November 06, 2025

The Avoidant Does THIS When You Stop Talking to Them

10 minutes

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When a Dismissive Avoidant stops talking, it’s usually a defense mechanism. But what happens when you go silent instead? The reaction might surprise you. While they seem calm or detached, there’s an entire emotional process unfolding beneath the surface.

In this video, Thais Gibson explains what really happens when you stop talking to a Dismissive Avoidant, the five key emotional stages they move through, and what their silence actually means. You’ll learn how space impacts their nervous system, why they sometimes come back indirectly, and how to decide whether reconnection is truly healthy.

You’ll learn:

✅ The 5 emotional stages Dismissive Avoidants experience when you pull away

✅ Why initial relief is often followed by confusion and regret

✅ How independence becomes a form of emotional control

✅ The subconscious fear that drives repression and withdrawal

✅ What their indirect attempts to reconnect (like memes or jokes) really mean

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 – What Does the Avoidant Do When You Stop Talking to Them?

00:24 – The Four Attachment Styles

01:25 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Feel Relief When They Have Space

02:07 – The Cost of Conflict

03:35 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Feel an Increased Sense of Independence

04:43 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Start Having Mixed Feelings

05:47 – 7-Day Free Trial

06:37 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Begin Questioning or Regretting Things

07:16 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Will Make Attempts at Reconnection

08:39 – What to Do If You're on The Other Side

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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