The Aware Parenting Podcast

In this episode, we explain why aggression happens, and how we can respond to that root cause in ways that are both effective and empathic.

We differentiate between expression, regression and aggression, and we talk about how we can support our children to move from aggression to healthy expression.

We discuss how important it is for us to do our own inner work so that we have the capacity to be with our child’s feelings of powerlessness, frustration and outrage.

We describe Loving Limits in detail and explain why the language we use in Loving Limits is so important.

We hope you enjoy listening to this as much as we enjoyed recording it for you!

Recommended reading:

Aletha Solter - Tears and Tantrums

Aletha Solter - Cooperative and Connected

Offerings from us:

Marion

Why is My Child? Series:

https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/why-is-my-child-series/

Powerlessness, Power-over and Power-with in Parenting Masterclass

https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/

Making Friends with Children’s Feelings Course

http://www.makingfriendswithchildrensfeelings.com/course/

Lael

Aware Parenting Immersion:

To explore the deeper imprints from our childhoods and how they turn up in our parenting.

Aware Parenting for Couples:

Coming Soon!

You can find all the details at www.laelstone.com.au

Please come over to our Facebook page, or find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast

You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, would you be like to subscribe to the podcast so we can show up in your podcast feed?

We’re sending you much love and compassion in your parenting journey.

Marion and Lael

xoxo

In this episode, we discuss why parenting can be one of the greatest forms of activism. If we realise the power we have as parents and how that can help us reconnect with a sense of agency. Your parenting makes a difference. Your parenting is social change. You are co-creating a new cultural paradigm.

We talk about politicians and the little children inside them, and what a huge difference your parenting is making as you choose to come from connection and compassion, instead of powerlessness and pain.

This week’s invitation:

1. What have you done differently with your child, that wasn't done or held for you?

2. What do you want your activism in life to look like, especially in your family?

Resources

Robin Grille - Parenting for a Peaceful World.

 

As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast 

You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.

Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey.

x

Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk all about raising teenagers and the edges they may explore as well the edges we may need to feel into in raising them. We look at how our own imprints in our teenage years can affect how we parent and what teenagers are asking for as they grow.

[2.20] How raising teens can ask us to look deeply into our own stories

[5.25] The cultural lens around teenagers

[8:50] Teenagers finding their purpose

[10.42] What are your fears around raising teens?

[13.35] What did you need as a teen and can you give that to your children?

[17.04] Raising children who have tools to navigate life

[20.00] Having difficult conversations around sex and drugs

[22.00] Are we placing expectations on our children?

[26.40] Trusting teenagers' autonomy and timing

[29.40] How do you want you teenager to feel about you and your support?

[31.10] Taking a pause when we don’t know how to navigate things

[33.00] Our base guide for raising teens

This week’s invitation:

1. Do you have a charged phrase around your teen and would you like to listen into where that comes from?

2. What did you need when you were a teen and can you bring that to yourself and your teen?

Resources

Lael’s course : https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-for-tweens-and-teens/

8 week Immersion : https://laelstone.com.au/courses/aware-parenting-online-immersion/

 

As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast 

You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.

Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey.

x

Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk all about mothering, the imprints we receive, and the influence society has on us. We explore guilt in parenting and how we can reclaim who we really are as women and mothers.

[2.20] Our subconscious stories around being appreciated as a mother

[3.55] The impact of history on modern day mothering

[7:00] Our beliefs around being a ‘good mother’

[10.40] Changing the cultural ideas around behaviourism and cooercion

[14.15] What do we want our children to believe about themselves?

[18.44] Working through the imprints of parenting and parenting with awareness

[24.10] Unpacking guilt and our belief around feeling guilty

[29.20] Feeling into our true power as mothers

[35.00] Being curious about the stories we tell ourselves

[36.40] The belief that guilt will make us change

[39.40] Listening compassionately to the painful feelings creates change

[47.19] Joy and flow, grief and mourning

This week’s invitation:

1. If you were free from guilt, what are you scared of happening?

2. What would it feel like to feel a sense of empowerment in your core as a mother?

Resources

Marion's courses and trainings:

Get Free From Guilt For Good: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/get-free-from-guilt-for-good/

Helping Mothers Develop True Self-Love: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/helping-mothers-develop-true-self-love/

Love Being a Mother ebook and meditations: http://www.lovebeingamother.net/ebook/

Transformation Through Mothering: new live round coming soon on: http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/

Lael’s course : https://laelstone.com.au/online-courses/

 

As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast 

You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.

Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey.

x

Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk all about resilience. We explore how the essence of Aware Parenting is deeply linked with resilience. We talk about how we can help our children become resilient beings, and how we can navigate our past experiences to build resilience within ourselves.

[1.42] The definition of resilience

[3.15] Our inbuilt mechanism to be resilient

[7:00] The old perception of resilience

[10.15] Our own imprints around resilience

[13.30] Protecting children from hurt

[18.04] How we create stories based on our childhood experiences

[21.40] The impact of judgement on resilience

[25.20] Embracing trust and painful feelings

[31.15] Identifying our inner child and repressed feelings

[34.03] The empowerment in overcoming challenges

[37.05] Trusting timing in our children

This week’s invitation:

1. Can you feel in your body the strength and flow (ie. be the Sunflower)?

2. Is there a story in your past where you didn’t feel heard and it created shame or embarrassment and you need support to gain resilience?

Resources

Aletha Solter's books - Co-operative and Connected and Tears and Tantrums

The Resilience Project - https://theresilienceproject.com.au/

 

As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast 

You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.

Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey.

x

Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk all about learning at home, particularly in the current world climate. This is a special episode, which has 2 parts. In part 1, Marion and Lael discuss the history of education and the bigger picture of learning, and in part 2, Lael chats with Tony Vallance, a seasoned teacher and father who shares many insights into how we can make the most of this connected learning time.

[3.07] Modern schooling and the Industrial revolution

[6:00] An opportunity to question what we learn and how we learn

[8.43] Trusting our children’s learning

[12.30] Is our curriculum relevant and does it support our children?

[17.04] The impact of learning that doesn’t engage us

[23.19] Valuing EQ as much as IQ and creative learning

[19.00] The true nature of human beings

[26.55] What have your learned about your child by witnessing them learning?

[29.10] Supporting teachers and the joy of learning

[31.15] Prioritising connection above learning

[33.45] Exploring many pathways to success

[36.15] Introducing Tony Vallance and his insights into teaching

[38.30] Trying to stay present and accept what is

[41.40] The wisdom of being curious

[43.50] Connection and voice and choice

[47.05] How we can get the best from our kids

[50.10] Why boredom is so important

[52.15] You don’t have to be the teacher

[54.40] Tips to navigate all getting our needs met

[1.00.20] Modeling mistakes

[1.02.20] What is resilience with life and learning?

[1.05.40] Get tactile in your learning

Resources

Peter Gray - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-OMYesA1nQo

Sir Ken Robinson - https://www.ted.com/speakers/sir_ken_robinson

The Element by Sir Ken Robinson - https://www.amazon.com.au/Element-Finding-Passion-Changes-Everything/dp/0143116738

You can find Tony Vallance at: https://buildingbetterbrains.com.au/

and: https://open.spotify.com/show/5IdHn06GRKgzQ23g3GdCMj?si=93vtizUJSw-qcNdmpoT9oQ

 

As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast 

You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.

Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey.

x

Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk all about nature and nurture. We explore the imprints we receive in our childhoods and how we can shift and change what we have been shown, as well as the labels we use for ourselves and others.

[2.10] Our tendency to label our children and who they really are

[3:00] There is no such thing as perfectly happy humans

[6.11] Labelling our children or seeing them as complete

[9.00] Looking deeper into why our children are the way they are

[13.00] Seeing unexpressed behaviour instead of labels

[17.00] Our children reminding us of our past and family members

[19.00] The true nature of human beings

[24.15] Family lineage and carrying on hurts

[27.30] Acknowledging the courage to change the past

[33.00] Being the change for our children

[35.40] Historical events and core beliefs around our nature

[40.50] Doing our work to support our children

This week’s invitation:

1. What do you believe your child's true nature is?

2. Do you label your children in any way? Do you also label and limit yourself in any way?

 

As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast 

You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.

Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey.

x

Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk all about screens and how we use them in our families. We explore our own unique relationship with technology and our feelings towards our children and screens.

[2.00] Compassion for our relationship towards technology

[4:17] How screens can meet our needs

[6.01] Repression mechanisms

[8.05] Screens can facilitate connection

[12.25] The magic of technology

[14.03] What we model to our children

[16.35] Boundaries, limits and listening to feelings

[18.45] Connection as a bridge to transitions

[21.25]What stories do we tell ourselves about screens

[23.15] Open conversations with our children about screens

[30.00] Meeting children needs whilst using technology

[32.50] Teaching boredom

[34.35] Attachment play to assist with technology

[37.40 ] Connection is the antidote to repression

[38.35] Holding boundaries and listening to feelings

[39.45] Age appropriate movies and information

[44.45] Using screens to help us as parents

[47.15] Using technology consciously

This week’s invitation:

1. What do you make screens mean in your life and with your kids?

2. Can you enquire into guilt around screens and can you use them consciously?

Resources

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/reviews

Marion's Kids, Screens and Aware Parenting Course: http://www.kidsscreensandawareparenting.com/invitation/

As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast 

You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.

Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey.

x

Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk all about fear, and being scared in our current reality. We explore the roots of our fears, and offer ideas for how we can support ourselves and our children.

[1.50] Feeling into our own fears

[2:50] Fear has an adaptive value

[9.00] Understanding our fight, flight, freeze, fawn response

[10.05] Breathing techniques for fear

[13.00] Welcoming our fear

[15.03] Modelling to our children

[17.38] Being authentic in our current reality

[19.45] Transgenerational fear and trauma

[24.10] Fear responding to our needs, the past or our thoughts

[28.15] What do we know to be true right now

[31.00] Seeing the joy and making choices

[34.50] The potential for love through change

[36.20] Reaching out for support

[39.10 ] Releasing rage and anger that can shift fear

[42.20] Tools to help shift fear

This week’s invitation:

1. Keep checking in with each other and be mindful of the energy you are bringing to this experience.

2. The more we can release from the past, the more we can stay present now.

Resources

The Opposite of Worry - https://www.bookdepository.com/Opposite-Worry-Lawrence-J-Cohen/9781452665290

Trauma Release Exercise - https://traumaprevention.com/what-is-tre/

Some joy and laughter (the Pluto dog video we talked about) - https://www.facebook.com/nanciewight/videos/10158289063493653/

Choosing loving energy - https://www.facebook.com/1604597862905560/posts/3016531095045556/?d=n

Empathy Buddies / Listening Partnerships - https://www.facebook.com/groups/2562318203992646/

Sessions with Lael - [email protected]

Marion's courses - https://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/

Marion's 1-1 packages - http://www.marionrose.net/packages/

 

As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast 

You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.

Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey.

x

Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk all about anger, outrage, aggression and their causes and manifestations. We explore healthy ways to navigate these, both as a parent and within ourselves.

[1.20] Differentiating between anger, outrage, and frustration

[4:15] The repression of anger and frustration

[7.07] Cultural imprints around anger for girls and boys

[10.34] How anger can support us

[13.40] Staying connected to our power

[15.15] Helping children stay connected to their intuition

[20.00] Releasing healthy anger

[21.45] Holding space for our children's anger

[24.20] Doing our own work around anger

[29.00] Compassion for ourselves around how we respond to anger

[31.00] Feeling, thinking and needing

[36.35] Parallels between children and parents

[40.00] Meeting children's anger with presence and compassion

[44.10 ] The movement and flow of feelings

[46.32] What can we do when we have moved into anger

[50.20] Setting loving limits for ourselves

This week’s invitation:

1. How do you feel right now? Do you need to connect in with yourself or someone else?

2. Can you recall your imprint around anger as a child? Do you know anyone who expresses their anger in a healthy way?

Resources:

Powerlessness, power-over and power-with in parenting Masterclass:

https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/

Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course:

http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/

 

As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast 

You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au

And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed.

Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey.

x

Lael and Marion