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Join health and science journalist Danielle Elliot as she investigates the rise of women recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen to Climbing the Walls now.
A lot of shame can come up when a person with ADHD is confronted about a mistake they’ve made. They might start to spiral into bad feelings, and negative self-talk, when really the person bringing up the mistake most likely wants to repair their relationship, and even strengthen their bond.
Host Cate Osborn chats to ADHD coach Jaye Lin about why this happens, and what we can do to “reverse the train” to stop the spiral. Jaye is the host of another show on the MissUnderstood podcast channel, Tips from an ADHD Coach.
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Timestamps
(00:41) Being scared of making mistakes or showing ADHD traits
(04:38) “Reversing the train” instead of spiraling when someone brings up a mistake we’ve made
(08:23) Slipping into the shame spiral easily
(11:28) Directly addressing the damage caused by your actions, intentional or not
(15:51) The element of repair
(16:30) Perfectionism and internalized judgement
(20:28) Rejection sensitivity and how we react to things
(23:19) The “scary moment” when someone brings up your mistake
(25:55) Jaye’s last piece of advice
For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
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Join health and science journalist Danielle Elliot as she investigates the rise of women recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen to Climbing the Walls now.
A lot of shame can come up when a person with ADHD is confronted about a mistake they’ve made. They might start to spiral into bad feelings, and negative self-talk, when really the person bringing up the mistake most likely wants to repair their relationship, and even strengthen their bond.
Host Cate Osborn chats to ADHD coach Jaye Lin about why this happens, and what we can do to “reverse the train” to stop the spiral. Jaye is the host of another show on the MissUnderstood podcast channel, Tips from an ADHD Coach.
Related resources
Timestamps
(00:41) Being scared of making mistakes or showing ADHD traits
(04:38) “Reversing the train” instead of spiraling when someone brings up a mistake we’ve made
(08:23) Slipping into the shame spiral easily
(11:28) Directly addressing the damage caused by your actions, intentional or not
(15:51) The element of repair
(16:30) Perfectionism and internalized judgement
(20:28) Rejection sensitivity and how we react to things
(23:19) The “scary moment” when someone brings up your mistake
(25:55) Jaye’s last piece of advice
For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
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