In this throwback episode of the Awake & Winning Podcast, Kaylor sits down with Mark Groves for a raw, high-level conversation about social media, nervous system health, and what it actually takes to stay authentic when the internet is trying to hijack your brain. Mark breaks down why he left Instagram (and why he came back), how validation and family dynamics can quietly shape our online behavior, and why modern platforms keep the body stuck in a constant state of social "threat." They dive into addiction, boundaries, oversharing vs real vulnerability, and the uncomfortable truth: you can't be free if you can't choose "no."
If you've ever felt drained, reactive, or dependent on metrics—this episode will help you reset your relationship with attention, identity, and integrity.
Episode Highlights: social media addiction, nervous system regulation, validation wounds, mother-son dynamics, boundaries vs walls, oversharing vs vulnerability, authenticity with strategy, dopamine loops, blue light and sleep, online criticism resilience, identity and freedom, choosing "no"
Takeaways:
- Social media can trigger survival wiring, not just "bad habits"
- Validation seeking often masks a deeper relational wound
- Your body treats social threat like physical threat
- Build boundaries by starting with "walls" then refining
- Oversharing asks others to hold what they didn't earn
- Vulnerability shares the lesson, not the emotional dump
- Freedom comes from choice, not dependence
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Websites | https://markgroves.com/
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro + reconnecting
01:02 Why he left Instagram
03:39 Podcast algorithm changes
04:42 The "mom validation" insight
07:28 Nervous system + social media
08:04 "MKUltra by smartphones"
09:40 Blood sugar spike from stress
11:14 Why he came back
14:35 Boundaries, people-pleasing, self-abandonment
36:36 Oversharing vs vulnerability
45:54 What COVID revealed
57:49 Simulation + meaning
01:18:23 Advice to his 2020 self
01:23:04 Where to find Mark