My gratitude today is for my vet, Dr. Wulforst, at Riverside Vet in Knoxville, TN, for being an amazing vet for Mia.

In March, 2018, the university of Virginia, which is where I went to college became the first number one seed. To lose to a number 16 seed and the March madness, college basketball tournament. If you don't follow sports, just know. That this is bad. Very bad. And I was crushed of course, being a UVA grad.

After watching a Ted talk. UVA is basketball. Coach Tony Bennett decided to use that historic loss to his team's benefit. Over the next year, rather than shying away from talking about the loss, the players and coaches instead talked about it as much as possible. And each time they talked about it, the team talked about what they learned from the loss.

What coach Bennett learned from watching the TEDx talk? Was that when you tell the story about something bad, that's happened. You're not telling the story to change what happened. You're telling the story to change you. When something happens to you, it sits on top of you. Like a rock. And if you never tell the story, it sits on you forever.

But as you begin to tell the story you climb out from under that rock, and eventually you sit up on top The story doesn't change what happened? But the story has the remarkable power to completely change our whole relationship to what happened. Well, it worked for UVA's basketball team. They faced their story, that historic loss in March, 2018. And when the March madness tournament rolled around in 2019, they won the championship.

They climbed out from under the rock of the historic loss and sat on top of it with that championship. So this week think about an adversity you've gone through and face your story. I'm scott colby was say it with gratitude and this has been the daily gratitude minute cheers

Welcome back to the daily gratitude minute. This is Scott Colby. Thank you so much for joining me. I was recently, uh, out on one of my gratitude hikes. I was leading a family. Uh, and for those of you who don't know, I. It's one of many things that I do. I take groups out on private hiking tours in the smoky mountains.

And we were playing the grateful dead. So the grateful deck is my card deck that I created back in 2020, and it's 120 cards consisting of questions to spark meaningful conversations. And. Uh, helped develop deeper connection. So we always play a few rounds of the grateful deck on my gratitude hikes.

And, uh, I was asked to question, uh, from one of the cards and the question Who is always there for you. And how do you feel about them who was always there for you? And how do you feel about them? I mentioned my friend, Lori Heisler, she's somebody that's always there for me. We've known each other for 10 years now.

Uh, she's been there for the good and the bat, right. She, she, uh, uh, you know, There's something where I'm struggling in my business. She's there lends and ear and helps talk me through challenges that I'm having. When I lost my cat Nomar, she was right there. Um, helping me make that decision to, to say goodbye.

Definitely a great, uh, to have her around for such a. A tough time as saying goodbye to a pet. Um, she's there for the winds too. She reminds me to celebrate the good that I've done in my business or in my life. Uh, so it's nice to have that reminder. She's also an adventure friend, so we like to go out and do fun things together. She's one of those friends that I have fun doing things with.

No matter what we're doing, it's just easy to be around here. I can be my. Complete self around here. So those are the reasons I mentioned, Lori, somebody that's always there for me. And, and, and why. Uh, but I would encourage you to think of that question. You're in your Who's that person that's always there for you and why, and I want you to think about taking a step further and telling that person, maybe write them a handwritten

Maybe you have a phone call with them, maybe if they're, if they live in the same. You know, areas you can have, uh, you know, just, uh, a meal, you know, got to lunch dinner. A cup of coffee and tell them. What they mean to you and why that's, why they're important to you. So it could definitely increase your bond and your connection with that person and watch that.

Relationship grow. So, uh, hope that helps try it. If you do, do something like that, I would love to hear how it goes. You can find me on Instagram at Scott Colby and send me a DM. There would love to connect with you there. Otherwise, thank you so much for joining me. I'm scott colby with say it with gratitude and this has been your daily gratitude minute cheers

Welcome back to the daily gratitude minute. This is Scott Colby with say it with gratitude. My tip for you today is to think about the bad things in your life. Now, I know that may sound weird. We're talking about gratitude, right? Shouldn't we be focusing on the good. And yes, you do want to focus on the good in your

But that doesn't mean you need to ignore the bad. That would be disingenuous. Right? We've all had negative things happen to us. We've all had challenges. We've had to go through. But I want you to remember the bad things.

And think about the good that has come from the bad things in your life. So what are some challenging obstacles that you've overcome? I mean, if you're here listening, you've probably overcome several obstacles in your life. Right. So, what did those challenges or the bad things or the failures? What did they teach you?

How did you grow from And that way you're not ignoring But you're learning from the bad and growing from those things. So think about the good that has come from bad things that have happened in your I'm scott colby with say it with gratitude and this has been the daily gratitude minute cheers

Welcome back to the daily gratitude minute. This is Scott Colby, helping them have a good day. I want to ask you a question. Are you a fiber? Now you may not know what that word means and that's okay. So it's spelled P H U B B E R. Actually. Didn't know what it meant until a few weeks ago when I was updating.

My keynote and I was doing some research. So the word fiber is a combination of the words, phone and snubber, and it's somebody who ignores the person they're with and kids attention to their cell phone. So I'm going to ask the question again. Are you a Farber? Do you ignore the person that you are with sometimes and give attention to your cell phone?

I do. I admit it. I don't want to do this, but it comes from having some addiction to my cell phone. It's always on me. And I don't always give attention to the person in front of me. Sometimes I'm scrolling on my phone. The problem with that is the person that's being fatigued. Feels rejected. They feel excluded. They feel like they're not important.

So when you do pay attention to the person. In front of you.

That's a sign of gratitude. That's showing that person that you care about them, that you value what they have to say, that you care about your relationship with them. So my challenge to you today. Is to find some time in your day. To connect with somebody in person. But don't have your phone on you. I don't even want it in your pocket.

I don't want it on you when you're physically detached from your phone. It's a little bit uncomfortable. But it will in the long run make you feel better and it will make you more connected to the. The people in front of you and that's what matters that human connection so hope you found value in this go out and connect with somebody leave that phone behind i'm scott colby with say it with gratitude and this has been the daily gratitude minute cheers

Welcome back to the daily gratitude minute. This is Scott Colby. Thank you so much for being here. I want to tell you about a recording that I've been listening to every day for the last 13 days, I've listened to it 13 days in a row. And my plan is to listen to it every day in October. So that's 31 straight days. It's called the strangest secret by Earl Nightingale. You can find the recording, several different recordings.

Um, on YouTube. Now, the message is a little bit outdated. However, the core idea behind the message is true to this day. And as core message is we become what we think about. We become what we think about. And I want to kind of share with you an analogy that he talks about on this recording. He says, suppose a farmer has some land.

And it's good fertile land. The land gives the farmer a choice. He may plant in that land, whatever he chooses. The land doesn't care. It's up to the farmer to make the decision. Now he wants to compare the land to the human mind because. With the land, just like the mine doesn't care. What you plant in it.

It will return what you plant, but it doesn't care what you plant. So he says, let's say the farmer has two seeds in his hand. One is a seed of corn. The other is night shade. A deadly poison. He digs two little holes in the earth and he plants both seeds, one corn and the other night shade. He covers up the holes, waters and takes care of the land and what will happen.

And variably the land will return what was planted. So remember the land doesn't care, it will return poison in just as wonderful abundance as it will corn. So up comes two plants, one corn. One poison. He says the human mind is far more fertile, far more incredible and mysterious than the land, but it works the same way.

It doesn't care. What we plant success or failure, a concrete worthwhile goal, or confusion, misunderstanding, fear, anxiety, and so on. But what we plant must return to us. So what he's saying, there is, again, we are what we think about. So if you're thinking. Negative things. If you have anxiety, if you're always complaining and just thinking about things that are going wrong in your life, that's what you will get more of. However, if you were grateful and optimistic and seeing the good in things and putting positive thoughts in your head,

You will get more of that. So whatever we put in our heads, we will get more of whatever we plant in our minds. That's what will come to us. So hope you like this little tip. You can look up the complete audio, the strangest secret by Earl Nightingale. Again you can find different recordings on youtube i'm scott colby with say it with gratitude and this has been your daily gratitude minute cheers

Hello? Hello. Welcome back to the daily gratitude minute. This is Scott Colby. Thank you so much for being here.

I want to give a suggestion to you. I talk a lot about unplugging and connecting with other people. And, uh, unfortunately we're in front of our screens most of the time, whether we're working on our computer or just, we've got our phone tied to us, right. Almost tethered. Uh, and we're often looking at her phone, even when we're in the company of other people.

Uh, one thing that I love about my workout group, I work out with a group of guys on a Monday, Tuesday and Thursday mornings at 5 45, or excuse me at five 30. We work out outdoors and then Saturday morning at seven in the morning. We don't use our phones. Right. We're, we're committed to give it our best effort working out, but we're also having fellowship. So we're connecting with it with each other and it's like the one time.

During my day that I don't use my phone. Um, and I completely present with what I'm doing. So I wish I didn't use my phone more. Um, um, admit that I'm addicted to it as are millions of people. But my suggestion to you find a time during your day and do this every day. If you can. To just leave your phone behind whether you just leave it at home or leave it in the car.

Um, and just connect with at least one other person without your phone. Maybe you're having a meal together. Maybe you're doing a workout together. Maybe we're just having coffee and conversation. Leave that foam behind. So you're not even tempted to use it and you can be fully present and really connect with that other person.

When you listen to the other person, when you're having a conversation, that's a sign of gratitude. It's a sign that you value them and you care about them. And that's what we want as human beings. So that's my message. I'm going to leave for you today. Hope that helps you connect more with somebody in your life and have a deeper friendship. Um i'm scott colby with sate with gratitude and this has been the daily gratitude minute cheers

Welcome back to the daily gratitude minute. This is Scott Colby from St with the gratitude. And, you know, recently one of my friends and fitness clients purchased the grateful deck. So for those of you that aren't familiar, the grateful deck is a deck of cards that I produced in the summer of 2020.

Each card has a question on it. And the questions are designed to start meaningful conversations, to help us remember the good in our lives. So it's really designed to help you connect with somebody else. And so she wrote to me, after she bought the deck with three teenage children. We often struggle to have positive conversations too often. All of the discussion is negative motivated, motivated by school drama, frustration between siblings and reminders from parents about the things the kids need to do. So she bought the grateful deck in order to start more positive, meaningful conversations.

Which is amazing to me. I replied back and told her. Hey, this is exactly. Y I wanted to create the grateful deck to help start and cultivate. Family connections in conversation. So I'm excited to hear how it goes. For her and her family and hope it makes a difference. Um, so just to give you a sample, one of the questions in the grateful deck.

Uh, one of my favorites is, um, What memory always makes you smile. What memory always makes you smile. So when you hear that question, you automatically are thinking of the good things in your life. Things that make you happy. A good follow-up question. After you name something that makes you smile, a memory, um, you can ask why, why does this memory make you smile? So.

Just an example of, uh, the types of questions in the grateful deck. Uh, if you want a, um, free downloadable version of the grateful deck, so where you can see all 120 questions. You can go to gratitude, toolkit.com. And download. All 120 questions of the grateful deck and use them. However, you'd like.

Um, hope this helps you have a more productive and meaningful conversations. With your loved ones i'm scott colby from Saint with gratitude and this has been the daily gratitude minute cheers

Welcome back to the daily gratitude minute. This is Scott. Thank you so much for joining me. You know, keeping a gratitude journal. First thing in the morning is a great way to start your day. But for many of us, we tend to just go through the motions. Our journal prompts us to answer the question. What are three things you're grateful for today?

My spouse, my job and my cat. There I'm done. Well, it's not enough just to write down what you're grateful For your life to change and for you to be happier because you're living in a state of gratitude. You need to take things one step further. Answer the question. Why. Why are you grateful for your spouse?

Why are you grateful for your job? Why are you grateful for your cat? So this week, take your gratitude deeper when you're writing in your journal. Answer the question. Why for each, what you put in your journal? And imagine what your life would look like without these things. Or these people in your life.

Write this down. Once you start doing this. You'll really feel the gratitude. And you'll be living in gratitude. I'm scott colby for say it with gratitude and this has been the daily gratitude minute Cheers.

Hey, Scott Colby here back with another episode of the daily gratitude minute. Had a quick question for you. It might sound funny, but hear me out. Do you ever talk to yourself? You know, I talk often about having meaningful conversations with other people, so you can connect on a deeper level. But what about talking to yourself?

I'm talking about reflecting in going deep within. So, if you're open to this, here are five questions that may prompt deeper self-reflection, which I think is very important to do, but often we don't take time to step back and consider these questions. Here they are. Number one. What are you looking forward to this week?

Number two. What do you need to let go of, to feel happy? Number three, what are five things you love about yourself? Number four. What can you do to treat yourself this week? And number five. Where will you go to relax and recharge? Now these questions would be great. Journal prompts. You don't have to do them all at once. Consider just taking one of these questions.

Sitting by yourself where it's quiet in answering them. Or this one question in a journal. I'm scott colby with say it with gratitude and this has been the daily gratitude minute cheers