The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate was joined by Dr. Charlotte Fox Weber to talk about boundaries, relationships, and separation.

About the episode:

This episode focuses on what we mean by boundaries and explores how we can use them in the context of relationships, separation, and divorce.  

 About our guests:

Charlotte is a psychotherapist and writer. She co-founded ‘Examined Life’ and is the founding head of ‘The School of Life Psychotherapy’. She grew up in Connecticut and Paris and now lives in London with her husband and two young children and ‘Tell Me What You Want’ is her first book. She's writing her second book about why we hold onto hurtful relationships.

She is registered and accredited by the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) and a registered member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (MBACP). 

Charlotte founded The School of Life Psychotherapy in 2015, and now works in private practice. She is also a trustee on the board of the Josef and Anni Albers Foundation and works with Le Korsa, running educational programs with women in Senegal. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#EmotionalJourney

In this episode, Kate was joined by Zoë Desmond and Rebecca Cox to talk about their brand new book ‘How to be a happy single parent’.

About the episode:

They start the episode by talking about why Zoë created Frolo and how she got to know Rebecca in the process. Zoë and Rebecca discuss their stories of becoming single parents and the challenges associated with raising children on your own. They explore their new book as well as some of the chapters, including those that focus on boundaries, the emotional side, and what it means to be a single parent

About our guests:

Rebecca Cox is a single mother and founder of The Single Mother Edit. She is a journalist whose writing has been published by Elle, Glamour, Country & Town House, Vogue.com and more. Her pieces on single motherhood have been featured in publications, including The Evening Standard, Grazia and Harper's Bazaar.

Zoë Desmond is a single mum and the Founder of Frolo, the award-winning app and community for single parents. Both Zoe and Rebecca are the author’s of the brand new book, ‘How to be a happy single parent’.

You can buy a copy of  ‘How to be a happy single parent’ by clicking on the link.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

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In this episode, Kate is joined by Relationship & Family Coach, Nichole Farrow to discuss professional help during a separation or divorce.

About the episode:

In this episode, Kate and Nichole look at the different professionals who can help you navigate a separation. They discuss the various organisations and charities in this space as well as which parts of the process you can do yourself. Nichole explains how to access support, and where to find free information and low-cost options to help if you're on a budget.

About our guests:

Nichole Farrow is a relationship and family coach. Her distinctive blueprint for fostering thriving relationships and families is shaped by her own journey, as well as a profound grasp of human psychology and relationship dynamics. She is an expert in guiding complex family dynamics and divorce cases to a harmonious outcome.

Nichole is a certified Robbins Madanes coach, NLP practitioner, and Resolution member, so she is well-placed in guiding complex family and divorce matters to a harmonious outcome. She is one of the UK's leading mindset coaches, specialising in supporting divorcing parents and blended families, and is regularly featured across the media, with a monthly slot on BBC Radio 5 Live.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#EmotionalJourney

In this episode, Kate is joined by Liz Harrington to discuss EFT coaching and how it can help in the context of divorce or separation.

About the episode:

In this episode, Kate and Liz explore what EFT is and how it can help separating couples navigate their divorce and negotiate through the emotional trauma which a divorce or separation can cause.

About our guests:

Liz has over 10 years of experience as an EFT Coach. EFT coaching is one of the therapeutic ways you can manage the emotional journey of a divorce or separation. 

Liz chose to specialise in the divorce and financial space following her own divorce, which started off amicable but then went on to be very toxic with threats over finances which affected not just her, but her children too.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

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In this episode, Kate is joined by The Midlife Mentors, Claire and James Davis, to discuss building self-confidence post-separation & divorce.

About the episode:

Kate, Claire and James begin the episode by discussing their own journeys and how it led to the creation of 'The Midlife Mentors', as well as '38 Degrees North'. They discuss building self-confidence after a divorce or separation, nutrition and its impact on confidence, the role of friends and family and much more.

About our guests:

Claire and James Davis are the husband-and-wife team behind the multi-award-winning wellbeing company 38 Degrees North and the thriving midlife coaching business, The Midlife Mentors. The couple have a successful midlife health podcast; The Midlife and their passion is helping ‘midlifers’ achieve the body, mind, and lifestyle they deserve.

Using their backgrounds and qualifications in psychology, coaching, hormones, nutrition, personal training, stress management, menopause and NLP, their evidence-based approach empowers individuals with the practical tools and knowledge they need to make positive lifestyle changes.

Claire & James are incredibly passionate about offering an anti-fad approach to the health and wellness narrative. You’ll find no fancy diets or pseudo-science - just authentic, balanced information based on years of professional and personal experience.

They also work with corporations providing coaching and wellness programmes for individuals and teams and are regular media commentators. They have featured in The New York Times, The Daily Telegraph, The Sunday Times, The Observer, The Daily Mail, Conde Nast Traveller, The Evening Standard and more.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#LifeAfterDivorce

In this episode, Kate is joined by Mustafa Faruqi from Tesco, James Hayhurst, founder of The Positive Parenting Alliance and The Parents Promise and Jimi Odel from OneplusOne to discuss separation and the workplace.

About the episode:

Kate, Mustafa, James, and Jimi begin by looking at what employers can do to support their employees during a separation, especially in the wake of the movement to ‘bring your whole self to work’. Jimi and Mustafa touch on how employees can tell work about a separation and how managers can navigate these conversations. They explore the different policies and practices that might be in place, as well as how employers can create a culture that opens communication about life events which may impact work performance or work patterns. This is a brilliant episode for those going through a separation and people more generally, as it gives great tips about talking to and supporting colleagues.

You can find OnePlusOne's tips for employers and the OLPAC approach by following this link. For more information and to sign up for and download The Parents Promise HR initiative resources, click here.

About our guests:

Mustafa Faruqi is Head of Reward and Workplace Relations at Tesco. Tesco, a leading multinational retailer with over 330,000 employees, is among the major employers committed to a new initiative to support staff going through separation. Before this, he worked for several prominent companies in the private and public sectors, including British Airways, Heathrow Airport and Network Rail. His career in human resources has specialised in negotiating with trade unions, implementing workplace change, developing HR policies and managing employee casework, including employment tribunals.

Jimi Odell is the content manager at OnePlusOne, a relationship support charity with more than fifty years of experience in creating evidence-based early intervention resources to help people build and maintain healthy relationships. 

James Hayhurst is the founder of The Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of The Parents Promise.  He set up The Positive Parenting Alliance, having seen up close the many issues in the family courts and the scale and numbers of children affected. In May 2021, the Parents Promise was launched after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations. 

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#EmotionalJourney

In this episode, Kate is joined by Daniel Copley from Zoopla and Shreepali Chauhan-Tufail from amicable to talk about property and divorce.

About the episode:

Throughout the episode, Kate, Dan and Shreepali cover a wide range of topics including living together post-separation; how to value property for divorce; how to obtain financial protection; and alternative living arrangements post-divorce.

About our guests:

Zoopla is a property portal website and app and Daniel (Dan) is a consumer expert at Zoopla. Dan is an editor with over 10 years of experience in the property, lifestyle and fashion sectors. Having worked for brands such as M&S and Uber – and contributed to publications such as The Telegraph and GQ – Daniel champions readers’ interests in various subject areas. 

Shreepali is a Divorce Specialist at amicable helping couples navigate the emotional and legal aspects of relationship breakdown. Shreepali is a former Solicitor with over 20 years of experience in Dispute Resolution, Family and Commercial law. Her personable approach enables her to work empathetically applying emotional support with a balanced style allowing couples to separate in a fairer, kinder more amicable way

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

#Finances

In this episode, Kate is joined by Joshua Rozenberg and David Hodson to discuss whether 50/50 is a fair way to divide money and property during a divorce or separation.

 About the episode:

In April 2023, the Law Commission of England and Wales launched a review of the laws determining how finances are divided between couples when they divorce or end a civil partnership. Kate, Joshua and David explore ‘fairness’ and whether 50/50 is consistently fair in the Law Commission's Review of rules around how money and property should be divided. They look at the current law and the potential reforms being considered. They discuss the 'sharing principle', whether 50/50 should be the default for how finances are divided between couples and how the court deals with 'needs' cases.

About our guests:

Joshua Rozenberg KC (hon) is Britain's most experienced full-time legal commentator. He is the only journalist to have been appointed as Queen's Counsel honoris causa. He is an honorary Master of the Bench of Gray's Inn and a non-executive board member of the Law Commission. His most recent book is Enemies of the People? How Judges Shape Society.  After taking a law degree at Oxford, he trained as a solicitor, qualifying in 1976. Since 2008, he has written for the Law Society Gazette, the Guardian and The Critic magazine. Joshua was the BBC's legal correspondent for 15 years before moving in 2000 to The Daily Telegraph. After resigning as legal editor in the summer of 2007 he continued to write a weekly column until the end of 2008. Joshua returned to the BBC in 2010 to present the Radio 4 series Law in Action. In 2012, he was included by The Times in its independently-judged list of the UK's 100 most influential lawyers, the only journalist to feature. Joshua is known for his independence, authority, and ability to explain complicated legal issues with simplicity, clarity, and wit. He appears regularly on Sky News, BBC and other news networks worldwide.

Prof David Hodson OBE KC(Hons) MCIArb is a co-founder partner of The International Family Law Group, which works with international families and their children. He is an English solicitor, mediator, arbitrator, Australian (NSW) solicitor and a deputy (part-time) family court judge at the Central Family Court in London and Western Circuit. He is a member of the English Law Society Family Law Committee, a Fellow of the International Academy of Family Lawyers, a member of LawAsia, the Family Law Section of the Law Council of Australia and a similar contributor to many family law organisations worldwide. He was awarded the OBE for services to international family law.  He was appointed the (now) KC (Hons) in March 2022 by virtue of making a significant impact on the law of England and Wales.  He is the editor and primary author of the LexisNexis textbook ‘The International Family Law Practice’ (6th ed).  He is a Visiting Professor at the University of Law and an Honorary Professor of Law at Leicester University.

More resources:

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In this episode, Kate is joined by Christina McGhee, an internationally recognised divorce parenting expert, speaker, and author.

About the episode:

Kate begins this episode by exploring the emotional journey of children when their parents separate. Christina explains how emotions may vary between children and when to seek professional help, particularly with sadness and anger. They discuss how to talk to children about separation and the importance of using the word ‘divorce’. Christina gives some great tips on how to reply to questions your children might have, especially when you're not sure how to respond.

About our guests:

With over 25 years of experience, Christina McGhee has been featured across television, radio and podcasts including The Times, Channel 4 and the BBC.

Christina's core principles provide valuable guidance to navigate the challenges of parenting apart, irrespective of the level of amicability between the parents involved.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

Try the amicable co-parenting app free for three months. Share calendars, track expenses and communicate clearly.
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#Coparenting

In this episode, Kate is joined by Jack Gillis from the single-parent charity, Gingerbread, to discuss child maintenance.

About the episode:

Kate and Jack begin the episode by looking at the basics of child maintenance, including what it is and when you might be expected to pay. Jack explains the difference between private arrangements and going through the child maintenance service, or CMS. They explore the pros and cons of private arrangements and the enforcement powers of the CMS if you’re the receiving parent and you aren’t being paid. They also touch on the benefits available for single parents and how to renegotiate arrangements if circumstances change, such as a one parent losing a job.

About our guests:

Jack is the Advice Service Manager at Gingerbread and is responsible for the single parents’ helpline and webchat service. Gingerbread has supported and championed single parents since 1918. They’ve changed laws, influenced government and challenged stigma and stereotypes. Their expert advice and information help tens of thousands of single parents every year. 

Gingerbread has a wealth of knowledge on child maintenance so remember to get in touch with them if you need more support. 

How to contact Gingerbread:

• Gingerbread's helpline - 0808 802 0925
• Gingerbread website
• Advice and support services

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

Try the amicable co-parenting app free for three months. Share calendars, track expenses and communicate clearly.
iPhone: Redeem your three months free via this link
Android: Download the app and create an account. At the paywall, choose your payment method, select 'Redeem code' and enter DIVORCEPODCAST.

#Coparenting