and prospective memory, understanding where your memory is impacted is key to determining the strategies that will work best for you, to help you remember what you need, when you need it.

We're talking about memory this week, the functions of memory that may be impaired with ADHD, and strategies for improving your memory that come from some unlikely sources.

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