Anxious about working from home? Partner driving you to despair because you're together 24/7? In this episode of The Calmer You Podcast I chat with journalist and Shelf Help Bookclub founder Toni Jones about how to handle coronanxiety and thrive at home in a time of Covid-19.



We discuss:



* WFH tips for introverts and extroverts  * How to still be social (but also not overwhelm yourself with video calls and WhatsApp messages)* The importance of routine* Working at home with your partner or kids * WFH tips for introverts and extroverts * How to still be social (but also not overwhelm yourself with video calls and WhatsApp messages)







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Transcript



Hello and
welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is your host, Chloe Brotheridge. I'm a
coach, a hypnotherapist, and I'm the author of The Anxiety Solution and Brave
New Girl. And this podcast is all about helping you to become your calmest,
happiest and most confident self.



Chloe
Brotheridge: Thank you so much for listening today. Obviously, I'm so
aware of what an anxious time this is for so many of you. I've been having tons
of messages and questions coming through about how to deal with the uncertainty
about coronavirus and all the things that we have to deal with from redundancy
is to not be able to leave the house to lack of social interaction to fear
about our health and the health of our loved ones. There are so many things to
consider right now.



And so, what I normally do is record
podcasts quite a few weeks in advance and I've decided to push back the ones I
had scheduled and actually have in place some podcasts that are dealing with
the issues that we're struggling with today.



So, obviously, I know what an anxious
time they says and I'm going to be planning some online workshops to help you
to feel more resilient and feel more positive in what is, for many people, a
really challenging time.



If you want to hear about that and also download some of the freebies I have on my website, you can go to calmer-you.com/free. I've got hypnotherapy mp3 on there, affirmations, worksheets; all designed to help me to be a calmer you. And I'll also let you know about any events or live workshops I'm doing online.



So, I am chatting on the podcast today to my friend, Toni Jones. She was a guest, maybe a year ago now, on the podcast. She's the founder of the self-help book club, Shelf Help. And I definitely recommend you check them out. There's tons for you to get involved in. Even though the in-person meetups aren’t happening for now, she's doing loads of stuffs online. Definitely check out Shelf Help Club on Facebook and on her website and on Instagram.



I got in touch with Toni because she'd written
a fascinating blog post, all about working from home and the challenges that
can come up for us when it comes to working from home; from being productive to
spending more time with our partners,

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This week on the Calmer You Podcast I speak with Becki Rabin. She is THE business coach, brand consultant, speaker, presenter and entrepreneur. Wow!



We chat about:



* How can we shine more brightly without fears of what people think* Becki shares her own story of transformation * Practical tools for dialing-up your self-worth * How to move outside of your comfort zone







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Transcript



Intro: Hello, and welcome to the Calmer You podcast, this is your host Chloe Brotheridge, I’m a coach, a hypnotherapist and I'm the author of The Anxiety Solution and Brave New Girl.” And this podcast is all about helping you to become your calmest, happiest, and most confident self. So in the podcast today I get to speak about Becki Rabin, she's a friend of mine, she is a wonderful business coach, she’s a brand consultant, a speaker, an entrepreneur and she's all about helping people to get lit. She explains exactly what that means in this episode. She has so many useful ideas on helping us to master our mindset and feel better about who we are and dial-up our self-worth, how we can build a life of our dreams, how to become the happiest version of ourselves and really unlocking our fullest potential.







I think this really comes through in this episode with Becki. She shares a lot about her own transformation and the journey that she's been on to really shifting her mindset and changing her life in quite dramatic ways. We get into this topic of being lit, being lit up, you know turning a light on, this is something that Becki is really focused on helping people with and why for so many of us we can hold ourselves back from really shining brightly and being confident because we are so scared of what other people are going to think. And so she shares a lot about this and how we can overcome those barriers, so that we can just be our most confident selves. We also talk about anxiety.



Becki shares some of practical tools that she helps her own clients with, and we also get the topic of social media and that pressure, and how we can try to not allow social media to take over our lives.



So I would love to send you some free resources to help you become your calmest and happiest, the most confident self, you can head over the calmeryou.com/free, enter your e-mail address there, then I'm going to send you those free resources, mp3s, worksheets, lots of practical tools, and updates about the podcast, and you can get that calmeryou.com/free. So let's get into the interview with Becki Rabin.



Chloe: Hey Becki.



Becki Rabin: Hello.



Chloe: Welcome, thank you very much, thank you for being here.

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Nicky Clinch is a Maturation Coach &  Facilitator. Maturation is a process of growing out of who you thought you were into who you were born to be.



Her mission in life is for you to break free of the confines of your past traumas, self-defeating patterns and suffering so that you can realise and come home to who you truly are.



We chat about:



* Nicky shares her tag on anxiety (it’s not your usual perspective and I love it)* How we can heal trauma* Nicky shares her powerful story of transformation through plant medicines* Why she scrapped 50,000 words of her book to start from scratch







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Introduction



Chloe: Hello, and welcome to the Calmer You podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge, I’m a coach, a hypnotherapist, and I'm the author of “the anxiety solution and brave new girl,” and this podcast is all about helping you to become your calmest, happiest and most confident self. In this episode, I'm talking to the wonderful Nicky Clinch, and Nicky is such a special person, she came over to my house to recall this episode, we actually live quite close to one another in London, in Hackney, East London. And we sat together on the sofa, and I honestly felt like this conversation was so healing for me, and it really came at the right time for me personally and I really hope it helps here as well.



Nicky is a transformational leader and facilitator, she has studied
integrative counseling and macrobiotics, she is also a spiritual mentor and
it's her mission in life to help all of us to break free from the confines of
our past traumas, ourselves defeating patterns, and our suffering. So that we
can realize and come home to who we are. So Nicky and I get into lots different
topics, we start off by talking about trauma and how it can be the root of so
many of our issues and how we can start to overcome the traumas that held us
back. Nicky gives us her take on anxiety and where that comes from and what we
can do to start to manage our own anxiety.







And Nicky advice definitely isn't the standard 3 tips to curing anxiety something that you might read day-to-day, it really does go very very deep and it's very very powerful. She shares some really moving personal stories about how she's healed her own trauma, how own experience of plant medicines, her own transformation and how she helps other people to transform. She also shares the incredible story about how she was 50000 words into writing her book, she had publishing deal with Hey house and how she actually scrapped the whole 50000 words and went on a different path and this is incredible for me, as someone who has written a book to let go of 50000 words, that's just terrifying to me.



So I love this story with Nicky, it was incredibly inspiring. So I would
love to send some free resources to help you grow your confidence, boost your
self-esteem and calm your anxiety, if you want these freebies you can head over
to my website; calmeryou.com/free, put your email address in there and I'll
send you those freebies right away. So let's get into the interview with Nicky
clinch.



Nicky Clinch: So we’re rolling.

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This week on the Calmer You podcast I speak with voice coach and author of Find Your Voice, Caroline Goyder. She knows a thing or two about how to find your voice and get out of your head.



We chat about:



* What is confidence?* Why nerves are good* How to overcome blushing or shaking when you’re speaking* How to improve your confidence when it comes to speaking* Phone phobia * And lots more!







Transcript



Introduction



Chloe: Hello and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge, I’m a coach, a hypnotherapist and I'm the author of “the anxiety solution, and brave new girl” and this podcast is all about helping you to become your calmest happiest and most confident self. Today on the podcast, I have the pleasure of speaking to Caroline Goyder who is a voice coach, and she's the author of the new book “Find your voice.” She is also a Ted x. Speaker and her Ted Talk has had 7 and a half million views which is really incredible. In this episode we're talking all about confidence, particularly confidence when it comes to speaking, whether that’s speaking on a stage, speaking up in a meeting or speaking on the phone.



And this is I hope such a reassuring chat because both Caroline and I
have struggled in this area before, we both admitted to having blushed in the
past. And so it's really coming from a place of her having experienced the
nervousness and the fear that comes along with speaking, and having learned a
lot about herself, made a lot of progress and she actually gets to help other
people with that as well. So we talk about Caroline's definition of confidence,
and I think this is really interesting, not what you might be expecting. We
talk about why nerves are actually a good thing and why there's nothing to be
ashamed about if you do experience nerves before speaking, it's actually
completely normal and I hope this conversation helped to normalize even more
and how to know there's nothing to be ashamed of.



We talk about how to overcome the specific things that can hold us back
from speaking like blushing or shaking or speaking to the fast and Caroline
shares lots of tips on growing your confidence in general, when it comes to
speaking, phone phobia and people who experience this will know what I'm
talking about if you're scared of being on the phone in front of the people in
the office for example or if you're someone that maybe doesn't like to answer
the phone when people call, if it's an unknown number for example, I'm one of
these people by the way.



And we just got into loads of helpful ideas around the topic of speaking confidence, and finding your voice. So if you want to get some free resources from me on growing your confidence, boosting your self-esteem, calming anxiety, I've got loads of freebies on my website for you, if you had over to calmeryou.com/free and to enter your email address there, I'm going to send you mp3’s, worksheet, podcast updates and loads more. So head over to Calmeryou.com/free, so let's get into the interview with Caroline Goyder.



Chloe: So welcome Caroline, thank you so much for joining me, how are you?



Caroline Goyder: I'm good, pleasure to be here.



Chloe: Please can you tell us what it is you do and how you came to do that you
today?



What is a Voice Coach?

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This week on the Calmer You Podcast I speak with Julia Samuel, Author of Grief Works and her new book This Too Shall Pass.



We chat about:



* What is the ‘fertile void’?* How busyness stops us from healing * How to handle changes in your life * What to say to someone who is grieving* The particular struggles that millennials face







Transcript



Chloe: Hello, and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge. Welcome. I am a coach, a hypnotherapist, and I'm the author of The Anxiety Solution and Brave New Girl.



On today's Podcast



And today, on the podcast, I've got the wonderful Julia Samuel, MBE, who is a psychotherapist, and she's also the author of two books; Grief Works, and her latest book, This Too Shall Pass, which is all about how to navigate changes. And you know, we're so scared of change, aren’t we? On one hand, we really want change, we want transformation. And on the other hand, how many of us can get stuck keeping things the same because change just feels too scary, and it feels safer to stick with what we know even though it's uncomfortable.



So, we
talked about this whole topic of change. We discussed what's known as the
fertile void, and I love how Julia explains this and how we can cultivate this
in our lives, and it can help us to handle changes in our lives. We talked
about how business stops us from healing and what we need to do instead. We
also get into the topic of grief and what to say to someone who's grieving and
how to handle that yourself about something that's affecting you at the moment.
We also touch on the particular struggles that millennials and those of a
similar generation face. So, I want to let you know that I have some free
resources for confidence, self-esteem, and anxiety. If you want to grab those
freebies, head over to my website, CalmerYou.com/Free, and I'll send you lots of resources, worksheets,
downloads, updates about the podcast. Head over to CalmerYou.com/Free. So, let's get into the interview with Julia Samuel.
Welcome, Julia. Thank you so much for joining me. How are you today?



Julia:
Really well. Lovely to meet you, Chloe.



Chloe: Could
you please share with us what it is that you do and how you came to do the work
that you do today?







More about Julia Samuel



Julia: So, I'm a psychotherapist and I've been a psychotherapist for 30 years. 25 years I worked in the NHS at a big NHS hospital supporting families when babies died and children died. So, I was the counselor for pediatrics and maternity.



From there, I helped started or established and launched a charity called Child Bereavement UK, which was supporting families when a child died or when a child's bereaved. From there, I sort of taught a lot and lectured a lot. I've gone into private practice in the last few years, about the last five years. And I wrote another book before and this is my second book. So, I'm a seasoned therapist and a new author. So, one is kind of an old hat and the other feels exciting and scary. And I'm not even sure I can call myself an author.



Chloe:
Amazing. And I can't imagine work more, I don’t know, intense than working with
people that have lost a child. I think that's incredible that you've done that
work. What was that like?

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Caroline Foran is the number 1 bestselling author of Owning It and The Confidence Kit. She is currently working on her third title. She's the host of the ‘Owning it' anxiety podcast. 



We chat about:



* Her experience with anxiety* Why so many of us are anxious* Practical ways to deal with anxiety* How to support a friend or ask for support from others

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This week I speak to personal trainer and yoga teacher Shona Vertue.



We discuss:



* Her experience of therapy and SAD * Attachment theory and why there's nothing to be ashamed of if you are needy or codependent in relationships  * The pressures and boundaries of social media  * And of course, ask her the question – how are you really? 







Transcript



Mentally fit with Shona Vertue



Chloe Brotheridge: Hello and welcome to the ‘Calmer
You’ podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge. I am a coach, a
hypnotherapist and I'm the author of the ‘Anxiety Solution’ and ‘Brave New Girl’.
Thank you so much for listening today. I have an amazing guest this week Shona Vertue.
Shona is known for being a fitness instructor and yoga teacher. But for some
reason, this conversation isn't actually that much about fitness. We get into
such a varied number of topics. She has had her career so far in the fitness
industry, but she is now studying psychology and so this is a real passion of
hers.



So, we get into topics like her experience of therapy, why it's totally
okay to have therapy and we talk about things like how to find a therapist. We
talk about something called ‘Attachment Theory’ and you might have heard this
before. Some of us might be anxiously attached for example and it has to do
with things that happened in our childhood. We really get into why there's
nothing to be ashamed about if you're somebody that is perhaps needy or
codependent in relationships because it's not your fault and it can often go
back to these things in childhood. So, we chat about that.



We get into the pressures and boundaries of social media and I also ask her my favorite question to ask people which is. How are you really? I love Shona’s answer this, she's really honest and open and talks about something that I think a lot of us can relate to particularly at this time of year. So, I think gonna love this episode. I felt like I was chatting to an old friend where I met show know even though we just met ten minutes before.



Confidence Challenge



Also, I want to let you know that my confidence challenge is coming up on the 24th of February 2020. You can sign up at Calmeryou.com/confidence.



It's going to be 5 days of community, fun challenges, helping you to
think differently and take some action. So, that you can take a few steps
towards living the life that you want to live, being the person that you want
to be, accepting and loving yourself more, building your own self as and just
feeling better about being you overall. Last time I ran, it was really really
amazing to see how people made profound changes over just five days and made
new friends and expanded their idea of what's possible for them. So, I'd love
for you to join us as well. You need to sign up and register to get all the
downloads and workbooks and access the community. You can do that on my website
calmeryou.com/confidence.



So, let's get into the episode, with Shona. Welcome Shona, thank you so
much for joining me. How are you?



Shona Vertue: I am good. Thank you for
having me.



Chloe Brotheridge: I would love to know a bit
about, what it is that you do people that don't know.



Shona Vertue: Okay.



Chloe Brotheridge: And how you got to where you
are today? Can you share a bit about that?

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In this episode I speak to author Laura Jane Williams. We chat about:



* The ups and downs of work* Her experiences with anxiety and mental health * Giving yourself the recognition you deserve * When your life is “amazing” on the outside but inside you’re struggling* The complexities of adulthood













Transcript



Chloe:                        Hello, and welcome to the comedy podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge. I am a coach. I'm a therapist and the author of the Anxiety Solution and Brave New Girl. I welcome you to this podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Thanks for being here. I'm talking to the wonderful, brilliant Laura Jane Williams. Laura Jane Williams is an author. She has written several books. The latest of which is called Our Stop. If you’ve read her books or you follow her online, she is just one of these people who has an amazing way of putting words to things that so many of us experience but find it hard to express.



She's got an incredibly
magnetic personality, an amazing way with words and she talks a lot about
mental health. We get into discussions about the ups and downs of work and this
thing that can happen so often when our life seems really amazing from the
outside. Maybe people are congratulating us on how well things are going and
yet inside, we're really struggling. This can happen to so many of us and we
chat about this.



We talk about her
experiences of her journey with her mental health and anxiety. We talk about
why it's so hard to give yourself recognition for things. She shares a practice
and an example of the experiences she's had where she's really been able to
give herself that recognition. I think in having this discussion, it also gives
us, the listeners, the permission to give ourselves recognition as well. We
talk about the complexities of adulthood and just get into that whole topic,
which I think all of us will be able to relate to.



I love this conversation
with Laura. I think you’re going to love it as well and get loads from it. So,
I just want to let you know that my amazing, if I do say so myself, confidence
challenge is coming up at the end of February 2020. I would love you to join us.
It’s completely free. It's a five-day challenge. I am confident that if you
join us, you will notice a change in your life and how you feel.



Here's what Michelle said,
someone who joined the last on that around there. She said, “This challenge
gave me the courage to go out of my comfort zone and try something new. It also
gave me the nudge I needed to reach out to some old friends and reconnect. More
importantly, it's made me realize I'm not alone. I now understand it's okay to
be open, honest and vulnerable.” So many people have said this from this free
challenge that I run, they met new friends. They took action that they wouldn't
have taken before. They learned things about themselves.



They took a step outside of their comfort zone and I would love all of these things for you and more. You can sign up for free if you head to my website calmer-you.com/confidence. Pop your email address in there and I'll send you all the details about the challenge. That's calmer-you.com/confidence and I hope to see you there. Let's get into the interview with Laura Jane Williams. Welcome, Laura, thank you so much for joining me. How are you today?

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In this solo episode, I discuss:



* The thing I teach all my 1 on 1 clients about confidence* The most important belief you must develop in order to transform * How to get to the root of your issues with confidence in order to change it* Simple steps to boost your confidence and self-esteem



My confidence challenge is coming up at the end of Feb:



5 days to become more confident, connect with others on the same path and have fun. It’s one of my favourite offers and totally free. Join at www.calmeryou.com/confidence



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Transcript



Hello, and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is your host, Chloe Brotheridge. I'm a coach and a hypnotherapist and the author of two books, The Anxiety Solution, and Brave New Girl, which is all about how to grow your confidence. So, today I'm going to be sharing with you a number of steps that I think if you follow them, will help you to be calm and your most confident self, to tap into the innate courage that is within you, and start to feel better about doing the things that you want to do, being you in the world, and going outside of your comfort zone.



Journey to becomming a more confident person



And so this is really an area that I'm passionate about talking about having to struggle with my own issues around confidence and self-esteem for so so long and going on a journey to become a more confident person. And I'm not saying that it's the case that we will just one day emerge like a butterfly out of the chrysalis a new person. But the reality is that it's a journey. It's a process. And little by little, we can start to make changes and we can grow. And we can discover more about what's possible for us and expand what is possible for us. So, I'm going to share with you eight steps for becoming your most confident self.



Believe that you can change



So,
number one is to believe that you can change. And I can't tell you how
important this step is. It sounds so simple, but actually is an incredibly
powerful shift that so many of us actually need to make before we can start to
make a change. Because when we are in a bad place, when we struggled with
something for a long time, when we feel that we've tried a lot of things and
they haven't worked, it can be so easy to tell ourselves, that we are just not
confident people and we are going to be stuck, feeling this way forever and
there's not much we can do about it. And yet, and yet, the reality is that
change is always possible. We are always changing your brain is always
changing. Depending on what you do, depending on what you think, what you focus
on, those neurons are being created, old patterns of thinking, old neural
pathways are degrading as you use them less and less. And so [??? 02:18]
neurological level it is possible to change. And there's that old classic quote
from Henry Ford, “You believe you can or you believe you can't. And either way,
you're right.” And this really encapsulates, even though it's quite a cheesy
quote, by now, it will encapsulate this truth, that when we believe we can
change, it makes it easier to change. And so even if you are just experimenting

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On today's Calmer You Podcast I speak with Marianne Power the Author of Help Me! 



We chat about:



* Facing your fears (Marianne has done some incredible things!)* How Marianne upgraded her identity to be a more confident person * The things that Marianne has found most (and least) helpful on her self help journey * How to overcome a fear of public speaking * Powerful and Reassuring advice for those with anxiety and depression.



My confidence challenge is coming up at the end of Feb:



5 days to become more confident, connect with others of the same path and have fun. It’s one of my favourite offers and totally free. Join at www.calmeryou.com/confidence



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Transcript



Chloe:
Hello, and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is the place to be to become
your calmest, happiest, and most confident self. And this is your host, Chloe
Brotheridge. I am a coach and a hypnotherapist. I'm the author of The Anxiety
Solution and Brave New Girl. Today, I'm so lucky to get to speak the Marianne
Power, who is the author of the brilliant book, Help Me, which is her
experience of reading a different self-help book every day for a year, and
putting things into practice, and seeing what the results were for her. And
this book is firstly, very, very funny, and secondly, very helpful, comforting,
inspiring, reassuring. There are practical assets in there as well. I really
think you're gonna love it. And so myself and Marianne talked about facing your
fears, and Marianne really has faced a lot of fears and she shares some of the
incredible things that she's done through the course of writing this book, and
I think it's quite amazing. I'm very, very in awe of her.



We
talked about the things that Marianne has found the most, and also the least
helpful from all the things that she's tried on her self-help journey. We also
get into how to handle her fear of public speaking. So, many of us struggle
with this, and Marianne shares really beautifully about her experience of that
and what she's doing is overcome it. And she just gives some really reassuring,
lovely, comforting words of advice to people who are struggling with anxiety
and depression. And this podcast, I hope is going to feel like a big hug and a
reassuring message that you are actually okay. And you're not as bad as you
think you are basically. In fact, you're wonderful. So, I really hope you’re
going to enjoy this episode. If you're looking to become a more confident
version of yourself in 2020, then I want to invite you to come on over to see
my website and join me in the upcoming confidence challenge where every day
I'll be sending you free resources and invites to connect with our community to
grow your confidence in five days in very, very simple, simple and fun steps
and with simple fun exercises. So, you can join us, we're going to be starting
soon over at CalmerYou.com/Confidence. So, let's get into the interview with Marianne Power.
Welcome, Marianne,

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