June 19, 2025

The Dismissive Avoidant Patterns Around Sex That Change EVERYTHING

1 hour 4 minutes

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Why do dismissive avoidant partners sometimes pull away after intimacy—or seem disconnected during it? If you've ever felt confused, hurt, or triggered in these moments, you're not alone. This episode is here to bring you clarity, compassion, and a path forward.

In this powerful and revealing conversation, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike delve into the hidden emotional patterns behind the dismissive avoidant attachment style and sex. Drawing from neuroscience, real client stories, and lived experience, they unpack how avoidant behaviors form—and what it takes to build meaningful intimacy, trust, and long-term desire.

You’ll learn:

✅ Why DAs often crave physical intimacy early on—only to pull away later

✅ The four pillars of connection and how sex fits into healthy relationships

✅ The difference between lust and love—and why both matter

✅ How neurochemicals like oxytocin and vasopressin shape bonding for men and women

✅ What to do if you've “had sex too early” and want to shift your dynamic

✅ How to build intimacy through intellectual and emotional connection

✅ The real reason many DAs avoid eye contact during sex

✅ How to communicate sexual needs without triggering shutdowns

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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