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TAM+ Episode 43: Breaking Free: Why Shame (Not Guilt) Is Sabotaging Your Recovery


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Have you ever noticed that after a slip in recovery, your thoughts immediately jump to "I'm worthless" or "I'm never going to get better"? These aren't just random negative thoughts – they're part of a powerful emotion that might be secretly sabotaging your recovery journey. In this eye-opening episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive deep into the crucial difference between guilt and shame in addiction recovery. Through evidence-based research and practical experience, they reveal why many people mistakenly identify their shame as guilt, and how this misunderstanding can keep them trapped in the addiction cycle. The hosts share three powerful, scientifically-backed tools that listeners can start using immediately to build shame resilience and strengthen their recovery journey. Whether you're in recovery yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers essential insights into breaking free from the destructive grip of shame while building a healthier relationship with yourself and others.


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KEY TOPICS
  • The critical difference between guilt ("I made a mistake") and shame ("I am a mistake")
  • How toxic shame fuels the addiction cycle
  • Research findings on shame's direct link to substance use problems
  • The importance of shame resilience in recovery
  • Three easy tools for breaking the shame spiral
  • The role of connection and community in overcoming shame
  • Practical language shifts for transforming shame into growth
  • TIMESTAMPS

    [00:01:20] Introduction to shame's impact on recovery

    [00:02:31] Research findings on shame vs. guilt in addiction

    [00:04:00] How toxic shame creates a negative cycle

    [00:08:14] First tool: The Language Shift technique

    [00:09:40] Second tool: The Shame Interrupt method

    [00:11:00] Third tool: The Connection Practice

    [00:13:40] Community resources and next steps



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