When a parent is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or another type of dementia and the other parent begins their caregiving journey, the dynamic between the caregiving parent and child shifts dramatically. Through our experiences and conversations with families navigating this transition, we've developed six essential tips to help you support your parent as they take on the role of primary caregiver.

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Takeaways

Tip 1: Insert Yourself into the Journey

The first step is making your presence and support known while respecting your parent’s role as primary caregiver.

Key points:

• Increase visit frequency or phone calls
• Position yourself to observe daily dynamics
• Avoid judgment of decisions
• Listen more than advise
• Show support without taking over

Tip 2: Monitor Caregiver Health

Ensuring your caregiving parent maintains their own health is crucial for sustainable care.

Key points:

• Ask specific questions that can’t be answered with “I’m fine”
• Monitor medical appointments
• Discuss challenges they’re facing
• Watch for signs of stress or exhaustion
• Encourage preventive health care

Tip 3: Provide Emotional Support

Help your parent maintain connections and avoid isolation while caregiving.

Key points:

• Listen actively to what’s said and unsaid
• Validate feelings before offering solutions
• Maintain normal conversations beyond caregiving
• Encourage outside activities and interests
• Help research support resources

Tip 4: Share the Load

Even from a distance, there are many ways to help manage caregiving responsibilities.

Key points:

• Handle digital tasks remotely
• Coordinate with local friends and family
• Create support networks
• Help with scheduling and planning

Tip 5: Participate in Care Details

Get involved in both practical and legal aspects of care management.

Key points:

• Obtain necessary legal documents early
• Secure medical power of attorney
• Address privacy laws and documentation
• Arrange financial access if needed
• Support decision-making processes

Tip 6: Support Through Grief

Grief occurs throughout the journey, not just at its end.

Key points:

• Acknowledge “drip grief” throughout the journey
• Help maintain connections during caregiving
• Support through the final transition
• Assist with post-care legal matters
• Be sure to process your own grief

Special Considerations

When creating support systems:

• Develop emergency plans early
• Create shared care plans
• Document important information
• Keep contact lists updated
• Maintain flexibility in arrangements

About Our Guest Expert

This episode featured Andrew Phipps from Empathy Unbound, who shared his personal experience supporting his father as he cared for Andrew’s mother with dementia. Andrew created Empathy Unbound to promote the idea that empathy is one of our greatest superpowers — one that we often don’t recognize or use enough.

As Andrew explains, “The ability to take on the experience or position of another to help understand them is invaluable. Putting ourselves in someone else’s shoes helps us understand their situation in a way we couldn’t otherwise.” You can find the Empathy Unbound podcast wherever you get your podcasts.

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"I discovered a growth on his gum that was only slightly smaller than a marble. That's when I learned dental care involves much more than just brushing teeth."

As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer's and other types of dementia, we're continuously learning and adapting our care approaches. Through recent experiences, we've discovered important new aspects of dental care that we believe could help other caregivers on their journey.

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Other episodes mentioned

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https://thecaregiversjourney.com/dental-care-update-three-new-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/

When your loved one experiences delusions or hallucinations for the first time, it can be frightening and overwhelming for everyone involved. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, we've learned how to navigate these challenging moments.

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As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, we often struggle with adapting activities to their changing abilities. Through our experiences, and what we’ve learned from others on their caregiving journeys, Nancy Treaster and I developed three important tips to help you create meaningful engagement that honors who our care receivers are today.

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Home Safety here

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• Fidget blanket here
• Photo gifts
• Shutterfly here
• Memory Cafe example here

Takeaways

From the moment of diagnosis, we need to shift our focus from what our care receivers used to do to what brings them joy now. 

Tip 1: Adjust Our Expectations

Our care receivers’ engagement and abilities change throughout their journey — even throughout each day. 

Key points:

• Let go of ‘before’ comparisons
• Let go of outcomes
• Watch for signs of enjoyment or frustration
• Pay attention to new interests
• Adapt activities to current abilities
• Accept different ways of engaging

Tip 2: Prioritize Their Safety

As we introduce or adapt activities, safety must be a primary concern, considering both cognitive and physical abilities.

Key points:

• Consider vision changes and depth perception challenges
• Adapt activities to safely maintain independence
• Provide appropriate supervision and get creative in places to find it
• Make creative adjustments to familiar activities
• Create support networks for safety

Tip 3: Create Engaging Activities

Create activities to reflect their personal history, career, hobbies and interests, while engaging their senses. Whenever possible, engage multiple senses for a deeper connection and engagement.

Key points:

• Engage their senses:
• • Touch (e.g.: fidget blankets, textured items)
• • Sound (e.g.: familiar music, calming sounds)
• • Smell (e.g.: familiar scents, cooking aromas)
• • Sight (e.g.: colorful objects, family photos)
• • Movement (e.g.: seated dancing, simple exercises)
• Create social connections through:
• • Small group activities
• • Religious or spiritual practices
• • Memory cafes
• • Senior center programs
• • Family gatherings

When planning activities:

• Observe body language for signs of engagement or distress
• Have backup calming activities ready if they get agitated
• Remember that watching can be a form of participation
• Consider “drip grief” (see bottom of post for definition) — both yours and theirs
• Be flexible and creative in your approach
• Accept help from others who want to support you

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"If you give me a spa certificate but no gift of time to go with it, I'll probably never use it."

As friends and family of Alzheimer’s and other dementia family caregivers, we want to give meaningful gifts that will actually be used and appreciated. Through our experiences and what we've learned from others on their caregiving journeys, we've developed five important categories of gifts that truly make a difference in a caregiver's life.

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• Mealtrain.com here
• Caringbridge.com here
• Photo gifts
• Shutterfly here

"I wish I had started monitoring my husband's medication sooner than I did."

As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer's and other types of dementia, we've learned that medication management becomes increasingly challenging. Through our experiences, and what we've learned from support groups and others on their journeys, we've developed four important tips to help you support your care receiver with medication management.

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“We’ve both had ‘that’ trip — the last trip that you take when you decide we’re not traveling ever again with our care receiver. Or, as we like to say, it’s the trip after the last trip you should have taken!”

We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster. As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, we’ve learned travel decisions require careful consideration. Through our experiences, and what we’ve learned from support groups and others on their journeys, we’ve developed four important tips to help you decide whether you and your care receiver should stay home or go on what could be ‘that’ trip.

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Takeaways

Tip 1: Pre-test Travel Readiness

Key points:

• Test longer car rides (at least an hour round trip)
• Try interstate driving if that will be part of your journey
• Experience crowds and noise if those will be present
• Test unfamiliar environments
• Pay attention to any existing signs of travel difficulty.

Tip 2: Evaluate All Trip Components

Key points:

• Assess sleeping arrangements and bathroom accessibility
• Consider the need for quiet space
• Evaluate support options at the destination
• Think about familiarity with locations
• Listen to your inner voice about the decision — is this the wisest choice?

Tip 3: Plan Comprehensively

Key points:

1. Minimize advance information to avoid overwhelming your care receiver.
2. Pack comfort items:

• Fidget blankets
• Familiar snacks
• Favorite music and headphones
• Photo books
• Familiar entertainment (DVDs, etc.)

3. Plan around normal routines:

• Meal times
• Sleep schedule
• Best times of day for different amounts of activity

4. Prepare for emergencies:

• Take IDs and insurance cards
• Bring extra medications
• Pack legal documents
• Consider anti-anxiety medication options
• Share detailed itinerary with family members
• Have your emergency contact information easy to find on your care receiver and in case something happens to you.

Tip 4: Prepare Others

Key points:

• Explain current abilities and challenges
• Provide conversation guidance
• Demonstrate proper approach techniques
• Give permission for others to opt out if they’re not comfortable
• Show grace toward those processing their own emotions

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The moment you realize your loved one with dementia is missing, every second feels critical. While the natural instinct is to immediately begin searching, having a clear action plan can make the difference in finding them quickly and safely. Through insights from John Clark, a specialized dementia search and rescue expert in Georgia, we've compiled three essential tips for these frightening situations.

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John Clark USA 404-309-7386

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Professionally Trained in Urban Searches

Alzheimers, Dementia, Children, Evidence Recovery, Major Disaster Search, NASAR, Disaster Assistance

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Takeaways

Tip 1: Make the Right First Move

Key points:

• Call emergency services immediately, before starting your own search
• Don't wait to make the call while searching on your own
• Ask if there are dementia-specialized search teams in your area
• Remember that it's okay to search after making the call

Tip 2: Provide Critical Information to Searchers

Key preparation points:

• Keep current photos readily available:

Essential information to share:

• Recent conversations and topics they've discussed
• Their maiden name or previous names
• Nicknames family members use
• Common walking routes or regular destinations
• Nearby water sources (pools, ponds, lakes)
• Places from their past they might seek out
• Their current stage in their dementia journey
• Recent behaviors or patterns
• Current medications

Tip 3: Know What to Expect After They're Found

Standard procedures:

• Medical evaluation is typical
• Transportation to hospital via ambulance or police car
• Assessment for any injuries or exposure

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Building Better Local Resources

Not every community has specialized dementia search and rescue teams, but there are ways to improve local capabilities:

Steps to take:

• Contact your local Alzheimer's Association chapter
• Ask about existing specialized search resources
• Inquire about training opportunities for local emergency services
• Advocate for specialized training in your community
• Network with other caregivers to share experiences and resources

Note: If you're in Georgia, specialized dementia search and rescue services are available. Contact your local emergency services or Alzheimer's Association chapter for more information.

The secret to successful holiday celebrations with our dementia care receivers isn't perfect decorations or parties—it's having a peaceful retreat space ready for them when needed.

As caregivers navigating the holiday season with loved ones who have Alzheimer's and other types of dementia, we've learned that intentional planning makes all the difference. The holiday season brings additional activities, decorations, and visitors that can disrupt the routines so vital to our care receivers' well-being. Success requires careful observation, thoughtful preparation, and gradual adaptation of celebrations.

Through our experiences, what we've learned from support groups, and from others on their journeys, we've developed five essential tips to help create positive holiday experiences while maintaining the calm and familiar environment your care receiver needs.

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Takeaways

Tip 1: Preserve Daily Routines

The holidays and routines might share the same number of letters, but that's where their similarities end. While the season pulls us toward special events and gathering, we must remember that routines are the cornerstone of stability for our care receivers. These familiar patterns aren't just habits—they're vital anchors that help our loved ones navigate their days with confidence and security.

Tip 2: Be Prepared With a Calm Retreat Space

In the midst of holiday celebrations, having a sanctuary becomes essential. Think of this space as your loved one's personal haven—a place where the overwhelming stimuli of holiday gatherings can't reach. Just as we all need a quiet moment sometimes, our care receivers often require a calm, familiar space where they can retreat and regroup when festivities become too much.

Tip 3: Set Expectations With Visitors While Also Acknowledging Their Feelings

The holiday season often brings an increase in visitors, each carrying their own expectations and memories of past celebrations. While these visits can be precious opportunities for connection, they require careful management to ensure everyone's comfort—especially our care receivers. Understanding and communicating about the current reality of your loved one's condition helps create more meaningful interactions and minimize uncomfortable situations.

Tip 4: Teach Visitors How To Visit

Creating successful visits is about helping others understand how to connect with your care receiver in their current reality. As their ability to process information changes, the ways others can best interact with them evolves too. 

Tip 5: Introduce Changes Gradually

The magic of holiday decorations and traditions can quickly become overwhelming for someone with dementia. What once brought joy might now cause confusion or distress. This doesn't mean we must abandon all holiday cheer—rather, we need to be thoughtful about how we introduce these changes to our environment. Think of it as slowly turning up the dimmer switch rather than flipping on bright lights all at once.

As caregivers for our loved ones with Alzheimer's and other types of dementia, we've learned eating and drinking become significant challenges. Through our experiences, and what we've learned from support groups and others on their journeys, we've developed seven important tips to help you and your care receiver navigate dining.

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• Episode 13 - Incontinence Overnight here 

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Takeaways

Tip 1: Observe Their Natural Eating Habits

• Observe and record how they naturally eat and drink (e.g., time of day, order, how they cut their food, which hand they use for each utensil).
• Continuously observe, adjust, and share with others who are helping your care receiver with their eating and drinking. 

Tip 2: Utilize Pre-made Meals and Visual Cues

• Leave pre-made meals in easily accessible places (e.g., eye-level in the refrigerator).
• Use visual cues like notes on the refrigerator or preset table settings with a note where the plate will go that tells your care receiver where the meal is.
• Check to make sure they have actually eaten their food and finished what they had to drink so you know if they’re able to understand what to do.

Tip 3: Pre-cut Food, Adjust Portions, Observe How They’re Able to Eat and Drink

• Pre-cut food into manageable pieces.
• Consider converting sandwiches and other foods into finger foods.
• Be aware of changes in hand stability, grip strength, vision, and coordination.
• Some people with dementia diagnoses lose regulation with their appetite. It’s important for us to observe how they’re eating and the portions they’re eating to make sure they’re getting the proper amount of food. 
• Introduce non-breakable drinkware, consider tops or adult sippy cups. 

Tip 4: Prepare for Messier Eating

• Consider using regular bibs or large disposable bibs 
• Place a towel on the chair to catch spills.
• Keep a basket of cleaning supplies (e.g. paper towels, hand wipes, table wipes) handy for quick clean-ups.

Tip 5: Simplify Eating Utensils and Tableware

• Low bowls with a slight rim make it easier to push food onto utensils
• Sporks combine the functions of spoons and forks, so one utensil can be used.
• Grippy placemats keep plates from sliding.

Tip 6: Monitor and Adjust Nutrition

• Watch for unexplained weight loss or gain.
• Consult with doctors if you notice sudden changes.
• If you move your care receiver to a memory care community, develop nutrition plans and weight monitoring processes and stay actively engaged with them. 

Tip 7: Gradually Take Over Feeding and Hydration

• Position yourself closer to them at mealtimes to make assistance easier.
• What begins as prompting them to eat or drink and gradually increases to handing them their utensils and/or putting food on their utensils, showing them their drinking glass becomes modifying their drinking glass to make it easier for them to use, to eventually fully feeding them and controlling their beverages.

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